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well from my knowledge, you're using the bare bones minimum ram needed to even run windows 7. i am assuming you are running 32 bit so windows 7 should be 32 bit. upgrade your ram to 4gig. this will probably be the easy fix to your problem. if you don't want to spend money, backup and reformat your h/d. if you don't want to do that, run "msconfig" and get rid of the programs that may be running in the background which you don't need. the last idea can be time consuming if you don't know what to look for or what each program does. hope this helps. personally, i would front the money to upgrade the ram. like i said, windows 7 itself needs about 1 gig. this doesn't include all the other programs you are running that you may not even know about. a good basic indicator to find out your cpu usage is hitting control/alt/delete at the same time to get in to your tasks manager. it gives you some information in what areas are eating up your resources. there are good free programs out there too that allow you to manage your ram but you hardly even have any ram :)you can also always downgrade to windows xp. it will help, but it wont get to the root of your problem. you can also consider putting a linux os on there instead of windows. i never hear of that brand before. obviously it's some sort of a cheap netbook so i don't even know what upgradable ram you can even put in there. maybe 2 gig.

hmmmm don't you have a gun or something? next time they get out, lemme know. i would like to shoot a video...

i created fake account yesterday to see what the registration process is like and it doesn't include a captcha. there are programs out there now like xrumer that is easy to post spam on forums. they are getting more and more popular.i would also suggest trying to delete ip's, but programs like xrumer allows a user to hide behind proxies and switches between themso you were the one who deleted all the spam then i know it takes longer to delete spam and limit a users access than it does to report the spam. since most mods don't log on frequently anymore, it's gotta be a *BLEEP*.i would rather see new user registrations closed right now since opaque isn't taking precautions to the spam than see the new user spam right noweven people's status messages are getting spammed now. it's getting worse.

well i notified opaque about the spam problem here a few days ago and nothing has been done. i'm doing my best to report them all but i think i'm missing a few.i think a mod should suggest to opaque that he needs a captcha during the registration processthis is getting ridiculous. i have made it a point to log in more regularly to report the spam so legitimate posts don't get swept away, never to be seen. where the hell are the moderators?!? one logged in in the wee hours yesterday to delete the reported posts, but none today! come on guys!

what do you love about it?

yup. i can see it. did you make sure your ip isn't blocked? clear your cookies and cache? is it hosted on xisto? write a support ticket and make sure your ip isn't blocked from the server itself.good luck bud

thanks for the post man. what you said is so true. to hear real life experiences is a lot better than telling them to "keep your chin up" or "it will be ok".in your situation though, i don't think it was a waste of time. i think your past helped you to be where you are now....even through all the hurt. there is something said for not giving up. some people who have gotten out of relationships don't have it in them to trust again and enter in to a new one. their self esteem is broken even if they did nothing wrong and didn't have to do with them.i have been in the relationships in the past that have ended. i broke two of them off myself and the second one, SHE broke it off. each one was a sad ending but i can't say they were a waste because each one prepared me for the next one and i am a better person because of all of them.i can't say i am perfect though or understand women fully yet. they are still a strange breed but it's been a fascinating ride trying to understand them, myself, and life in general. i also know a piece of me will always be with them as a piece of them will always be with me.thanks again for posting about your experiences. sometimes i feel alone trying to be empathetic around here. it's important for others to realize that they aren't alone and that other people have experienced the same feelings even if they didn't experience the same things. congrats on your 10 years of marriage. i am sure it will last your lifetime!even in fairy tales, people had to go through tremendous hardships before the fairy tale became a reality. life isn't supposed to be easy. if it was meant to be easy, what would be the purpose of living? absolutely none. each experience prepares us for our next one and in the end, we are better people.

welcome back. why didn't you use your old account? you may have been able to transfer some those posts in to credits. oh well. the forum is a little dead right now, but hopefully it will pick back up. don't let that keep you from posting. we need all the activity we can get around here right now.again, welcome back!

haha you are too funny bani. i think technically you are correct if you want to twist the definition. for the most part though, owning a pet is not slavery at all. what you are basically saying is that having kids is slavery too until they are free to do what they want after 18 years. i agree 100%! in most of the united states, it is legal to hit and run a cat and ILLegal to hit and run a dog. dogs have more rights over cats. therefore, why shouldn't humans have more rights over dogs? in fact, under the law, we do! i think all living beings have their own purpose, but an animals purpose compared to a human's purpose is different. i agree for the most part. you're talking deep now. basically though, morals are generally learned from what is accepted by society. the proof is in the other thread where we are discussing the death penalty. one way we learn what is generally accepted is through books. i think if people looked inside themselves to truely know themselves and distinguish what is right from wrong, the world would be a better place. you are right. there are some things that the bible and other books can never teach which pretty much makes the bible incomplete for anyone to follow word for word. who would want to murder a cute puppy?!? shame on them! actually, if i was in a country that served dog, i would probably try it just to say i tried it. it reminds me of an old television series though called "china beach". someone wanted to buy a puppy and said they needed a couple minutes before they can take it. they came back to pick up their puppy and it was in a brown paper back already butchered. i know i commented on this thread about if atheism is a religion. we do use "religiously" as an adverb to describe someone who is passionate about doing something. i still don't think atheism is a religion only because it's a belief NOT to believe and there are no rules governing that belief for it to be a strong belief. all an athiest is is someone who is limiting themselves to believe in something. how can limiting beliefs be considered a religion??? personally, i don't know why anyone who isn't religious would want to label themselves as atheist. they don't like to consider themselves as followers of any one religion but would group themselves together with a label? that is religious-like or cult like if they don't want to follow the rules of the majority. almost to the extreme of anarchy thinking. if they are unable to follow natural law? they wouldn't be suspeptable to man made laws either(for those who will label themselves atheist) since they are arguing that they don't believe in something that not only can't be proven, but going against the general belief within their own society. personally, i am not religious, but i would rather be living in the middle of a 99% christian society rather than a 99% atheist society ANY DAY! to me, there is a HUGE difference between someone who just doesn't believe in certain things, and someone who would label themselves an atheist.

i like mahesh's list because i absolutely LOVE psychological thrillers! i'm glad he included the hangover in his list too. that is my #1 favorite comedy. i never laughed as much during any movie than i did watching the hangover.as far as a personal list, there are just way too many good movies to name.i did watch "lonesome dove" the other day. it was a made for t.v. movie back in the late 80's. it was an EXCELLENT movie. it starred robert duval, tommy lee jones, and danny glover. i am surprised i never watched it before now. it was long though. something like 6 hours.

are they still giving tax credits if you purchase an electric car in the u.s.? there was a sweet deal going on for those things a few years back.needless to say, i guess they are good for some and not good for others. i wouldn't be in one anytime soon though. i think it's just too inconvenient to change right now. i think the major drawback to them is their price. are they still 50% higher in price than another comparable vehicle? the prices a few years back were just plain ridiculous. also, where i live right now, i wouldn't even know where to go for a public charger and i definately wouldn't be able to charge it at the apartment complex i live at.all in all, i don't think electric cars are worth it. we still have a long way to go.with that said, i might as well be driving an electric car. my alternator is out so my battery doesn't recharge. instead of fixing up this piece of crap truck, i decided to just recharge my battery every time it's low with a cheap $25 battery charger i bought for walmart. i've only lived in the midwest for 6 years and i am turning in to something worse than a "redneck" hahaha

you're pretty screwed here. i don't know what to say really. this is a very delicate and complicated situation. you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. i too am very loyal to family and friends and i am just going to come right out and say this. screw you're brothers company. they don't offer the same loyalty as you have been offering them. normally, i would have said leave the company, don't look back, and don't accept this other job that competes with your brother. but since your brother insists this is business, take the other job, go after the accounts, and tell him it's like he said. just business.if you do this though, he may eat his words and whine about how what he did was business and what you did was personal. you may lose your relationship with your brother so think long and hard before you decide if it's worth the risk or not. either way, i would leave your brothers company for good by your own choice. not theirs. if they need you again, tell them NO.if it was me and my brother told me straight up he didn't want me to take the job after letting me go after all my dedication, i would offer him an option. pay me a portion of the money you'd lose if i take the job with the competitor, or take the job with the competitor. it's really that simple. give HIM the choice so that you can't be blamed for being unloyal.there is obviously two other options here. find work in another industry if that is possible, or start your own division. work for yourself.your brother is semi right though. it IS business and going against the gm would undermine his authority. why hire a gm if a gm isn't allowed to do his job? on the other hand, your brother doesn't sound like he has the family loyalty you do or the business sense to undermine a gm when a gm is making wrong decisions. something DOES smell fishy to me. i really don't know your specific business relationship to comment on it but i am sure there is more to this than meets the eye. i also feel you left out some details.also, there are some moral and ethics issues related to this situation besides loyalty issues. since your brother is president, can i assume this is a corporation? if so, is it publically traded? were you ever on the board? usually when one works for a company, there is an unwritten rule of confidentiality even if no confidentiality agreements were signed which means what you learned from the company and how it does it's business stays within the business.i really don't know how this will play out. you have a tough decision. in any case, i know 1 thing. DON'T work for your brother again. be brothers. don't work together. if worse comes to worse though, look after yourself. you've earned that much.

sheepdog- i'm sorry but i suggest highly you research things before you talk about certain things. you're making assuptions about google and the way they do businesses and you don't really have a clue how everything works. privacy is #1 with google. this is shown in this article here. i can tell you a thing or two about hotmail. it's funny you trust them as a service provider over google. i mean, any service provider can read your mail. the fact is though, they never do. what they DO do is they use the content from your emails to display relevant ads. they do this with searches too. what do you see on the left had side of google every time you search for something? relevant ads. it's the same way they display ads on your personal site. you use adsense. i've seen it. google will display relevant ads per your own content. lets drop the b.s. rumors how google is reading peoples emails. that is the most ridiculous thing i ever heard. and even if they were....what on god's green earth makes you think microsoft isn't reading your emails or doing a lot more harm than google will ever do? i see so much paranoia from people who don't know any better. any little rumor can set the naive in to a panic attack. truth is, it's their own unwillingness to change that is dangerous than sticking with what they think they know is safer. it's funny to me because it's like i am back in the year 2000 now debating whether buying something online is safe

that didn't answer my question. a lot of wordpress themes include a newsfeed. if yours doesn't, then it's not hard to do. after you create an rss feed, you take a script that can not only grab the content off that feed but is also able to post it on a seperate page or even website. you have php scripts that you can use to do this that are already coded. you don't have to code anything. i showed you an example of pulling a newsfeed and posting it. the difference between my example and what i think you are asking for is mine is embedded in the sidebars where you want yours embedded in the content area with more content from the newsfeed and for your news page. when you make a script to do this, there is no limitation where you put the script.i'll make a sample page and see if it's what you are looking for...ok. done creating a sample page. it's "onlinecheapo***DOT***com/news***DOT***html" as you can see, i can keep my sidebars the same and implement the script in the body of the page. the script is the exact same script running on the right side of the page with the only difference being that i changed the settings to add more news per my rss feed. you can see where it is is taken from if you go to my blog and click the rss feed button at the bottom of the page.now if this is not what you are looking for, please let me know. i am done trying to figure it out if this isn't what you are looking for. the only difference that i can tell is that the content is being grabbed from an rss feed rather than the database where word press posts are stored.

if not all content is required, then why not extract the information from your rss feed rather than individual posts and pages? i saw your post when you first posted and still not really sure what you want to accomplish except you want a news page. i am assuming you what to extract your posts and put them on your news page?take a look at my website "onlinecheapo.com" in my sidebars i have extracted information from my posts through my newsfeed on wordpress. once i make a post in wordpress which will affect my main wordpress page and the specific page the post is on, it will, my main page will automatically update to include the new posts. i think i have it set to show about 100 characters since it's in the sidebars. this can be changed ofcourse. if this is something you were looking for, let me know.

well i have to disagree with the above post 100%. i didn't see any long winded description first of all. in fact, it wasn't long enough to get the whole story. since this situation didn't involve marriage, but just a relationship where two people loved eachother, i don't know why one would compare marriage to it even if she had the thoughts of wanting to marry.one thing i disagree on the most is the "waste of time". i don't think any relationship or experience in this world is a waste of time. how can learning experiences be a waste of time? and wasting ones life pondering? how is one supposed to even learn anything if they don't ponder life....the good AND the bad?burberry8- you can't think of this as a waste of time or a waste of your life. you are going to learn and grow from it just like others. you say your situation is unique. i can understand it. you are tired of being there for others and just want to be taken care of for once. this feeling you have though can only lead to one thing. bitterness.in your situation now, i would like to quote someone who has influenced my life and died recently.... "Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out". it's important to understand what this means and how to make the best of the way things turn out.people come in and out of our lives for different reasons. some come in quickly and leave quickly. some come in for a while and leave after a while. some come in for a very long time, and then leave. from my understanding of life and people, there is always a purpose for it. none of it is selfish though. what i mean by selfish is our wants in life....which become stronger the longer we aren't getting what we want which turn to bitterness and depression and feeling sorry for ourselves and it creates thoughts of why we are even living in the first place.maybe the purpose of this relationship you had was to just show you something in life you were always missing. giving you a taste of something to let you know it's out there. believe me it is. this man showed it to you.....but most importantly, there is someone else or other people that will ultimately fulfill you more long term. i say other people because maybe it's not anyone ONE person.i have seen so many people in relationships trying to chase down a dream of feeling loved or wanting someone to take care of them....and they fail. no one person in life can offer anyone complete happiness and love. oh, it's easy to find it as you have, but usually it's more short term than long term because there is more to life than being in a relationship or eventually getting married.so my suggestion to you is to know who you are. concentrate on what you have to offer this world and the people in it. concentrate on your natural abilities that leave you misunderstood sometimes. it's ok to be weak while hiding behind a mask trying to be strong, but don't ever be afraid to ask for help and support. you can feel alone, but the truth is, we are never alone.you say you are new to this country? what country? the users here are from many countries also, if you don't have any friends yet, don't fret, you WILL. in the meantime, why don't you start posting more here? i have met many people here and there are some good ones to get to know even though the forum is a little dead right now.are you an animal lover? get a dog or a cat if you are. they are GREAT for healing. don't worry about working right now unless money is tight. if it is, then you will need to push yourself to try to look for work. ANY work. anything to help keep your mind off things. you are used to being there for others? go out and look around where you can volunteer your time until you can get back on your feet. helping people can be VERY rewarding and there is no easier way to do that than volunteering your time to help others wether it's at a shelter or soup kitchen or somewhere else. it's also important to see how other people less fortunate are living. by your comment "god help me", you may may religious? so pick yourself up and go to church services whatever your religion is. i am not too religious myself but i do that churches or temples etc can offer something to people to help find their way sometimes. also, if you're going to ask for god's help, make damn sure you allow yourself to listen to him!one thing i used to like to do when i was depressed was sit outside alone where nobody can see me. i would open my ears and senses to nature. smell the roses. hear the birds sing. i loved the night and would stare at the stars, listen to the crickets. all the things that people take for granted and don't notice because they are too busy in life to appreciate the smaller things in life. one thing i used to do that made things worse though is watch movies and listen to music. it seemed when i did those things, it would be a reminder of what i was missing in life during that time. those things just made me more depressed. or even going out in public just to see the happiness in other people or the couples walking around holding hands. it just made things worse because i wanted to be happy, or i wanted to be holding hands with someone i loved. my point is, take this time to be alone. take this time to understand how life works. take this time to get to know yourself, love yourself and who you are. take this time to be happy about yourself and who you are. life get be a real *BLEEP* sometimes. sometimes it seems like quicksand and there is no exxcape in how we feel. but there IS! we just have to allow ourselves not to be destracted in life by what we see as negative. how can we see the good if we are always dwelling on the bad? we can't.and is the negative and the bad really negative and bad? i don't believe so since i believe life is truely a learning experience until we die. i have learned myself in how to take a bad situation and understand it to turn it around in to something good. i have learned to stop concentrating on what i don't have and concentrate on what i DO have.we have very little control in this life. we can't make people be there for us or stay in relationships. what we do have is control over our own lives and choices. it IS possible to love ourselves so much and be happy with who we are where we don't need someone else for those things. beling in a relationship should only compliment who we already are and where we are going in life. if it doesn't, then it wont be meant to last. only for the short term where two people get out of a relationship what they can before moving on. do you understand what i am trying to say here? i suck at putting thoughts to words. what it basically means is that it wasn't just this guys time to leave you, it was your time to leave him as well. there are other experiences you need to experience. you are meant for something that will be more fullfilling to you in the long runone big thing you need to do right now is open yourself up to those possibilities. if you don't close this door to this relationship, other doors will not open. that is a FACT and something a lot of people don't realize. just because this relationship didn't work out doesn't mean he did anything wrong or you did anything wrong. it just means it wasn't meant to be forever. take what you learned from it and be a stronger person for it. thank your god for the opportunity to feel loved so you can continue on this path of life for yourself to experience many more things you were meant to experience. close this door so you are able to walk through other doors that will DEFINATELY open for you if you allow that to happen. i know how hard it is to close a door. it has to happen over time. just keep in mind that you will eventually have to shut this door and the sooner the better. how do you shut a door on something that means so much to you? you do this by understanding yourself better. you do this by understanding other people better. you do this by understanding life a little better. eventually, you will come to realizations that you didn't lose in this relationship. you gained something from it to help you move on to new experiences that you were meant to live.keep your head up. and even though i know you want certain things from other people, don't ever stop being there for them. it's who you are. a part of you. life is funny and goes in cycles. it has it's ups and downs. we just have to learn how to deal with those times that make us feel like CRAP. when we start to learn how to deal with those times, life starts to become easier in a way because we understand life a little more....