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VERY well spoken words. the way he addressed this issue was that he was just passing time with this girl and wasting hers.some people need a kick in the *bottom* though. that is why i was so blunt. he's feeling pressure because not only is it a cultural issue, but also a family one since everyone knows his family in the area that they live and if he were to have relations with this girl, other people would look down on their family to accept their relations. it's not just about an arranged marriage.my whole point was that this guy didn't even know his choices before he made them. that is unacceptable when he is affecting other people by his choices right now.so yea, if he feels he wants to give in to his family, he should end things now because he is being VERY unfair to the woman he supposedly loves. if he wants to be with her, then they need to find a way to be together where it causes the least disruption in their life and their families lives until people are more comfortable with the relationship and able to accept it.i called him a coward because he has no stance. he ran away from his families belief to be with this girl in secret, now he's willing to run away from this girl just to satisfy his families belief. either way he is a coward and running away. he's not taking a firm stand in anything. that's what brought him here.....because he's a coward. now....it doesn't matter what his family thinks or what his lover thinks, but what complete strangers think. he's running again.it's really sad when i see people like this because they don't realize what the struggles in their life can bring them so they run and give in to the place that offers them the least struggle.you, indego, know all about struggle. i know you do even though you don't mention it and you have a lot to say about this subject and the pressures people can feel in life from other people.....and at the same time how those struggles can be rewwarding in the end if people make a choice to face them.....

you already posted about this in another thread....what's wrong with you....

oh no! haha i am embarrassed now. sorry about that. anyway, i don't think that is offensive. i can tell you this though. i am out of my league on this one. i have had many friends who have dated within the same sex and were attracted to eachother, but i really don't know what they do for romance or if it's even the same as what a man and a woman do....or what actually creates a spark.....if it's even the same. i don't know. you caught me off gaurd here so i appologize.i do think the same thing applies though. try to get out of the daily routine when you are home together. also the same thing applies with you and your partner and your kids and how hard you two must have struggled to make things work. it really is a success storyi think the relationship category would have been the best bet. like i said, i don't know if it was really a vent because it didn't come out that way. if it was, then ya fooled me :)anyway, just try to change the routine aspect of every day life when home. it's a start and i think if you don't quit on the idea, it can help a lot. also, tell your partner how you feel too if you haven't already. i was touched by your post and i am sure your partner will be touched too to know how you feel if he doesn't already or if you don't remind him. you didn't sound blaming or negative in any way. you sounded loving and caring.

hey bud, thanks for sharing your story. i don't know if i would consider it a vent though. maybe it was and your emotions weren't truely coming out from your words. in any case, i enjoyed reading it and i'll tell you why....i think you have a pretty good relationship and sort of a success story in marriage. things may have not been perfect, and you may have screwed up and she may have done things you didn't like, but it seems you are perfect for eachother. this is why i enjoyed reading what you wrote because of what i saw when reading it.now because i saw what i did, you shouldn't be too worried about this "spark". it's really easy to lose it when two people go on with their day without the other and when they get home, they do their rituals and stuff. but should this be something to worry about? i don't think so. fact is, she is probably thinking the same thing and from what i can tell when you crawl in to bed with you, she dearly loves you too.so what i am thinking is stop with the every day rituals and do something new. since you brought it up, it starts with YOU right now. surprise her. do some little things that would get her to smile which i know would make your day just seeing it and create that spark. be creative when you think of ideas. i am a kid at heart and i am 43 now. but one idea that jumps out to me is write a note where she can find it, and play a little hide and seek. tell her she needs to find you.....or even just buy some string and unwind it all around the house and outside the house. she will have to follow it until she finds you at the end. then you give her some freshly picked flowers or something with a kiss. she would love that and so will you just knowing she loves it and seeing her glow and even knowing what her anticipation is trying to follow this string. there are lots of things you can do to change your every day routine. make it silly, make it spontanious, make it romantic, and don't quit. do something new every day so you both can get out of this regular routine because this regular routine is the cause of everything in my opinion.but listen, even if it doesn't happen, you don't have it bad. in fact, i feel you two are one of the lucky couples who have had what it takes to keep a marriage going. it's tough man, and you two are doing it. many people have it a lot worse.what you are feeling is normal....even from a man's perspective. don't sweat it....but don't just write about it if you plan on doing nothing about it. take action and don't give up. your wife will soon follow and that spark will be there naturally again. just remember though.....if you plan on keeping the same routine, don't expect any sparksthanks again for sharing. i'm sure you could teach other people a thing or two in how to stay married and stay in love for so long after so much hard work and struggles!

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ok, but the issue wasn't about the forms that were already fixed. that's a whole seperate issue. we need to figure out the problem which allowed other problems to occur. i don't know what your other issues are. have you tried clearing all your browsing history? this problem is on your side since just changing your browser setting affected other things.so in my opinion, you need to delete your browsing history including cookies or delete any specific information specifically stored when entering form data. you mentioned your username as "admin" but it is autofilling as "Admin" which tells me some of the history is confusing itself. i think you need to clear your history fully and see if that solves the problem.just because you turned off the security option to not remember form data doesn't mean the form data was deleted. but now you can clearly see that this is on your side. not a server issue as this was a question you had.also, i don't advise clearing individual history specifically to the website your form is on since it's autofilling something different. that's why if it was me, i would delete ALL history since whatever it is that is having a problem distinguishing what form you are actually using and is being displayed.does anyone else have access to the computer you are using? have you ever made a mistake in logging in and entered the wrong form data? if you had firefox set to remember form data, it's going to remember all the wrong logins too.so for now, just click on tools and click on clear recent history. uncheck everything except for the form and browsing history and clear it all.....

what browser are you using? i use firefox. if you use firefox, i know there is an option to remember form data. have you already tried removing that option under your privacy options?i can't talk about other browsers as i only use firefox.

i was asleep during the terrorist attack on u.s. soil which demolished the the twin towers in new york and killed hundreds of people. my mom woke me yup with the devestating news report early that morning. today, i woke up with a message from my mother left on the answering machine the night before saying osama bin laden is dead.although there are already conspiracy theories developing within 12 hours that news has been given about his death, i will believe he is dead for nowso thanks to the u.s. military for never pulling troops out, and the u.s. navy seals team with a well executed and planned attack, osama bin laden is deadi have mixed views. although extremely happy this man is dead, it makes me sad thinking about all the people that died on behalf of al-Qaeda, a terrorist organization that was founded by osama bin laden. i am upset when i hear the words that "justice has been served" because in my eyes, justice will never be served. i understand the emotions of the american people while waving the u.s. flag, but to me, it is ridiculous to celebrate a man's death when so many other people were involved in attacks on u.s. and non u.s. soil. to me, this is a time for mourning those people. not to celebrate one man's death. this is a time to reflect and mourn.it is also a time to prepare for other attacks and not be so complacent within this so called celebration when common sense tells me there will be vengeful actions and attacks after u.s. military was the sole purpose of killing the founder of the al-queda. it's not over. it's FAR from over. more people will die, and people are celebrating.now there are theories that osama bin laden is NOT dead. the people who want to make up unconfirmed stories after confirmed stories have already been released. the question arises why, after capturing osama bin ladens dead body, why dump it at sea? where is the proof he is dead now? personally, i could care less about the ignorant opinion of people who don't believe in their own government and go so far to make other people disbelieve in their own government. it makes me sick. if osama bin laden is NOT dead, then there has to be a very good reason to lie to the american people after so many lost their lives to this one mans organization. if we did not capture him, would this be a tactic to make osama complacent in his hiding so he comes out of his rabbit hole and more vulnerable to his inevitable demise? is it that we captured him alive and we are using this tactic to hide an illegal torture of this man to gain more information and intelligence? both scenarios work for me. even torture if it helps save hundreds of more lives. what other reasons would there be? i mean, he is either dead or captured. to me, that is all that matters. the president isn't going to come on national television and disrespect hundreds of peoples death with a lie. i don't believe that for one second. if he did, then he's the one that deserves the bullet in his head. so i am not going to believe in the ignorance of some american people trying to convince others that there is some sort of cover up. the president is not going to put american lives in danger by lying to the american public. saying osama bin laden is dead when he really isn't.osama bin laden is dead. after nearly a 10 year man hunt. justice ISN'T served, but it is a nice victory in the war on terrorism. good riddance you scum sucking mother *BLEEP*er bin laden!

this is what i think. i think you're a coward. as you know, love is not a game and shouldn't be taken lightly. this girl fell in love with you thinking there is a high possibility that you two will be together. now you are just playing with her head. why? because of family pressure. you should have NEVER decided to be with a woman and allow her to love you if in the end, you were going to break up with her because of family pressure. because you are even considering this, i think you're a coward. you may love her, but the real question is if it was REAL love, or just selfish love on your part to pass the time until you were caught. so that's what i think. your girl is trusting in you. she knows the whole thing revolves around you and she has no say. at the same time, she wants the best for you. are you going to let her down after trusting in you and give in to family pressure and be a coward? or was your love true enough to where you aren't going to let her down and would do anything for her even if it means moving away?it's your choice. don't ask people to dictate your moral character for you.

hahaha exactly!

as far as i am concerned GMAIL is professional enough. i didn't know it was some sort of standard practice now that people should be buying domain names before sending out resumesalso, your voting poll is very screwed up. i don't think you thought it through to well. get back to me when you have...

that's what peripheral vision is for bud. i have never EVER been accused of staring or had any bad looks when i look at people. but then again, i don't act creepy when i look at people either.i suggest that when you look at someone and you don't know them that well, then look away the instant they see you looking at them and then use your peripheral vision from then on. you don't want to go back staring at them because that's just creepy.we live in a world where trust is a big thing. staring at someone for whatever reason does not build that trust. in fact, it hinders it and you will get a standoffish attitude in return.....or sometime worse in your case.i am a people watcher by nature. i am more introvert than extrovert only because i love people watching. i can get to know people better by just watching them than talking to them. but even though i am a people watcher, i have NEVER been accused in staring....ever in my life. in fact, just the opposite, people accuse me of not looking at them when i really do after a conversation is struck and they mention it. they only bring it up because i give them a standofish feeling which makes me less approachable which i could care less. if it's meant to be, they will approach me, or i will approach them.anyway, give my ideo a little test for a month. only look at people through peripheral vision. don't stare at them and don't move your eye towards them. do this for a month and you can post about how i changed you life hahahaand don't let this hinder you from riding your bike or from going outside. although you can't change the first impression you already made on people, if you think people are staring at you, it's probably mostly in your head being overly self conscience. and by riding your bike, i am assuming you have a normal way of riding it and not riding a tricycle for that matter....or falling off your bike or doing anything that is drawing attention to you. i am betting most of it is in your head....when can you stare or look at someone for more than 2 seconds? when you are having a conversation with them, but don't have a conversation while you are always looking at the person. glance away once in a while because even when you are in a conversation, staring can be creepy too :)so when you are walking along, and someone is walking in the opposite direction, to overcome the awkwardness if you stared too long for more than two seconds, acknowledge that person by nodding your head a little or saying hello and for god sakes, stop staring after that too :)good luck!

are you serious??? you just reopened a thread and responded to someone who hasn't even posted in 6 years?!?

welcome to ks i guess. i just find it a little creepy that you are adding people to your friends list you don't even know.

ok. if you already tried cleaning the ink head, try to print in black ONLY and then color ONLY. see if there is a difference. if there is, it is probably the cartridge but not 100%. buying another cartridge may fix this problemmy first question would be when you installed the cartridges and did it do this originally.... also, when was the last time you used the printer when it didn't do this?usually printers will detect if something is wrong with the cartridge. also, when you clean the ink head, it's important to do it gently by just taking a paper towel, i fold mine up in to a small square, wet it a little where it's not dripping wet, and dab it....don't rub it. then i take a dray paper towel and dab it. that is the proper way of cleaning it or you risk doing more damage.i do remember i had this problem before a long time ago but for the life of me, i forget what the problem was. i did end up fixing it. it wasn't the printer.....whenever i am diagnosing something though like this, i like to update my drivers and make sure everything is working as it should including the spooler, etc. never can tell sometimes WHAT can fix a certain problem....oh, also, i would try taking your other printer off the network and delete it all together and test your ink jet. i only advise this because i have found the strangest solutions to problems before just by fiddling around....

what some people will do to earn mycents. how pathetic!

you need to be more specific than that. are you talking about the "timer" which really isn't a timer where someone has set up a cpa offer, and you can't access the main website until you do something on a popup website....usually when a user fills in the cpa info?i don't think you are talking about a timer are you? i may be mistaken. you're talking more about a verification script i think....hmmmm

i know what your take on this subject is. i expected better logic than a "pink elephant" scenario though. it's something bikerman would use to help support his own arguements. i mean, i thought we were talking about a serious subject here bani. if you're going to talk about pink elephants, why should i bother even responding? seems pointless.unfortunately, i cannot prove that life holds a special purpose. it's different for everyone. but if i were going to compare people, it's obvious that people have certain talents in life. for example. if you haven't heard of "Sungha Jung", search this guy on you tube. this kid has a talent that is not from any chemical reaction. he was born a certain way and and not a lot of people has his gift. now most people in this world bani would look at this guy and know his purpose. his purpose being to share his talent and his gift to the world. he's a person you can just look at and wonder how he became to be when other professionals who have been playing and practicing their whole life, can't even do what he does. this suggests that there is even something more to a person than what is made up in their dna. i mean, you don't see his parents on youtube, do you? some people would say that it is some sort of devine intervention that happened before birth. in some ways, i think this is true, but what i believe for the most part is that everyone takes their "soul" or this energy that have inside them from one lifetime to another and they build on who they are from one lifetime to another in the areas of their purpose.now what i have said doesn't have any solid data or evidence to prove people have a purpose, but i gave an explaination that can at least question it when i know you can't come up with anything better yourself to disprove my theory or even give a better explaination of why certain people are born with a talent or a "gift" is what i like to call it.i can talk about myself and say that i should have died several times in this lifetime. when i can get thrown out of a car that is being rolled at 60mph and can walk away without a scratch, and you hear other stories who's bodies defy the laws of physics, then you have to begin to wonder if science will ever explain life. i mean, for a lot of people, science is THEIR "god". science is supposed to explain more about life. but when you start limiting science to dna or chemical reactions or physics, you really will never figure out life as a whole...only some of it in small bits and pieces....and never ALL the pieces.this is why i believe in all religions bani. why limit ones self to only one belief when there is so much more to life or what other people are trying to figure out? this is why there is more to "nature". than what science can disprove or even PROVE for that matterso what about these laws of nature that cannot be proven or even disproven? you are willing to throw them out? why? because it's easier to believe in things that can be proven or disproven? this is shallow thinking.let's talk about natural instincts. humans aren't born with any natural instinct, but other species of animals are. they rely on them for their survival. without them, they would die. this is something you can read in your precies science books as being FACT. where do these natural instincts come from bani? natural instincts are not learned. they are something you are born with.this is sorta off topic to your original post though, but you seemed to have wanted to go in this direction and talk about pink elephants for some reason.you didn't like my anology about the sperm and the egg? what about male and female parts. proof that there is a purpose in life if not just to reproduce is right in front of you. so then the question becomes, why is there a purpose of reproducing. when you start from the beginning with that one purpose and follow the answers to the questions that are asked next, it's like connecting the dots and eventually, you will see a better picture of what life is. the problem because when people don't question things or try to find the answers. they can go through life like a bunch of worker ant or lemmings. they can even say they believe in a religion without really knowing why they believe and this sort of thinking can make any religion less credible when there is some truth to everything. even if we want to talk about witches or these new age religions like wicca. you will hear them talk about things like "magik". the mind is a very powerfull thing. all they are really talking about is a belief in something and the power of prayer or thought which they like to call "rituals". all they are really trying to do is harness an energy they know is there that other religions fail to talk about. you've heard of the saying that the more you believe in something, the more it becomes true? well, this is true. in some ways we create our own life through our own thought processes. to support this arguement, i refer you to the book "the secret". it's even on video.suicide shouldn't be illegal or outlawed because death is a part of life and we have so much to learn about life.....including "death". just like life, "death" has it's own purpose. should taking a life be controlled by a government if it's legal? ofcourse not. the government should never take the laws of nature in their own hands. it is not up for them to decide who lives or dies and by what cause. if we did that, the learning process of life and death would be lost. just like technology has paved a way to limit how people think and survive in this world. technology was never needed were life was concerned. we lived a long time without it and over the years, it made life as a shadow as technology progresses where life in a sense becomes less important than science and technology. instead of science following in the footsteps of life, life is following in the footsteps of science. it's all backwards.it's so hard to just talk about a people's purpose in life before we talk about life it self. and it's so hard to just talk about if suicide should be legal or not or if there should be governement control without talking about other things first. like i said. to connect the dots, you have to start from the beginning, not the middle or the end(the end is what you want to talk about from the start when you are talking about suicide and death). so you have me at a real disadvantage of trying to prove anything when you want to start a conversation at the end of life. you want to skip over all the other major important things about life itself. i know your logic bani and i know your logic as no choice but to agree with me here. it's really some pretty basic philosophy though... "if this, then that".now if i met someone suicidal or someone about to kill themselves, i would try to stop them myself. the keyword is TRY. i can't fight nature or fight what other people have in their own true nature. all i can do is try to learn more about life and death. the fact is, if a person was meant to die, they would already be dead before i even had a chance to talk to them. part of my own purpose in life is to try to guide others who have lost theirs. lost is not even a good word. "hidden" is a better word. it's really easy for one's own purpose to be hidden when there are so many things in life that are a distraction to life itself. when we put a higher importance on those distractions, then it's easier to feel lost and even suicidal and thinking about death when we start believing more and more that "we are just here" with no real purpose. it's unfortate people have to feel that way. so for people like me, we have to guide them back while digging through all the distraction that these people created for themselves to see who this person really is to get a clearer picture of what their own purpose is. this is where the old saying comes from, "you can't judge a book by it's cover" because there is so much more to learn about someone that what people reveal to others based on learned experiences in life and the distractions they created for themselves. for the most part, suicide is NOT the answer to anything. but government control? absolutely not. when we do that, we might as well tell women that they are no longer in control of their own bodies either an that they have to birth any child after they impregnate themselves or were raped or impregnated by other means beyond their control. we might as well let them choose what we do with our lives while we're at it. i mean, if i wanted to paint for a living because it's in my nature, but not a lot of money it and the government steps in saying we have to earn a decent wage because it would be better for the economy, what kind of life would we be living then? the sad part is that we are not too far from that right now as the government and society in general sorta dictates to people what they need to be doing with their lives already. when people feed in to that *BLEEP* and don't fight against the government and society in general to stand up for their own selves, we have a major probelm in this world....and WE DO! how is anyones purpose supposed to be found or followed?if you feel you are just here with no purpose to anything, then it's time for you to forget everything you were taught, and start guiding your own self in life bani. as i told you before, i see something in you. you get upset at me because you don't understand me. but i also know that you do feel something that makes you different than other people. you always wanted me to be specific with you but it's not my place to be specific. i can't step in and tell you what you need to be doing or what your purpose is or i would be no different than the government or society that has a basic life plan for everyone. all i can really tell you is that you aren't like the rest and there are very few people out there like you. i can tell you this though.....out of all the people in this world to be worried about, i will never worry about you. you're still young and have a lot to learn. at the same time, at your age, you are so smart and i wouldn't be too far off base by telling you that part of your purpose is to question life's purpose. it will only make you stronger when you do and whatever you choose to do with your life, you will never be typical as so many other people SEEM to be. part of lifes struggles that make the struggle worth it is finally finding ourselves and our purpose without other people having to step in for us and tell us. there is nothing to learn from that.now i said at the beginning that it is often said that humans do not have any natural insticts for survival. for the most part, the majority of the experts agree with this. the only difference and arguement people have is when we define "natural instict". for the most part i agree with the general definition, except the definition doesn't incorporate anything that can be present, but not proven. if Sungha Jung was born to play, and he could play or was forced to do something else, what do you think would happen? what would be the result? well, there would be something he feels is missing in his life. i am certain of this. so lets say he was pushed to be a doctor or a lawyer so some other profession which doesn't utilize his true gift. you can say that he is already dying inside and eventually, living and breathing would be a pointless act in his every day life. soon he only knows how he was guided to be.....not who he really is and becomes suicidal where life isn't even worth living anymore. in this sense, i feel people are born with a natural intuition and instict about themselves that becomes relevant for survival. i feel everyone is born with it, but life's distractions can make it very difficult to follow the path of what was natural at one time. so when i person leads a life like this, am i ok if the goverment steps in saying it's ok if you make a choice to kill yourself without considering other options? NOPE! i am definately not ok with that because like i said before....part of my purpose is to guide others in the right way. killing yourself is usually never the answer wether there is government regulation or not. we can already determine that part of lifes purpose is to reproduce because we are born with male parts and female parts to do just that. so when we consciously make a choice to kill ourselves, it negates the original purpose of life and why there are two sexes to begin with.anyway, another long winded post. you may not even read the whole thing. i don't blame you

no thanks. that would be embarrassing to be beat by a girl...

this thread is a good example of what i believe. i believe for some people, dreams are a gateway to a past life or past lives so speaking or hearing other people speak in a foreign language is something you've already picked up even if it wasn't in this lifetime. you can recall many things in dreams. i think past lives are one of the things you can recall. people get confused because they can't associate their dream with their every day life and in school, they only teach you the psychology behind dreams. i think there is much more to dreams than people realize.