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i don't know why i should quote the whole thing, but since you needed it, here it is..... -buffalohelp i also don't think it was anyone's fault or was trying to blame anyone for anything. i just thought it was pretty funny that what i originally quoted was a main point to the post. this is why i posted it in the jokes category. personally, i like the rule. i mean if i were to choose between all male porn or all female porn, the answer is obvious. why would i want to see two guys naked and going at it?!? but the rule is still targeting gender. i thought that was pretty funny. i know buffalohelp didn't post it to be funny though. it just turned out that way. what would have been funnier if male only porn was allowed and female only porn was disallowed. what i find odd though is that it states this rule was posted april 1st(april fools day) and it shows on buffalohelp's profile that he hasn't logged in in over 6 months. what i also find odd is that the webpage or webpages created have to be legal within the laws of the united states and it goes on to discriminate against gender when the united states supreme court has been very clear in how the united states does not tolerate gender discrimination. so that one rule is sorta contradictory to united states law when we are asked to follow it. i dunno, maybe i am the only one who finds humor in this. i still laugh about it because i can just picture buffalohelp saying "ABSOLUTELY NO all male gay porn will be tolerated! but ummmm, all girl lezbian porn will CERTAINLY be welcomed!" it even demands you upload your porn images on Xisto first. porn on Xisto? if that isn't a funny rule, i don't know what is! haha

hmmmm. you say that death is frightening because we only experience it once AND we don't know what happens. you also call it something "weird". when you say people don't know about death, how many of those people actually know about life itself? the truth is, that statement is incorrect. it's not really the fear of the unknown because most people don't even know what life is. it's more like the fear of change. death is simple to explain really. it's change that occurs when you are no longer living in the physical body you were born with. there is no scientific evidence? well in some ways there is. take the caterpillar for instance. the caterpillar "dies" and becomes a butterfly. it's not really the same way humans experience "death" but this is just an example of why people shouldn't fear changes or living outside of ones original body. also, before we can even talk about "death", we have to define it first because there are some instances where people have supposedly died and came back to life to talk about it. are we talking about the act of dying which would be a verb, or death as a nown? some doctors have even pronounced people dead without the hope of that person ever living again in that body. guess what? there have been instances where people HAVE survived those conclusions as well and lived to talk about it. there are so many clues around us all to know that death is a part of life. "death" is connected to life. you can't have one without the other. so why on earth would people try to separate the two? if we are talking about death as a nown, then there are actually TWO times it comes in to play. before we are born and after we die. if we are talking about death as a verb, then we aren't talking about death at all but the act of dying and what we experience BEFORE we die. by we, i mean our physical bodies ofcourse and the time where the physical body ceases to function any longer. when the body dies however, does that mean we die with it? or does it just mean that we are just living in a shell we call a body and there really is no "death"....just another means of existance. it's easier to believe in the latter. otherwise, what is the purpose of evolving? what's the purpose of science OR religion? what would be the purpose of going to school or even working at a tiring job ones whole life? so then why does there have to be a purpose to anything? there doesn't, but there is. it's clearly seen in human nature and the cycles of life and nature in general. it's funny how people view death as something final though. some believe after we die, we just die. there is nothing more to experience. but because death is obviously connected to life, and logical deduction dictates that there is a purpose to life, then maybe death isn't the end. maybe "death" is only the beginning. in some ways, i believe this to be true. so why be afraid of death? to be afraid of death is to be afraid of life itself in my opinion. there really isn't anything to be afraid of if you take the time to look around and see the signs all around you and open yourself up to possibilities that science has never been able to acknowledge so in my opinion, there is no "death". there is only life and the cycle of life. death to me is a made up word to describe something that happens when the body ceases to function which doesn't incorporate the life or energy that survives beyond that....with a purpose.... heaven and hell? no such thing. there is only levels of existence you make for yourself or what you have already made for yourself. there aren't seperate places you go after you die just like there aren't separate places you go when you are living. that doesn't mean there aren't different perceptions based on experiences which can be different for everyone. there are and always will be. heaven and hell are made up words formed through religion. and the funny part of religion to me is that they can claim they believe in god, but they themselves don't even understand life to believe in god. most belief in god doesn't come from an understanding of life, but more of a forced explaination of life through their own hopes to fill the voids of their own life. they use god and their belief as an excuse. more people convert to trying to believe in a god right before they die than any other time in a persons life. why? fear. some religions dictate you can't be with someone else outside their own religion. why? to make the religions stronger by converting others in to that religion and belief in god. some religions go so far as to promote sex and having babies so that religion can grow even stronger when children are born within a religion. it's not that most people believe in religion and/or god. it's that most people are trained to believe. this is why most people claim they are a part of a religion and believe in a god, but don't really understand life itself to truely believe in what they were forced in to believing. maybe this is why homosexuals are shunned within most major religions. they can't pro create. the result? religion cannot become stronger in numbers. who knows. it's not something many people talk about, but it's certainly something to think about. i am no expert in life, nor will i claim to be. but i will go so far to say that i know and understand it more than most. most people believe in god and most people will claim to be part of a religious belief. if something good happens, they thank god. if something bad happens, they blame god. it's like they have no control over their own lives and god is the puppet master of everything that happens rather than take control over their own lives by understanding what life truely is FIRST. religions like to use words like "worship" in regards to worshiping a god. if god is inside us and we are connected to god, isn't that like worshiping ourselves? to me, it's a selfish and self rightious word. it's a controlling word and a word ti distribute power or the feeling of power. i dunno why i got in to the topic of religion except that i know religion and religious beliefs and god and a higher power are all a part of life. the parts we understand and the parts that most people DON'T understand about life to even talk about a subject such as "the end of life is death"

here is the original thread to the decade plan. it's not rocket science guys....

i don't think you make a very strong arguement against astrology. first let me state the obvious. the woman with a crytal ball is a fortune teller, NOT an atrologistnow let me state the less obvious. you claim that if two people with the same birthdates aren't exactly alike, then astrology must be false. so what if they ARE similar in other ways and i can prove that two people can hold not only similarities, but uncanny similarities since we are talking about astrology and birthdates? ofcourse this wouldn't prove anything either. so why would you argue that if you can find things that aren't similar, it's supposed to disprove astrology?bikerman has made fun of how the planets or stars align thinking how they align does not influence people. this has to be the most idiotic statement to try to disprove astrology considering the facts. let's take the research done between when there is a full moon and absolutely no moon. the research is undisputable. there are huge differences in the way people act and are affected. all people? no. just certain people depending on how the sky is aligning itself. does this prove astrology? nope! but it disproves bikerman's arguements and his fun and games trying to make people look stupid.when i was studying birthdates and the significance of when people were born, i ran across a website one time. i forget what it is. i tried to find it again, but with no luck. this website asked a series of questions. the test seemed to go on for a VERY long time. anyway, after all the answers were submitted, it calculated the astrological sign and then asked one more question. the last question was something like "is this correct?" and people would either submit a yes or no answer. now since there are 12 signs, it would seem the correct odds would be a 1/12 chance of answering correctly.....or roughly 9% chance. now i forget how many people took this test, but i remember it was more than 10,000 people. this site had around a 40% accuracy rate. not 9%....not 25%. almost 50% on average! i really wish i remember where this site is so i can share it because after leaving that site and after sharing it with a few family members and friends, it just reinforced what i already believed. so i studied the data even further. it seemed like it was better at determining 1 or two signs better than all the rest, up to an 80% accuracy rate.i do think atrology is very significant and real. i wont ever be able to understand fully in my lifetime, but that doesn't mean it doesn't influence our lives. i also think astrology is different that a woman with a crytal ball or a taro card reader or just someone who claims to be psychic because they are overly intuitive.i agree with harlot 100% when he says atrology has become VERY commercial. i was never in to learning what would happen to me on a day to day basis. i really don't think anything can predict that. it is fun sometimes to break open that fortune cookie or just glance at the horoscopes once in a blue moon when it happens to catch your eye when reading the newspaper. i do however believe that astrology has the potential of being a true science and a science that can help us learn more about who we are individually. i am not talking about how two people with the same birthdate can have two seperate political beliefs because they live half way around the world from one another. especially what harlot wants to compare the u.s. with saudi. two countries with two very different political systems. no. astrology can help more with who a person is on the inside. a person's more truest nature before their learned experiences in life that influence them and make them question who they even are

this is part of the official rules of Xisto and members' personal websites - buffalohelp

i agree sheepie... i have a lot of acquaintances in my life. but true friends? very few. i know they would do anything for me if i asked. unfortunately, i never ask. i even go so far as not contacting them as much as i should. i know they don't like it, but they know me to know i would always be there for them too. quality is DEFINATELY better than quantity. just ask google. they will say the same same. the admins of this forum if they were ever around to comment.to me, a person with a lot of "friends" is a person who is trying to prove something....either to others or to themselves. also, just because someone is charismatic doesn't mean anything where true friendship is concernedtake for example opaque. he's very popular here. doesn't mean he himself is a good friend to anyone here when he can do what he is doing and it doesn't mean he made friends here when everyone is leaving this place without a second thought about a "friendship"

yea, my first thought a while back was to leave the spam for the very same reason. i feel bh is gone for good he just doesn't log in anymore period. during one recent period of time, it took opaque 1 1/2 months to log in. opa supposedly is working on a new ks but who the heck knows when that will be up and running. no updates, nothing. i decided not to leave the spam because it's just plain unfair to the members. now i am leaving it. not because i want opaque to notice but because of my reasons stated above. a mod can EASILY mass delete spam by guessing. you risk losing valid posts, but at least there wouldn't be spam. most of the spam is coming from certain categories too so it's easy to detect and guess....along with unfamiliar users who are posting.i feel for opaque because i know he has been busy. i know he's logged in recently and i know he has plans and it takes time, but there is absolutely NO excuse for not posting an update. even if it's to say the board is crap and no plans are going to change soon. even if he said that, it would be respectable just to let us all know what to expect and why we are all still here supporting this forum, and in my case, supporting him. even velma was around for a while when the board was going downhill. i don't know what happened to her but even she isn't seen anymore and she was telling me her high hopes for this place.if you ask me, opa should give you temp admin status until he can figure out what he is doing with this place. my heart drops every time i think about how this forum was doing well, and then went to crap over bad management, and then hoping every day that this will be the day when things turn around and doesn't. i would even be glad to mod again just to help get rid of the spam but it seems that no new changes are gonna happen anytime soon unfortunately.this wait and see game sucks, but personally, i cannot abandon this place no matter what.... or how busy i get.

well, i try to post where i can, but i would never encourage anyone to post only because every post now will get lost in the spam most likely.i used to report all the spam, but i quit doing that and i don't encourage anyone else to either because it is a waste of time. 1 person can spend a half hour a day to report all the spam in a day. then times that by the number of people who are reporting the same posts. let's say we all get together and start reporting the spam to be deleted. that's 5 man hours between 10 people who are wasting their efforts reporting the same things.i have tried to talk to opaque who has shown absolutely no interest in helping with this spami have reported status message spammer and will continue to do so since it's not as rampant as the forum spammers, but it really should mainly be up to the ones who write a status message to delete their own spam. do they? no. why? because people come on, write a status message and don't log in for a week to even see it.i have suggested we close new memberships. to no avail.i have suggested we put a captcha within the signup form. to no avail.i have suggested a new admin and new moderators. to no avail.opaque doesn't even have the decency to log in and write an update to let people know what is going on or what to expect or what he even expects from his loyal members who are wondering what the heck is happening. he started this place years ago. it was a struggle and he built a great place. he made new friends. but are they really his friends when he can just desert everyone without telling anyone what is going on? i have to question that. i like opaque. he has given and shared with me a lot. i am trying REALLY hard to understand him when he is giving absolutely no clues to be understood right now.even if we all take things in our own hands right now, it wont be enough to fight off all this spam. only admins and moderators have that ability. the only mod that has even shown an interest lately to help with things is rvalkass but it's way too much for one mod to control around here. if he quit too, i wouldn't blame him. it's just way too much without admin support.yea, i still hope, but i sure as hell am not gonna hold my breath....

you're wasting your breath. this forum has been abandoned by the owner/administrator "opaque" for some time now and the mods that were here before have for the most part disapeared after the forum was abandoned.basically what's going on is that the mycents system is still working for anyone who still wants to post, but for the most part, they keep it running for the extra ppc revenue it generates from all the past posts.as you can tell, they don't care about the new members or the old members, they don't care about people posting anymore or even all the spam that has filled this place. nobody is even here to care anymore.so wake up and smell the coffee, stop dreaming, and come back to reality. you're hopes and wishes for this place are fine.....but that's all they are ever going to be. hopes and wishes.

you said that you are afraid of getting played and hurt, and what do you do? you play HER and hurt HER by breaking things off. shame on you. it's true you have to be really carefull "dating" online because the other person can be whoever they want to be. it's easy to decieve and lie. if your intentions is not to be with someone, don't lead them on. if you want a friendship and nothing more, tell them flat out. maybe you can salvage a friendship after all your b.s. and you not knowing what you want. whatever you do though, don't hurt others just because you're unsure what you want. if you don't know, stop doing what you're doing.not allowed to talk to her for a week? haha that's funny. it makes me wonder why she set that limitation too. if she is limiting you, she is only hurting herself as well. that really doesn't make any sense to me unless she doesn't have the same feelings you do. a week is a long time when you're falling in love with someone.online relationships are hard because of the distance factor. but in some ways, they are a very good thing because it gives you time to know a person on the inside and fall in love the proper way. best thing to do in relationships like this is to take it slow. there is no hurry. if you find out the distance thing is too much for you to handle and want to break it off, then all that means is you didn't love her enough and this online dating thing isn't for youi understand it hurts, but remember something..... all good things come with sacrifice. the only question you really have to answer is "is it worth it?"

tell me how "idea" and "opinion" can be substituted with "theory". an idea to me is like a random thought that isn't based on anything. opinions are usually based on ideas(random thoughts) and knowledge, while theories are based on ideas AND opinions AND something more factual than ideas and opinions. then we get to a point where theories can be based on theories without the need for ideas or opinions.

sounds to me like this girl is troubled. how old are you guys? early 20's? sounds to me that you need to have a few heart to heart talks to see what her troubles are. she definately likes you, but i wouldn't want to start something with a kiss when the other person is drunk either. the thing you need to realize is that we are all different and have different ways of showing other people that we like them. maybe she has been showing you the only way she knows how and maybe she wants more too. so when you reject her kiss, ask yourself how it will make HER feel. it sounds to me like she's insecure and has been hurt in the past and doesn't really know how to show her true self to you. or if it DOES come out even when she's been drinking, you're unwilling to accept it. like i said, get to know her more as long as she is able to open up with some heart to heart talks. i think she's interested, but i also think she may feel rejected by you and that may be the reason she is looking elsewhere. also, if you don't have a sensitive heart, don't even try to have a heart to heart talk it will only make things worse an i would just say let her go and wait for someone less insecure to come in to your life.sounds like you both hit it off though when you can talk about anything and everything without uncomfortable silences. there is a connection there worth digging deeper in my opinion.

people aren't greedy by nature. i am really shocked you believe that. it's true that most people want more in life, but it's not because they are greedy, it's because they can't appreciate what they already have. there is a difference. greed is learned and once we make choices in our life, it's hard to change those choices. just because there is a lot of greed, doesn't mean it is in human nature. when i hear someone say that greed is in human nature, i automatically feel that it's an excuse for something else personal to them to justify their own actions or way of thinking. i sorta agree with this part of your post, except for the greed part and getting back to human nature. in this case, it's just about principles and trying to claim what should already be yours to claim without the influence of greed. if greed is in our human nature, and human nature is more powerfull that any other thing out there, then how did the north beat the south when buying and selling slaves were big business back in the day? not only buying and selling, but spending the cheapest price for maximum labor? greed isn't in human nature and greed does not win out if you choose to fight greed. this has been proven already in the past. just because there is a stupid cliche running around that says "if ya can't beat 'm, join 'm", doesn't mean it's something we should follow or we would all be considered quiters. it's true, united states in particular has built a government on greed over time. makes me sick. that's why i always predicted another civil war before my time is up because i feel true human nature will win over greed again. the people are so satisfied with how the government helps them after being taxed though, and the greed increases so slow for anyone to really notice, that nothing is being done about the REAL problem. you stated you think greed is the real problem. it's not. the real problem is that the majority of the population doesn't stand up for their natural rights. instead, they take a government loan or grant, and use the roads and public libraries etc... and keep quiet. almost like a bribe if you ask me....

first you talked about a relationship you were in and broke up. then you talked about a marriage you are in right now. now you are talking about missing someone who physically and mentally abused you who you miss.you are starting to sound very disturbed.

in one thread you talk about being in a relationship. in this thread you are talking about being in a marriage. well which is it? sounds to me that you aren't so forth coming either.listen though. it's not about what he is doing. it's about how it's making you feel. if he is unwilling to change and you don't want to feel the way you are anymore, then you need to leave the marriage. you also have to wonder if it was even a marriage to begin with. there is more to a marriage than just loving someone. these things your husband is doing is making you more insecure than you already were and it's only gonna get worse. eventually you will start spying on him behind his back just to see what he is doing. you're going to want to find any little thing that proves your feelings right....but then you are going to start blaming him for every little thing too. funny thing about trust.i agree with your husband. i think you are paranoid. BUT! that isn't really the question is it. the real question is if you have a right to feel paranoid. is he doing anything that is making you trust less. you have already answered that question yet you are still searching aren't you...what are you searching for? you already know how he is making you feel. most likely it's just some verification from outside sources to allow you to blame him for what he is doing. blaming wont help this situation though and doing what you have been doing because you are insecure isn't going to help the situation either.if you have the means to do so, i think you need to take a break and really think about things. think about why you married this person in the first place and ask yourself if things were really good to begin with when you and he took your vows. you both probably found eachothers great qualities and you both probably still have them. but now all these great qualities are getting lost by uglinessyou are being way too one sided for me to give a real objective opinion here. except to say i WOULD take a break from this marriage to try and sort through things in your head. if he continues to make you feel like this, don't blame him. just leave the marriage entirely because the more he is going to make you feel like this, the more uglier YOU will become inside. you ever heard the expression "hurt me once, YOUR fault. hurt me twice, MY fault"?so think on things. maybe there are things you did to where he is reacting to in ways. maybe there are things about you that aren't perfect and needs some work. who knows. you just can't be feeling the way you are anymore. it's not just him doing things that are making you feel a certain way. it's you allowing yourself to feel a certain way too. so take a break. maybe you both rushed in to a marriage that was never meant to be in the first place. who knows. you really didn't give much information to go on here.i do think you are getting overly paranoid though. insecure and untrusting. we don't really know why he's doing the things he's doing or why it's making you feel this way. maybe you think he's cheating? bottom line missy.....you either trust him or you don't. if you don't, then there is absolutely NO marriage here.i cannot really comment on that list because to comment on it, i would have to have some understanding on why he's doing those things. all those things don't seem too bad to me but some of them probably do need to be questioned which i am sure you already have. so you aren't accepting his answer. you are just going to continue finding every little thing wrong with him no matter what right now. walking outside with his cell phone? does he have anything to hide from you other than you being a snoop, untrusting, suspicious, and investigating his every little move knowing you are just waiting to add to your list of wrong things he does?i can make a list about people too. a list of things that can only make a person look bad. what would be the point of it though? there are underlying issues you aren't talking about missy. i am not saying what he is doing is ok. but what i am saying is how you're going about it isn't going to make things better. it will make things worse. i know it's probably very complicated. i wish i understood more to give some better comments here...

break up ofcourse. isn't that what you are choosing anyway? you said you had doubt and you have already broken up. let me enlighten you. not everyone has doubts. i think the time that you were with him showed you the way already so if you still have doubts, then the obvious answer is to break up. don't lead him on either. and let me tell you something else. there is nothing "nice" about breaking up with someone and letting them down if they feel something different than you do. it has to be done though sometimes....

how can this resurface after 4 years? people who cut DEFINATELY need help. there is no question about it. it's not that they want to draw attention to themselves. a lot of them cut in places where the cuts can be hidden by clothing. these people suffer from deperession. they feel empty, and any little thing can trigger the cutting. why do they do it? because they feel dead inside. they want to feel alive. they want to feel SOMETHING when all they feel is emptiness for one reason of another. they aren't doing it to kill themselves either. but they do need help. they need meds to help with the chemical imbalances. unfortunately, a lot of the meds out there work for some and don't work for others. that's why doctors will always change prescriptions on their patients. and some you have to be really carefull about because they don't make you feel anything. something cutters will hate. some will just make you feel more empty. so even meds might not work.but if ya know a cutter, best thing to do is try to get them to talk to ya and listen and encourage them to do the things that might be able to allow them to live happier livesalso, when you are talking about things that can so easily trigger cutting, you are talking about them having an anxiety disorder too. sometimes just trying to control the anxiety helps rather than concentrate on the depression at first. they should never be in an environment that will make them anxious

haha well at least you're doing it. might i suggest doing this work from a month to month basis? that way when the time comes every year, it's a whole lot easier and less time consuming? and remember.....no cheating!