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I am designing a Streaming music site and am a bit stresssed out because some of the things i am trying to achieve are simingly unachievable but i know based on previous experience that Trappers will always help were they can and before I give up or get mad at my Pc or Dreamweaver I should come to my faithfull online family of KS'ers and post my request hopefully i will get help.Basically I want two things. One is a flash player script that plays in all browsers. Currently i am using JW Player from longtail and i find that it doesnt play in all four prominent browsers eg, Safari, chrome, Explorer and Firefox. I think it doesnt work well when i do a test using Firefox or chrome. If I could get a script for a player which will play without hassle in all major brwsers that would be lush. If you have a script you can attach or paste it on here with instructions of how to save it eg save as PHP, ASP HTML etc.Secondly. Now this is slightly more complex. Needs a bit of programming this. So all you programmers can get excited at this point. I need a stand alone player that will automatically stream music from my site without one having to log in to my website. Basically It will be Like Media Player only much smaller. say 300 or 400 pixels wide and 150 high. It will automatically connect to a provided stream link and play music thats is streaming from the server. eg http://forums.xisto.com/no_longer_exists/ I can provide the actually stream server if you want that. It will also have voloume control and a pause/play and refresh button. The face or the skin can be that of a simple boom box or radio.Anyone with links to a site or with code i greatly appreciate your responses.

I am trying make a voting system for my site and I have a part where people can vote certain things say in this case Top Hits In my Database I have a Table called Tophits, which has the following feilds. Song Name, Artist and CloseDate for this question I will provide a rough draft of my entries in databse. TABLE = TOPHITS------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Song Artist CloseDate------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-06Hello Chorus 2010-08-20Hello Chorus 2010-08-20Hello Chorus 2010-08-20Hello Chorus 2010-08-20Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13What I am looking to have as a result a count of only songs with a close date = 2010-08-13 arranged by the number of occurances. but instead of repeated results like Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Goodbye Hippies 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Whats Up Singer 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13Hello Chorus 2010-08-13I would instead like results that would only display a count and automatically should rearrange the list into descending order witht he most recurring song at the top and the least recurring one at the bottom. Similar to the one listed below. Goodbye Hippies 12 Whats Up Singer 6Hello Chorus 4 Thanks for all the help.

Oh my God dude. Thats such a sick life. surely how can a mother or woman be so heartless I mean I always assumed that normally in life the infidelity is normally prone to men not that woman are exempt but such high amount of descrepencies would come from a true player and when we say player its hardly a term owned by the female species. Its such a sad thing to have happened. I know maybe You dont wanna tell us if it was you or a friend that went through this horrible horriible tragedy missy, but just know that stuff like this does happen in life. You know the old saying that say life is stranger than fiction and your post is a true refection of this fact. If you are the one who has been through i dont know how you would cope really you'd need plenty support and counselling and if its a friend or close reletive please give them all the support they need cause this is a harsh isssue to face through life on your own. I dont condone what the mom did as in cheating and sleepinga around and the web of lies that ran in the whole family, the affairs witht he aunties and all but I know for a fact things like that do happen. Sometimes the parents forget that while they ar living thier life to the fullest sleeping with different partners and aving wanton sex with the forbidden fruit they may actually not only hurt each other but hurt the very children they brought into this world. Because as lovers they can forgive one another and move on and put the past behind, but how does a child cope with a family that breaks up in this manner. Do the parents even bother to stop and see what dammage they are doing to the family life for the very kids they brought into the world. THis is a a typical Family betrayal for sure. Edited to add this bit below. Thats the reason why its so shocking when you find it out because these events are those events we always assum would never happen to me but just in horror films. But I know for a fact that this is a typpical day in normal life for people in other parts of Africa. I actually have been to Nigeria on a Church Outreach and one of the Youths we spoke to who was about 17/18 had a simialr issue to tell, though the story they told was more like dad is dating girls from my grade and to because this had been going on for months with daddy not changing, mom decided to get back at dad by dating young toy boys too. While they were busy fighting and provong that two can play that game. Their daughter was so embarassed by the whole thing and how the other kids atr school would make lewd comments about bending mom over behind the bike sheds or the pool changing rooms or rhte back seat, the daughter was so stressed and wiped out that she took an overdose of pills and tried to kill herself. The parents were too busy galavanting to even find out until she was out of hospital and had run away from home and ended up on the streets as a hooker to fend for her self. Thats how we met her on a street outreach in Lagos. She hated that they were a rich family because it was the nice house and flashy cars that made dad such hot property with the girls. He would flash the cash and the girls knickers would fall to the floor. The mom started taking toy boys to expensive hotela and flying them around the country for escapades and because they were a prominent family in the community the stories spread like wild fire. Maybe if they were poor they would not have been so extravagant. The thing i realised is it normally happens in the well to do kind of families. You find there is a Rich family and woman throw themselves at the husband so he can give them money for fashion and food, Basically the woman are gold diggers. And there are men who actually will only date rich married woman cause they know women will spoil their man. So Im not really that surprised when I hear this story even though I still have an opinion on how devasting and shocking this whole event myust have been for whoever goes through it.

I think that the whole jil system doesnt really work and i think that we should be totally extreme. If you steal for what they call unjustified reasons such as stealing then I think they shold give you a warning. there after another warnign and the on strike three they should cut off finger. I know this sounds unhuman but if you thrive on stealling i guess if we cut away enough fingers yu get to a point where you going to think enuff is enough. Obviously hearing this from me will sound evil and possibly make you think what year am i leaving in but i will tell you why i came to this conclusion. When I was 19 I was hard workign and bought furniture for my house in full as in kitted my house fully ii then started concentrating on paying my mortgage. After a while i went on holiday for a long weekend and on my return in monday even I came home to find i had moved. Literally they broke into my house and took everything including my clothes all that was left was a bed base, they took the matress. I was devasted it was so hard to cope and a month later i was in the bus and saw a gentleman wearing my shirt I recognised my shirt because I had spburnt it on the collar and the cuff links were zippers and one of the zippers was stuck. I also reconginsed it cause the shirt was bought on holiday in South Africa so it was a slightly different looking outfit to the norm in UK. I did a citizens arrest and called the police who arrested this guy and took him to the cells they said they would contact me about the case and surely they did to tell me he'd confessed but he said he sold oall my stuff and didnt remeber to who cause he just had a garage sale using it. Guess what though, he plead not guilty when the issue went to court and the court released him on bail and they said they would give me a trial date 8 months later i called the police asking for progress they said the case was thrown out because since there was no evidence and the guy did a u-turn in court saying he only confessed cause the police were tourturing him psycologically he had said what they wanted to hear. Funny enough he was realied on bail and was given his clothes back which the shoes and jeans and Shirt were all my clothes he had stolen so no wonder they had no evidence.I never recovered my stuff and no justice was done. I wished I had cut a fiunger off his hand so he would learn and i would get retribution. So for me treating them well and giving them rights to a fair trial only made me a double victim. So I say no good treatment for bad guys actually do as in South AFrica Instant Justice if you catch a bad guy in a public place they mob beat him until usually by the time the cops come they have dealt thouroughly with the bad guy and if its a big crime like being caught red handed raping someone then they take a tyre put it around your neck and pour petrol on it and burn it. Thats the only way to treat criminals. I hate bad guys and dont care if they get an ounce of good treatment ever.

Oh yeah anwii tell me about it. Imaging if that was your only source of income for your xisto billing. It doesnt seem quite right to post for four month and only get $2 especially knowing the length and quality of you posts. That seems a bit unfair dont you think. I mean I got a 25 cent or so update basically my cents went up from 41 to 67.67 for the posts i made over few weeks. Its a change in mycents yeah but that what made me think they are manual as i asked in the status shouts a few days back. I assumed that Opaque was just manually going throug h giving people mycents so they have some form of my cents going in for their acive participation in the forms. I used to think MYcents were everyy 24hour period or sumthing like that but it seems they are totally random and one has to accure as much MYcents into their billing section to avoid getting billed when they have no money and end up going over drawn or suspended. I have been reading how somepeople have been suspended for not paying on time and i felt sorry for them even though I believe we sometimes allow such to happen to us because we dont have contingency pans interms of paying our billing. BUt still how can one get ahead if say they paid $2 for four months woth of posting especially with web-designer and anwii type of content and activity. Makes me wonder if we wont all soon be in the negetive in the billing section. I'm glad Opaque can be very understanding and all but hey i would rather accrue myCENTS the normal way than just rely on having to send an email to Opaque explaining and begging for understanding. I use the word begging loosely there.After all this is a really great service and the Mycents if just a bonus. I do learn a lot from these forums and have somethign i can look forward too when im bored at college or chilling at home. just wanna say thanks to KS and Opaque and the mods for this great service but please Opaque sort out the MYCents so they go back to the way they were in the past when oyu would almost get mycent updated with in a few hours of posting. As for zero warning anwii thats not too good for you reputation as the evil guy lol. you have to work harder and start bending the rules a little more and get into a bit of trouble so you maintain that reputation you so built over the years then you can go back to going **POOF*** when you going off line lol

It wold be nicer to know what your skin was like before and then after the products you have named. I have very sensitive skin and i would like to know if these products you mentioned work for my sensitive oily skin or they are just generic brands that are for all skin types.I hope when i next return there will be a little more detail than just this product called abc is good you should try it

Welcome Missy. I see you already well in to the family. Already you are experiencing the ask a question and get lots of answers and advice. You see thats why I love Xisto or KS because it a whole pool of knowledge and ideas. What i like is how every person pushes their form of ideology to the max so what ever you decide is the right answer or advice you will find you have volumes of backup info and a litreral encyclopedia on the advice you choose.I hope and see from your increasing posts that youo are managing your way around and i know your curious about MYCENTS before and it seems you have earned a few bob and you will soon be well on your way to good hosting and domains if thats what you are after. Once again I know others have said it but i wanna say it too Welcome to the Family or rather to our family of trappers and Sutras lol. Hope your stay is as benificial as it has been for some of us who at one point were so addicted to Xisto/ KS lol. I wanna go back to that so we will probably be meeting on here a lot and exchanging info.Welcome Missy

I am still lost i dunno where to turn now. This whole MYCents thing is doing my head in. I have been posting quite a bit lately and i think its been a couple of weeks and the mycents in my account are still the sameYesterday I made a couple of posts surely I could have gained at least one cent but i gained nothing. Is it still down or what. A thread would be nice with updates on the MYcents if Admin has any chance of updating us every no and again.

I doubt that your dream has any real meaning but one thing I know is that you are bound to get lots of different interpretations from different dream interpreters on this forum. I think that dreams are normally your brain processing thinks you thought about durng the day. I believe that as the day goes by your eyes are the camera lense and your brain is the film. so all day long your eyes blink assume that each blink is the camera taking a photo and the picture stored in the brain. and just a like a movie camera the pictures are stored in a sucession meaning when you flick through them at the right speed its like watching those old cinema movie witht the film in them. Sometimes as you cross the road you will look left and right to watch for traffic or is it right then left then right again as you look you see more than just the traffic but because you are concentrating on crossing the road you may fail too notice a woman crossing the road a few meters from you. this doesnt mean you brain film didnt capture her photo. just like those pictures you take on holiday or in the club then you realise arghhh there an idiot making a face in the background. Similar to that photo wth the idiot while you are sleeping the brain will play back all those picture like a movie in oour head and we may notice thing we didnt notice while the film in our brain was recording because our attention was elsewhere. As For you dream I think it just interprets as that theres an enemy who you dont realise is your enemy. Being feminine in your dream represents someone you trust probably someone you have close relations with like a lover or sister or best friend. According to the dreams interpretation site the person will be someone you dont think of as evil someone close and probably intimate in your heart. They will get close to yu and you will let them because they are in your circle of trustees. The black dress represents darknes / bad things and the pale skin also represets lifelessness or evilness. This means translates as basically you need to be carefull of those around you, the one you think you trust, even someone as close as your mother or sister. They may not be who you think they are or they will come bearing news that when you find out will hurt you a lot (hence the scream) it doenst mean its gonna be news to make you scream but screaming represents pain. Hence basically either someone you trust or love will hurt you big time or betray you or something will happen to a close person you love and they will be the source of great pain or sadness or betrayal. If onlyu you dream had more detail I would have been able to give you a more exact ttranslation. But based on what you have given me this is the translation I got. THe fact that the dream felt real relates to that fact that this is an event that is close to your current life. Which means it bound to happen sooner rather than later.

Its so rare when people actually do good for no reason. I think that people normally forget or take for granted the things that cost nothin because they are too busy to even stop and notice the smell of roses in the air. Everyone seems busy with getting to work and making the next dollar they dont even realise that a smile or a nod at a stranger can put a smile on someones face all day. Then again theres also the fact that people these days are in a culture of being uptight. tGirls think that if you smile at them you are tryna chat them up, women who are married think ooops im married if i smile back im sending wrong signal. Everyone is busy thinking what if what if and ignoring simple meaningful gestures which will brighten up the world if given out. Everyone is too busy suspecting each other to even realise that helping someone get up after a fall makes another human feel special and apppreciated.Everyone is so much into the suing culture and as i read on the forums yesterday that a woman in aussie sued a good samaritan for helping her in a car accident and in the process he made a mistake and she cut herself on a bit of glass and she sued the samaritan for that. Aparanetly from the forums i gathered thats sort of the culture in Aussie and I know thats the culture thats crept into UK too. Everyone is suing for ay mistake, you step on someones toes and they ask you for an adress you think then wanna send a thank you card youre wrong. In a few days boom a lawsuit through the post.If only people would start realising that these free gifts of goodness are only there to make the world a better place and they stop being greedy and sueing each other fo the smallest of things. Hehe in UK if a Kid gave you a flower but it just so happened the parent was distracted and turned around just as you were accepting the flower they would scream and accuse you of trying to lure their kid away and kidnapping their child. Youd probably get arrested and branded a paedophile and that would spoil your life for ever as your name would be put on a sex offenders / paedophilie register and that means you'll never for the rest of you life work in a place with vulnerable people. So you'd never be a builder, a courier, a teacher, doctor, social worker, nurse, you basically are stuck with being a general labouror or factory worker because those are the only jobs I know which dont run a police check or have relaxed rules on people who are on the sex offendes register. Its funny though two people anger each other and have a huge fight in the street and break each others nose people think thats not good but it happens and they sort of accept it. If the Police are called they arrest both and fine them. The record of a fine is only probably in the receipt book that shows how much a fine it was and six month down the line that doesnt show up in a police check. It seems the big things are what everyone concentrates on not these lovely little gestures. Even a present now, has to be something massive like an x-box or Iphone, Ipad yet when I was a child we were content with a bar of choclate. For chrsitmas we would just get lots of sweets in the sock and maybe a choclate bar and we were content it dindt matter tat santa never brought the remote control car i ask for. I was happy he left something in my sock and i wouldnt question or sulk ad be angry that I didnt get expensive costly stuff. But now kids get angry cause they didnt get an expensive gadget. Its as if to get a thank you one needs to pay through the nose and sacrifice big time. No One cares if a smile iss all we can afford or a flower is all we can afford. People have become so greedy and suspicious of each other they actually think these free gifts are actually hidden agendas for something sinister.Just a few months back, i was walking my dog and I walked past a car with a child screaming her face off. She was in the car and was tryna get back on the seat cause she had probably fallen off the seat and was trying to get back up. I think maybe it had hurt itself in the fall and unfortunately The mother was in a nearby grocery shop aand the little kid was crying. I could hear the child for about 5 minutes before the m0m came out. But were it not for the rules that put me at risk of getting arrested I would probably have gone closer to the car and checked if the baby was ok but had i walked up to the car and it so happened the mother came out that exact moment seen me near the car baby screaming and she would have screamed thinking baby is crying cause I am tryna kidnap baby or steal the car. And gues who the cops would have believed.OBviously i woould have been trying to do a free gift kind of deed but it would have been taken as somethign sinister and it would have been said I was being good cause i have some hidden agenda behind my good deed. and so i walked on and ignored the crying baby, but what if the baby had been caught under the seat by the metal bits or her finger was stuck in a crease or join in the seat or something more serious. I would have still walked away cause sometimes being nice comes at a price that may haunt you for the rest of your life. These gifts in themselves are beautiful Web_designer and I appreciate them but in todays society the beaut of the free gifts comes at a price that is too high to enjoy if they will tarnish your life forever. Especially in these countries that are very politically over correct. I wonder though seeing as things usually go round and rouond, will in the future things go back to being simple and people smile at each other not dogg smiles but genine heart felt smiles. Will people go back to once again realising that you can be nice to each other even if you are a stranger not be be trying to steal a purse, or propose love or kidnap anyone. Will people eer go back to just being nice because we are all humans whoonce in a while acknowledge that we live on a planet full of other humans too.

this is a situation were i would say did you hear about the woooden car with wooden wheels and a wooden engine - It wooden go.good luck i hope by now they are done making it.

Oh my God. This is perfect for you isnt it. Living with you new guy and still banging you ex who obviously is better in bed otherwise youd have stopped that by now. What you dont realise is that this is so unfair on the ew guy unless he is a cuckold or what ever they call those kind of men who are fascinated by a wife cheating on them. When you are older and past that whole teenage mentality relationships mean ten times more and moving in with a guy or girl has a lot of weight and gives a lot of signals to the guy you are seeing. He is thinking this is probably ti and giving his whole heart an soul into it all but then when he finds out he will be really hurt and betrayed. and it hurts even more if the guy you are doign is an ex cause you have left the past so why are you stuck in it he will ask. Rather a new person than an ex to be honest but right now it all depends why you with the current guy and how long was it in between before the moving in with current guy happened. Did you give enough time to think straight or was it all just a rebound thing for you. Just realise that you are dealing with real hearts and breaking them is something that leaves deep scars that sometimes takes forever to heal.

I totally agree with ANwii. Such people only find joy and excitement from taking advantage of not one or two or more girls. They are probable people with no diginity and love attention from women and never care of the consequences of their actions. Missy I would advise you to do something bad like Anwii said. That way he will be the one shutting you out. Yes it will hurt but in the long run its a good thing cause holding on to thiis addiction will only drain you in the end. You dont wanna be victim number 222 or 3948 in his book do you. All this guy is doing is notching up his number of stupid girls who fell for me on the net. He will tell you everythign to make you think he is your everything and that you cant survive without him but remeber 10 months ago you didnt need him so its not like if you left him you whole world would cave in as he probably has led you to believe. I'd say grab the bull by the horns and make a bold move, make him find out you are cheating on him or seeing someoen else (of course these dont have to be real situations just make him think that) and he will be angry tell him you dont care if he dumps you cause those people are better than him or something mean. He should get angry enough to say its ovewr between us and then make sure you let your heart weep and grieve if thats what you feel you need to do but for Pete's sake dont ever go back to him grovelling because this type of scum probably tells his mates yeah let them girls go cause even she goes she'll still come back crawling. So ask yourself do you wanna prove him right when he says such degrading statements about you.Imagine the stuff he told ROSE when she confronted him. He probably told her that MIssy is the one who cant let go I have told her thousand times to leave me alone but shes a psycho who just keeps following and begging me to take her back but i just cant shake her off she always yoyo's back. Now look she's stalking you on FAcebook. Oh god I hate that beech and I wish I never met her. He could have abelled you anything to His precuious ROse and you'd never know. Have you spoken to Rose ever since to hear what her side of the story is after the confrontation if she had the guts to confront him even. I bet you anythign she thinks you are a stupid psychopatic bieech who cant let go of her man and you will find that its not just Rose whose caught in your Boyfriends net. Theres probably 50 other girls planet wide all swearign and calling each other names because they have been led to believe you so called Boyfriend loves them and not the other girl thats been labelled a psycho who cant let go.Good luck in leaving him. But do it sooner rather than later as the longer you leave it the harder it will get.

I have had experience with Macs. They feel so easy to use, and most programs now come in apple mac compatible. I was just thinking the other day if i could install apple OS on my PC without having to fork out the high prices of a MAC. I have seen those Windows skins whick change everything including the logon and boot screens to the Apple ones and I think the software apple use is less problem prone compared to Windows. I loves the way the screen quality of everything on Macs looks. It like Mac Brought HD quality before even HD existed lol.Its a bit wierd that they have such high prices seeing as they release new OS systems every year or two and its hard to like stay uptodate with the latest software version unless of course they are like apple Iphones which sort off get updated added to the app store and then it tells you new software upgrade and youo download and install normally for a few quid (couple of dollars). What I love is the way they make their products unique. They have a team who sort of brainstorm new ideas and tries to make them a reality wheres Microsoft seems to look at the market and say hmmm whats in these days oh its 3d looking pictures lets make our backgrounds like that on the next Operating System we release and change the 5 inch floppy to the one Apple is now using on theri Macs. Wheeras Apple seems to think hmm what new think can we make and they say how about a touch sensitive mouse and lets try and a scrolling glassy bar with programs where you click instead of the start bar thingy. Then they work on that and make it a reality. few years later Microsoft is thinking hey why didnt we think of that. no wonder they cant charge an arm and a leg they are followers not leaders. Theres even a rumour that the original Itouch was presented to Microsoft and they said it wouldnt sell and the designers took the idea to Apple who said we'll try it and ofcourse whats this years biggest christmas gift hmmmm microsoft must be wishing they took the idea just think how much they could have sold it for and made shed loads profit.

i dont know much about dreams but I have always assumed that there's 3 stages of consciousness1. Full COnsciousness similar to what you are know as in fully awake and fully aware of whats happening.2. Uconscious which is when your brain switches off and runs with minimum activity3. Semi Consciousness the place in between the two consciousnesses I have listed above.i believe that the process of waking up is similar to a pc booting up. so wen you are waking up you are moving from the unconscious to the conscious . While you are unconscious you dream because dreams are basically your brain just sieving through all the thoughs you went through all day, it throws away the useless information and tries to retain all the good bits but while processing we process the images but because the part of our brain that visualises things is swiched off we sort of dont see a picture but as we start to come back into consciousness mode evrything starts switching back on including the part of our brain that projects the images/pictues in our mind we can call this the minds eye. as this switches on we start to dream and the pictures project into our minds eye and we see a movie playing in our head we call this a dream. but sometimes we fail to become fully away because we fall back into unconsciousness and then reboot but the part of our mind which process the thoughts still works while we are uncoscious it will continue going through the info while we are unconscious hence wen we start to wake up again therby going back into semi consciousness our minds eye will come back on and project the picture our mind in processing hence the dreams are usually wierd like one moment you dream of yourself driving a car going the beach then next thing your dream seemed to change and show you now eating cake in the bahamas. similar to watching TV and falling asleep then waking up and the movie has changed completely or when you wake up at night look at the clock its 3 am and you go to slep for 5 minutes and your alarm goes off and it now 7 am.the reason why our dreams seem to get disturbed by eg the postie or milkman is because we are only semi conscious while we reboot. similar to starting up your pc. once all the things are turned on your sense are completely turned on the the part of your brain that says hey thats a dream open your eyes and get up kicks in hence the time we thinking no no no doing wanna wake up im enjoying this dream but once we fully conscious the dream is replaced by reality I dont know if any of this doesnt make sense then maybe Im useless at tryna explain things. Also this may not be a scientific based explanantion but Im sure its very very close to the real thing. Maybe just the examples I am using might be a bit crazy.

I havent seen any resolution yet. SO this leaves me wondering if MyCents is back up again. Unfortunately my Internet is a no no hese days as they are digging new cables in my town they say its going to speed up the internet connect bla blah ablahhh this means I log in at random times into my Xisto and email accounts. This also means I cant keep an exact tab on the MyCents because by the time I next log in I cant remeber exactly how much I had las time so it sort of defeats the purpose when it comes to me monitoring the MYCENTS. I know Admin has not been too good with keeping us udated when it comes to downtime and teaking etc. But it would be nie if the admin would at least post on forums like this one a response or a closure telling us when the system is up and running again. I mean the last comment was in JUne and its 25 July as I write this. THere is no complete answer to the MY cents issue. It doenst tell a reader whether the system has fully gone back up or we are still stuck in a jam.For those with hosting accounts, I think you really cant blame anyone for things you can fix before they become a problem. FOr starters why would you run a webhosting that has no contingency plan? If you know you have a package that needs paying and the only way you pay for it is by gaining MYcents would it not be a good idea to accumulate Mycents as much as you can way in advance so that if the Mycents sysstem was down you'd still be covered for a couple of months before defaulting. I mean if you have a 1.95 month acocunt would it not be sensible to spend a day a week posting in the forums and at least have a 5 or 6 dollars minimum in the hosting section that way if the system went down it will be 2 months or even 3 before you can worry. Its easy to blame Xisto or Xisto for loss of site visitiors due to downtime. But you can put in a few hours a month to to cover yourself for 3 months. I have a hosting plan where I always maintain a 10 dollar minimum just incase I have a suprise holiday and have to go away for a while or similar to now when my Net is dodgy and I cant post as much and as often as required. This leaves me worry free because I have a 5 month window where I can mess about with out the stress of thinking i will get fined for late payment or have my site deactivated for non payment. See its easier to be pro active than reactive.Anyway I just hope the whole system doesnt go down as often as it has in the last 12 months and I pray that Admin team gets their act together to see whats causing the disruptions that dog this site in terms of the MYCENTS system.Wish you guys all the best and hopefully your sites are up and running and you back where you wanna be interm of being dot com entreprenuers.

Welcome DisturbedGoddess. Hope you find these forums as helpfull and entertaining as some of us have found them. We are all here to have fun and to help each other in whatever way we can. Welcome to the family. Theres a lot to gain by being on these forums, like knowledge and ad free hosting. You going to see how much sutra this site is after a while. Theres all sorts of characters on here who will be more than willing to help from ordinary day to day problems to complex relationship advice. We got allsorts of counsellers / advisors who will help out in almost every situation. Like the site says Xisto, we are all ready to share what little information we have if it will help you one way or another.once again welcome to Xisto DisturbedGoddess.

most of the facts are just romantic things girls wish guys would do. The list sounds so 80s and nineties cause thats when boys would do things like that. Nowadays boys are stuck in xbox 360 and internet dating theres no need to sacrifice lunch money to buy roses. Parents give you lots of money cause they dont want you to go throught the same embarassments they went through as Kids.I mean the whole stigma of you not gettignt he chic you want just cause you couldnt afford a decent valentines or birthday present. I mean not all of the things said are bull but its nice to know that people still believe in chilvalry dont know if i spelt that correctly. but then again its says to believe it or NOt so in this case let me say I choose not to believe thos list 100%

yeah this is a great idea. Get two greeting cards and send them to him. 1 for the 20 yr old kid and the other for the few weeks old kid to be born in future. lol. That would really get him worked up. right now he thinks he's in the control seat turn the tables around and say something mean to him. one thing that will totally wipe the smile of his face like . the only reason i stayed with you was because I was f**king your best friend or because the day you asked me out I was hoping your friend would make a move on me but he didn't so I settled for you instead. And to be honest i secretly aborted of your babies because i could not bear to have a piece of you inside me for more than 5 minutes.

Wow. Thats really hurtfully girl. But that's life. I know you probably dont want to hear this kind of talk especially when your are hurting. But this guy is an idiot. He should not be doing this to you. But then you know life is there are people who will have a great thing going but just for some reason get greedy or blind to whats good and go astray. In this case to be honest I think the person who regrets more the decision to move on with other people is him not you. After all why is he sending you the pictures and updates. He's just trying to hurt you and rub it in so you react. He probably expected you to go all psycho on him and beg and cry but you probably handled it all to gracefully for his plans and now he is trying to rub it in and make sure you are fully aware to what extent things are so you can cry and beg and hurt. Such people have no self esteem and no dignity so you should not even waste your time on him. He is not regretting what he did and sayign he's sorry but he's trying to make sure you are hurt beyond repair so he will become immortal in your life. As you will always think of how badly he hurt you and how much pain he caused you. Obviously he didnt make much of an impression hence hes still trying to make one after he has left you. its wierd how he's already an expentent parent with a girl almost half his age and with only a month of dating her thats very quick even for shortgun marriages but hey. Sometimes the only way he will get over you is by doing a rebound relationship but then marriage is a major step. I bet you if he aint careful they will be divorcing soon. I mean they dont even know each other that well and the age thing comes into play, what if she wants to go out like other 20 year olds how long will he handle waiting at home while she gets high and snogs cute boys at the club. With you, it was a time thing were you both grew to tolerate each other and know each other. You understood what upset him and he knew how not to piss you off so it was commgfortable living in same house. but think of the first days how much compromise was there. and will a 20 year old be willing to make those same compromises. I say just keep busy go out with friends and keep busy on your work or Xisto forums just keep your mind off him and if he mails you, dont waste you empotions getting stressed thinking he's begging you back only to see pics of the baby scan or his new hussy, just delete them or better still block him from your inbox or facebuk just shut him out that way you will forget him easier.THis is just my opinion you decide at the end of the day what works for you dear. but the more you keep reading his mails the more everythign will just flood to the front of your brain including the pain. Its better to just block it all out and it will be easier to move on.