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Do You Believe In Online Dating Sites?


asomormridul

Online dating sites are gaining a lot more popularity as one can access easily to the like minded people around the city. Moreover, most of such dates are one time activity and both the partners rarely remembers their dates.Have you been to such datings?How do you feel about such dating sites where two strangers fix meeting over a short chat?


eurobeat

it wasn't necessary


rpgsearcherz

I haven't used that type of site but I understand the dynamics behind it.It more or less breaks down the whole "looks" barrier and helps you to get to know people better for who they are rather than how they look. People's biggest argument against it is that people can "front" or act like someone they're not. If you met me in real life I could front even easier than online, because I can adapt my image to be someone I'm not as well. So I don't understand why people fear this whole "you never really know them." You don't know anyone in real life either. No matter who they are or how long you've "known" them. There are things they lie about, there are things they change, etc.It's just part of life.


Echo_of_thunder

Online dating sites are gaining a lot more popularity as one can access easily to the like minded people around the city. Moreover, most of such dates are one time activity and both the partners rarely remembers their dates.
Have you been to such datings?

How do you feel about such dating sites where two strangers fix meeting over a short chat?

well let's see here. I have to admit I tried it once and ONLY Once. They set me up with a very pretty lady. everything that I hoped for. she and I talked over the phone and E mails for about a month before meeting in person. Well That was Mistake Number 2 because mistake number 1 was even trying it, Same as most online sites, people lie. best to meet someone on the streets I think

akira550

why date online? well personal was good than online hmm but i believe in that


rpgsearcherz

well let's see here. I have to admit I tried it once and ONLY Once. They set me up with a very pretty lady. everything that I hoped for. she and I talked over the phone and E mails for about a month before meeting in person. Well That was Mistake Number 2 because mistake number 1 was even trying it, Same as most online sites, people lie. best to meet someone on the streets I think

Out of curiosity.. You say mistake 2 was meeting her. What happened?

Sorry, I've really gotta know this now!

anwiii

pretty good post for someone who hasn't tried it. it discusses both sides.

although i do have to argue the point that one can fool someone as easy offline compared to online. sure, you're able to adapt to any situation offline, but same can be true online. when meeting offline, you get things you don't get online. the slightest body movements and gestures, tone, etc... which makes it easier to know someone more fully...including the eyes and eye movements. even if someone shows a webcam, they are still at a disadvantage.

although looks are important as part of a whole package, what's in the inside is usually what is most important and the attraction online would lean more towards that. although it's easier to lie and decieve.

this is why i suggest after meeting online writing emails and im's, to transition quickly to the phone, and then transition to meeting in person within one week or two. i wouldn't wait longer than that in case you were meant to believe in things that weren't true. it can really screw a person up big time without any remorse from the one lying or decieving because they are dealing with their own insecurities and will justg make up any excuse to justify their own wrongs where trust should have been a given in an online dating situation.

but people are looking for different things online as well. some are looking to date, while others are only looking for attention as it's alot easier to get the attention they need online rather than offline. it's important to find out who you are talking to and the type of person they are as quickly as possible.

last but not least, i feel a need to say something to the online daters that i think president reagan said when he was president. "trust, but verify" the sooner you can verify in the online dating world, the less of a chance is there to get hurt.

I haven't used that type of site but I understand the dynamics behind it.
It more or less breaks down the whole "looks" barrier and helps you to get to know people better for who they are rather than how they look. People's biggest argument against it is that people can "front" or act like someone they're not. If you met me in real life I could front even easier than online, because I can adapt my image to be someone I'm not as well. So I don't understand why people fear this whole "you never really know them." You don't know anyone in real life either. No matter who they are or how long you've "known" them. There are things they lie about, there are things they change, etc.

It's just part of life.



Spyda

Here's how I feel about online dating. There are certain aspects of some dating sites that I think ARE pretty damn good. Let me take E-harmony for example. They use this unique compatibility thingy where you put in information about yourself and they will find matches based on the things you put. This matches you with somebody that you will have a high chance of being compatible with. I think this is much better then some other dating sites where you just look at people's profiles and send them messages and whatnot. The reason the former is better is because E-harmony took the hassle. No longer do you have to roam through numerous profiles, send numerous emails, and then get rejected many different times. I'm not saying you can't get rejected with E-harmony, just that there's a less of a chance then similar sites. And no.. I am not an E-harmony representative


gisellebebegirl

Well i think what those sites are trying to do is beautiful but im sorry they do not workpeople use them the same as they use myspace or facebook, and most of the people in those sites are playersi mean come on face it, if you join one of those sites you are not gonna be looking for just once personyou are gonna contact many, and get their hopes up, in hopes of finding the right personso people are misled and turned on, and others lie, because most just want sex or an open whatever relationshipaka a good timeand then on the other hand you hve the rapist and older men who are just looking for somoene to foolif you want to find true love, get your *bottom* out there and LOOK. dont sit in front of the computer hoping for the perfect boy or girl to type to you.


legend112

Well i think what those sites are trying to do is beautiful but im sorry they do not workpeople use them the same as they use myspace or facebook, and most of the people in those sites are players
i mean come on face it, if you join one of those sites you are not gonna be looking for just once person
you are gonna contact many, and get their hopes up, in hopes of finding the right person

so people are misled and turned on, and others lie, because most just want sex or an open whatever relationship
aka a good time

and then on the other hand you hve the rapist and older men who are just looking for somoene to fool

if you want to find true love, get your *bottom* out there and LOOK. dont sit in front of the computer hoping for the perfect boy or girl to type to you.


what you guys are saying is true...i've tried them and the results weren't that bad though...

I met a very understanding chick, but of course she had some weird issues...the things...who doesn't have issues?? so i can't really say the dating sites are bad.

They are only bad when used blindly...as with anything else. you do not have to talk to someone online and make the decision to marry right there. their role is just to set you up and the rest you do on your own

all you have to do is arrange a meet and get to know the person...don't let the site be the ultimate place where you chat and make the all important decisions...

so i think if used well. they are sites that can help much as ads in the press help as well

user681

ugh well let's see..you go on a generic dating site and look under the men section ..hm 3200 ads on men seeking women and 600 women seeking mennow you be the judge. tell me if this is actually going to work or not.


anwiii

they do work. that's why there are so many of them. yes, there are usually more women than men. that's why women always complain about the multitude of responses. they have to be good at sorting through all the b.s....especially the guys who are responding for one thing and one thing only.

ugh well let's see..you go on a generic dating site and look under the men section ..hm 3200 ads on men seeking women and 600 women seeking mennow you be the judge. tell me if this is actually going to work or not.



contactskn

Dear friends here I would like to narrate an incident in which whole life of a couple was spoilt due online dating and chatting etc. Actually it was some years ago one man and a woman of the same city met on internet in an online dating type of a site and they started a very long continuous chat with each other. But the fact was they didn’t disclosed their actual name and address to each other. At last after some months of continuous online chat and all they decided to meet in personal and decided a day to meet near a famous monument in that city both of them decided the time and disclosed about the dress color which they decided to wear that day. In the evening 6.00 PM as the decided time when they reached near the old monument there were no body nearby at that time and only two of them and will you believe ironically in real life both of them were husband and wife. After knowing this fact that for that many months they were actually chatting all those rubbish with their own spouse, they were not able to face each other and decided to divorce each other and now both of them are separated and living alone. So dear friends some times such incidents also happens as its very difficult to get a person online who may be disclosing all the personal details about them honestly. That’s why I believe that its very difficult to get a real relations through online dating sites etc. ?


nolan

I believe that online dating can work (not to mention that it has, many times). I do think, however, that in order for it to be successful, the two people involved have to be mature and understanding of the nature of their relationship. Additionally, I believe that in some cases online dating can be highly beneficial vs. offline dating, due to the fact that the number of people online is immense, thus creating a lot more room for narrowing in on interests and personalities that match your own.(On a side note, I do believe that at some point you have to meet the person physically. A strictly online relationship [for the entire duration of the relationship] doesn't seem that it would have a very high chance of success.)


mahesh2k

Never tried it myself. But came across few site owners who are into creating such sites and flipping them. So i guess it is working as their is business for such sites. Not sure what men and women prefer from online dating. What are their expectations but looks like there is lot of memberbase on some sites and active participation as well.


BuffaloHelp

Dating business always has been lucrative for people who are running the business. It's been catered towards the business rather than the person who subscribes to the service.The basic needs of companionship created business that drives the whole dating service world. You might say that if people are content with being alone, there wouldn't be any discussion for dating service(s) topic(s). And furthermore, because there are dating services people need to find that special person in their lives. And so the circle of what came first goes on and on.I believe that online dating sites are after one thing--your money. They may have the greatest intention according to their service pledge but at the end, it's all about the money. After all, who in the right mind runs a successful business without getting a rightful compensation? And what business charges only the fairest amount? It must make profit.There's no harm in being curious or inquisitive about dating sites and even joining them. And if you do happen to find someone that a service says you ought to meet, try and venture out.But if you are willing to venture out on the account of some service, you also should be able to venture out on your own and mingle. What gets me irked is that a person is willing to put his or her future by answering some questions and letting some stranger (or a complex and carefully crafted computer program) to pair up with another stranger, who also spent time answering some questions. And this person is willing to trust some selection chosen by this service and not trust his or her own self by going out different places, meeting different people.I wonder if the advancement of online services, online forums, the online itself created less and less time to meet real people in real social situation. And yet, use online service--which isolated us in the first place--to find someone whom we can share the rest of life together...perhaps sending SMS and chats to each other


buxgoddess

There are sayings of much ado about nothing. Online dating sites are nothing but a collection of pseudo-ominous people depressed with deprivation looking for a flirtation escapade.No wonder 90% of the user are fictious and fake. You chat with a boy and in reality is a girl worst a unisex.I have no intentions for registering into such sites nor visit such sites.


James Ferguson

Online dating sites are gaining a lot more popularity as one can access easily to the like minded people around the city. Moreover, most of such dates are one time activity and both the partners rarely remembers their dates.
Have you been to such datings?

How do you feel about such dating sites where two strangers fix meeting over a short chat?


Hi,

I never use dating sites but I feel all are fake sites. You can not believe on these sites.

knoppixusr

There are on-line dating sites and then there are on-line dating sites...It all depends what you are looking for. There are sites that will try to find someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. And then there are sites that are only to find someone to sleep with as a one night stand. (Those are the most common ones) The latter is obviously more dangerous , imagine you meet this random woman, sleep with her and she falls pregnant. She wants a abortion , but you are totally against abortion. What then ? The truth is you can never know a person too well, even in real life. There are literary 100's of important questions you should ask someone before you spend the rest of your life with them. Things such as Religion, Money, Kids, Sexual preferences ,Culture, Dreams, 6 things you cannot live without etc..... Some dating sites ask you 100's of these type of questions and if you answer them, they create a 'match' based on your preferences. which is pretty useful , doing that in real life can take a very long time. A good dating site can match you up with partners that are of the same morale standards as you. That still doesn't mean you'll work out but at least it will narrow it down allot. In my experience a good dating site used to be okcupid, but that was a time long ago, since then they have made their website slower by adding too much fancy graphix.


onkarnath2001

Online dating sites are gaining a lot more popularity as one can access easily to the like minded people around the city. Moreover, most of such dates are one time activity and both the partners rarely remembers their dates.
Have you been to such datings?

How do you feel about such dating sites where two strangers fix meeting over a short chat?

i never believe,,they are completely fake with a fake logic,,a person who dont even know one can not love another.i dont want to believe in such meaningless meeting.


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