I have to admire everyone's thoughts about expectations in a marriage ,as i can not find faults with ,anyone placing their own feelings about expectations being in a marriage ,right or wrong .I can only be inspired that ,such strong feelings are place in your replies .as for me i believe there is always some form of expectations in a marriage bond together .i will believe ,marriage is forever .i will see that in a marriage come compromising and accepting ,each other ,as themselves ,as must of accepting each other ,to actually fall in love and held vows in marriage ,to spend rest of your life together .within accepting each other ,there yes needs be strong compromising and the will within side your own heart ,to take both sides in any given issues ,good or bad and hold communication between the two ,in actually coming to some agreement in solving any risen issues in a marriage ,together .to always hold disagreements without compromising to me is only one sided selfishness that ,needs attention in maybe ,being more on grown up side of self instead that child ,that always stomped around ,getting their point across and their own way ,no matter what age ,we become ,that becomes very unpleasant .marriage is strong bond of two souls as one ,sharing their lives together through the good and bad ,till comes time ,both are content and happy ,just being ,there for each other ,finding great pleasures ,sitting on porch ,enjoying ,your surrounding life ,while two are sitting there ,one looks at the other ,the other ,knows just what that look really means and how simple look that sparkles ,means without ever saying one simple word.Grasping each others hands ,locking together ,holding that smile ,Life is Good ,that you both made it through all those Years together.When two people come into a marriage though and afraid to share their life with one they married afraid that doing that ,would lose something Important in the person they fought so hard to become in ones own self ,will always struggle through life ,feeling emptiness of never having that strong bond within marriage ,that shared look ,as always be discontent in all the wonders in one's own self .so thank you ,everyone for your wonderful replies ,once again i am inspired by the replies and touched my own heart ,as no one is wrong in how they replied ,as each is different in this world .that makes each of us ,special in our own ways .have a nice day