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You should not force yourself to continue loving someone that cannot respect and love you equally back. I fel that your still there looking after him because you have part love and part nurse holding you there. Maybe you need to end the relationship and still be friends? Maybe you need to talk to him about this and try and get him back into the sprite of things, if not, back to option one.

I know you said you didn't want advice on what she should do, but i'm currently in the same sitiution as yourself and if you don't help her do something about it, your going to snap. My friend had her ex-boyfriend which she still loved kill himself and her new boyfriend wants her to delete anything from him memories etc. and put a ew large holes in my sisters bathroom.When we told him Saturday night she didnt want to see him that night and just to cool off and she'll come see him in the morning, he was ok until 5 hours later when he showed up with a car full of his mate stomped in and grabbed her and they sped off, needless to say what my saturday night was spent doing!-- Moral is that whats this could lead to and its not good.You may sound harsh but you need to drop hints at why she shouldnt be with this guy, and give her alternatives as to she is with him, keep being by her side. Personally, i'd be in the same boat as what Saint Micheal said, give the guy a dose of his own dealings however that is not going to help her if you can't get her out of there or she won't leave.All you can do is do what you're already doing, be a good friend. Objective but Supportive and it's a really hard balance believe me. One of the reasons she may be with him, is because of her family. She wants love and support and to feel wanted. You can tell her until you are red in the face she won't get it from this guy and could have it more from as a friends and others but they don't seem to like to hear that so, supportive and if you need help or think anything is wrong, I wouldn't hesitate talking to the police or council workers, otherwise you'll just get yourself into a mess.

Sorry, we don't give out shoulders to cry on in the "dating Advice" forum. We do however tell you to look at the brighter side of life, and which fact you still have her as a friend, If you "know" you like her so much, then stop being such a moron and go give her a call and arrange to do something fun and romantic and tell her how you feel. She also went through a break up, and is more then likily to understand how you were feeling, she may have also lost some feelings for you since your weren't ready, but if your as close as your making out to be, then she'll be jumping for joy loving you sooner then you can imagine. If she has lost total interest in you all together anyway, was is a bad thing you turned her down then? (Could have lost interest in the relationship, and you have another break up to deal with). If you treat her good, look after her all time round, and you tell her how you feel and are %100 rejected by her, then come back and we may give you a shoulder, until then, you have nothing new to cry about until you know for fact she no longer likes you. Now go get the phone!

I don't think it is so much vulnerable, I think you just need to keep your head level while you love someone. Whilst you may love someone and do anything in the world for them, would you really? Just think how easy it is to fall out of love with them when something happens, why isn't it that simple when you "want" to fall out of love with them.If you want an open and trusting relationship, there canot be barriers, but onl disable these barriers if you can be 120% certain you won't be left hanging dry. If you keep yourself "level headed" you don't fall in-love as easily, and you certainly then find someone better then the boy/girl you meet last christmas, you only get stronger with each relationship, you learn from mistakes! Never give up though.

Strange how that works isn't it? It could get messy though, good luck. Jealousy is a wonderful thing.

How is he keeping you on the reserve bench? He asked you how you felt, and you wouldn't tell him, even though he has a girlfriend tell him. While it may not be fair for you to interfere with the current relationship its not fair on his girlfriend that he keeps stringer her along if he really loves you. I know how you think it may seem bad if they break up again that you somehow caused it, but if he is such a nice guy he isn't going to break up with his current girlfrend unless he knows its the right thing to do, because he loves you more, and he knows you love him, and he needs to know that, so go on, go tell him!!You can't make it just end, if he loves you, then thats that. If you love him, then that is what it is. You can't turn it on or off, and the only way this friendship will die is if you make it die. Why is it that you two hang out together and not invite his girlfriend? You could invite one of your girlfriends? The fact your with him by yourself is what is making the whole sitiuation harder then what it may seem.

That's what they want you to think. Has relationships really gone so far hat you don't love your partner enough to get through college/uni without having to think of other people except for your partner, all I have to do is think of the girl I like and everyone looks at me thinking, WTF you smiling at?

I understand what you are saying. Yes, I think they're all amazling hot to, (don't get me wrong there ), but to me there just hasn't been any that have made me go "wow" in my mind over and of the girls I have loved/love. Not to say that possibly won't in the future but being in my town here in Australia it's fairly uncommon. Who knows!

I think she was talking about the girl tsunami likes, her decision to leave her boyfriend for him or stay with her boyfriend. I say find out if there as experienmental as you are, could be a fun night for all. However, I wouldn't go making a relationship go bad if you have to work with her, your only going to land yourself into a unhappy workplace for yourself and her. I suggest you make the decision while your sober, drunk actions have the same results as drink driving, your through a brick wall.

Well the chain has to break somewhere, either a massive anti-interacial relationship protest or the whole world accepts the fact it's happening, and not a bad thing. I'm white, I'm not going to care weather someone who isn't white is in a relationship with someone who is, It just wouldn't be me, not because I think it's wrong, I just don't find them to be attractive to me. It's peoples opinion, and it's here to stay.

All four before are right in everything they say. Don't hold yourself down in dwelling over a guy, that made the choice to get her pregant, not worth your time, move on from the "what could have been" to the "what will be". Set yourself as someone who will learn from past guys and know that whoever may come from this point on, you will not "love" as easily and for this, you and your relationships can only get stronger.I have to agree with Azreil, it is confusing for the guy when he is faced with someone he may love, on the other hand the mother of his child, but he made the stupid choice to get her pregant, and for that he cheated on you, not worth your time, and he will have to live with the fact the as Azriel is, I left and cheated on the girl I love, and now I have a child. And it's also these children that have it the worse growing up, fighting parents, maybe only one parents and it's hard for the child they don't have the freedom most children do, he'll live with that fact for awhile. You Sara, could have your time to cry and relieve some angry, then when your ready, go out with your friends, think another day, and i'm sure you'll find someone who is better not egotistical and loves you as much as you love them. You sound like someone who is kind, caring, loving and fun, and therefore truely amazing guy will come along soon. May not be many of them, but they will find you.

It is her damn birthday ... Don't just get her something nice, plan a whole day that will last in her mind forever and ever.Breakfast in bed, maybe go out to an amusment park, movies, grab some dinner, i'd say if you wait until dinner and tell her how you feel you'll have no problems. But hey, whatever happens you'll still have her friendship, otherwise she doesnt have the muturity to handle the situation, but im sure she will.

Whats wrong with the Green and Red combination? It could look very sliming. 1) The fact of what girls find attractive pshically will change from person to person 2) No point trying to impress someone if you can't continue to do so after the start of a relationship, simply end in tradgey 3) Why bother trying to impress her with pyshical looks anyway? Simply make sure you look nice, (not nerdy, not wacko gansta) and bam (go to point 4) 4) If they Like you it will be because YOU are YOU! not you pretending to be Joe Impression

When does liking someone turn into love? Is it when you can spend 4 hours talking to them? Knowing you should be sleeping for work in 5 hours, but won't because you want to keep talking with them?I find myself behind a rock and, well two rocks actually. I have one really great friend, who I like, she is nice, same age, fun, alittle shy and I like her. On the the other hand I have this really amazing girl who is like one of the boys, except to me, I still see her as girl underneath. Both are amazing, but are very different to each other, the first still likes her ex-boyfriend and the latter just got ou of a relationship, whom of which I think still likes her Ex-boyfriend as well.Love is complicated, however, I'll keep trying to figure which is the better choice. I also have deep personal issues, like Big Bird sleeping under my bed, Cookie Monster eating all my cookies, Love! haha. Have a good day all...

Sorry to hear that Azriel, it's always tough breakin up with someone you thought you were going to marry and spend the rest of your life with. How are you coping, and daughters are cute at 9 months, but you know they don't stay that way forever.

There is different levels and many misconceptions surrounding long distance relationships. Is it an offline or internet relationship?, how far is far? Do you ever see each other? I so, How often? All thos eplay a part when stating "Long distance relationships do not work.." If you're serious about her, and she is serious about you, then it will work, and if your both mature then it has even better success rate.What I see happening these days is those chat rooms where you meet up, and you see a few pictures maybe even webcam etc, and she is fairly hot, you give her a few pictures and she thinks your cute, and give the whole relationship a go but they always no they can still hold another relationship and the other person would never know. Its how immature people are becomming with relationships these days.

Semi-Admitting anything to something is a cop out and could lead to all sorts of trouble. You need to fully tell her how you feel, I dont think it matters if it's over MSN, face to Face or even a letter just tell her th whole truth. You'll only ever regret it if you don't. If she is leaving your school, then she may drift away, so get in now.

She got sick of simply sitting around waiting for you to ask her out, so she decided to ask you out? Whats wrong with that? She may also have felt that you didn't like her, you'd never ask her out, so she asked you out.If you feel uncomfortable, then there must be many girls that feel uncomfortable because we ask them out. I've heard many girls say infact, that they are a 'prize', ie. we have to get them, and they should never have to 'get' us. I disagree, If I like a girl, i'll be friends with her, and ask her out. If she likes me, doesn't that make me the 'prize'? People have to think about what they want out of the relationhip, being together or having someone to show off at parties and down the street? Sadly, for most 'young' people these days it's the latter. I say if she asked you out, say yes, if you like her. If its a hoax, then you'll know soon before you get to deep into the relationship, its hard to keep a hoax running.

Hold yourself to that advice. Also give it a push, give her something to make her know and remember why she loves you, why she is with you, and why it is she should very much stay with you. Relationships involve two people and takes two to make it work. Don't think the worst case if she has a guy friend, because, thats her escape from you, sounds harsh but nothing will happen if you are giving her something to remember you and remember why she loves you. The breaking up and getting back together isn't healthy for the relationship but shows that you both do love each other. It also shows that you do each have differences and that you need to work towards bridging that gap to overcome those differences.

Well look at it this way, if she is spending the whole summer with you, well she ain't spending it with some other guy now. Just think, you could be the one she likes my by taking her out, you know, swimming, walks etc. and fun stuff she likes to do. Then when the moment is right, just tell her how you feel, sounds daunting but if she has had a really good time, she'll either like you, or she won't like you in that way, but stay friends with you.Friendships are only ruined by those that cannot reliese the other doesn't like them and move on and be as they were friends, they try to impress and make the other like them which in turn pushes them away from you. Which isn't good thing to do considering you like her both as a friend and more. Don't forgot flowers one time, maybe even small girts for things. I gave one girl a single rose one day, she asked what it was for, simply said: "Because the mornings are gloomy, stepping out the door, to your beautiful sunshine, makes my mornings the best" <-- and that was in the morning when my brain don't work so, all is possible.

Get to know her more, become a good friend. I'd have your wits about you though that she is now talking to you after so long not talking to you, and even having a go at you in earilier instnces. It could be she is single and now she likes who you are, don't change fo her, and don't take her for the sake of it, make sure both yours and her feelings a genuine.

As I said, it's fine to meet someone over the internet, if they have webcam and you have webcam then thats your first step, simply pick a public place to meet and say it will be a group thing. If they don't know your information then; A ) They don't have your phone number; can't call you. B ) You meet at public place; they don't know where you live or goto school etc. C ) Meet wih friends; you can make them meet your friends, see who they really are. You just have to be smart about what it is your going to do, there is no sense having a bunch of your mate (guys) if your going to meet a girl, it would just end in tradgey. No reason you can't use the internet to meet people.

If you like the girl, keep doing what your doing, being friends with her. If you become a good friend you'd get an insight into her relationship and see if she is happy or not, and weather anything is going to happen soon. Do not do anything stupid and try to break them up, only have negitive effects on you with the girl and her then ex-angry bf! Just keep talking to her, and having fun. Think before you act, and if she shows signs of liking you, then do tell her at the right moment, don't go overboard and don't ask for an answer or relationship.

You could just go and buy a nice wig and spend the money on something better, or shave it all off and get some muscles and be a bikey or truckie. Few tattoos, all will be good.

Yes, just be careful though, sometimes it could land you deeper then you want. Just a CD with a mix of normal songs and a message of love songs could be the best way to go. Just add in some of her fav bands and singers etc, let her listen to it, you'd be known for ever.