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lol... Well then lets make this our own personal psychology discussion thread. haha.I am in agreement with a blend of both explanations that you gave. Humans have a tendency to offer a few theories and say "one or the other" but a blend of all of them is usually the most correct one. For example... on #1 you say they simply observe. on #2 you say they hook them up and measure brain activity. Perhaps they do both? They may observe them WHILE they are hooked up to see what activities say what in their brain. Or they may watch them for a while, form a few ideas, and then check it out with the machines to either confirm their ideas or not. Or maybe they observe brain activity first to get an idea of what capabilities they have in the first place and get in the right frame of mind, then watch their play time to analyze what they discovered and draw new ideas and theories from there... did that make any sense? I basically combined your two theories together to make several new ones.You most likely wont learn anything from me, since I am only a 15 year old sophomore in highschool who hasnt even taken the class yet. I am very smart for my age though so dont under estimate me! I just read books and do research. I do studies from this psychology textbook i found in the hallway one day. I read it like a novel. I just have a passion for the subject, no formal training. So it really would be ironic if you learned a thing or two on psychology from my humble research.I am interested in neurology. I like reading about cases of brain damaged patients that have interesting combinations of handicaps. You should look into it. It is very interesting. Have you read the book "the shattered mind" by howard gardner? its a little outdated but it is very thought provoking.I also like to study theories of body language... I am actually interested in ANYTHING that has to do with the human mind. This includes how it is constructed, how it operates (i am aware we dont have the answers but i am big on reading theories) human intelligence, evolution, behaviors, personality development... etc. Just about anything you can think of about the human mind, I am very interested.A little off subject, I also think that dolphins are interesting. lol

thanks for the reply... I know about the last two now. But I disagree with the statement that just because most people here are programmers and web designers that they wouldn't be interested in role-play. That is a bit stereotypical. But this is just my opinion and I value yours as well. I am a web designer (not necessarily a programmer i only know html) but I have a broad range of interests and so do others. But that is all I will allow myself to say on that. Thanks for your input on that and I appreciate your evaluation.

Well actually... I happen to have a very curious personality. I have read many books from the library all my life. I happened to have those memorized. I didnt go look them up on the internet or something. Those are just facts that I remember that were stored in my brain. Speaking of chocolate I heard there are an averge of 6 insect legs in every chocolate bar. I dont know if thats true or not but... hey. XD

in my experience it is better to go up to him and tell him directly to his face you like him and see what he says. Guys dont like it when girls play games with them any more than you like it when guys play games with you. He would probably admire your bravery. Dont get your friends to talk to him for you and dont ask other people about him instead of you asking. It makes you look like a spineless coward. If you want to know something, ask him. If you want to know more about him, have a conversation with him. Ask him what his hobbies are, his favorite color, favorite movie, what he likes to do on the weekends, what he likes to read (if anything) does he play any instruments? is he an artist? Make a commitment to actually get to know him as a person. Get to know him on the inside and try to find things in common and talk about those things. Do not make it all about you. Guys and girls both like to feel special. So give him a compliment every day. But do not over do it. You dont want him to think you are really desperate or easy. Keep your dignity.

I am DEFINITELY a psychology enthusiast. Anything you have to tell me about psychology, I will listen to you and give you my complete and full attention. I knew it wasnt set in stone as far as the ages go, but I find it interesting that some completely skip entire stages or dont ever leave them at all. I also find it interesting that this data was able to be obtained. How did they come unto these conclusions? I would love to read the notes of this study.

I would be SO completely thrilled to have a psychology section. I would be posting there a lot. I am very interested in that subject and I would have things to share... What are your favorite classes? What are your favorite parts of psychology?

I see his name everywhere as well, and I agree with you, this is quite ridiculous! There is a fine line between being active and participating, and completely being obnoxious and breaking rules. He has way crossed this line. If you reply to everything thats fine, but not if you have nothing useful to say. I pick my posts carefully. I prefer quality over quantity in ANY area of my life, including forum activity. I think he should get a firm warning before being banned, but if the bahavior continues, I think he should definitely be banned, along with his other account. You just dont cuss at people on forums its wrong, especiall if they are the admins. tsk tsk tsk... Thank you VERY much for pointing all of this out.

Did you know polar bears are left handed? and girl polar bears prefer old snow to new snow. And polar bear fur isnt white. It is just reflecting light and has no color. Also, polar bears overheat more than they get cold. Isnt that ironic? Just thought I would share that. hehe

A while back i learned and memorized the speed of light. 300,000,000 m/s. I also learned that it is MATHEMATICALLY proven that if you can travel faster than this, time sort of stops. So in theory I guess you could say time travel is possible as long as you can travel this quickly. Except it would be different from what science fiction tells us it is. It would just be getting from point a to point b (like in traffic) at the same time you left, not like changing events or something.I also learned the universe supposedly expands a few billion miles or something every hourDrugs and prostitution is legal in amsterdam... wtf?There are lizards that live in the desert that quirt blood up to 5ft out of their eyes as a defense mechanismIt actually IS possible to lick your elbow. You just have to be rediculously flexible. Try doing it every day and eventually you will be able to stretch far enough to do it. Its kinda like putting your legs behind your neck... I know this because i saw my friend lick his elbow.You know that song called lithium by evanescence? Well she got that song off mozart! She just added words to it and used guitars instead of the classical instruments.There are monkeys that can type on keyboards and talk to their trainers. They think like us. One of them got mad at the trainer and told him to go away because they were mad. They also "invented" a form of swearing among themselves. quite interesting.A mad scientist cut the head off a dog and attached it to stuff. The head lived fully functioning (drooling at the smeel of food, breathing, etc) for 2 daysThere are computers made to write poetry but it isnt very goodThere are brain damaged people that cant read or understand what you are saying but they can write fluently. They just cant read it back when they finish. And they wouldnt be able to tell you what they wrote but it could be the most brilliant paper ever. They just wouldnt know.

oh okay Thank you for clarifying this with me. But I do still think that there should be a role-playing section. And that other guy had a great idea for having a place to post your blog sites for others to read. If there was a role-playing section i would be posting SO much every day. It would be even cooler if there were different categories for the roleplay section like fantasy sci fi, etc.

My bad... i am new here.. I will do that from now on. I fixed it! thanks for the reply

Hello bas! It is nice to meet you! My name is mandy, i am 15, and I live in the usa. I like playing the guitar, running my website, learning things, drawing, talking to my boyfriend, listening to and writing music, writing poetry, etc... also enjoy video games. My favorite is Oblivion and kingdom hearts! Feel free to drop me a line, my email is mandy_estelle@rock.com

Hello! My name is mandy *shakes hand* I am pleased to see such a strong announcement of your atheist. *pokes signature* i am a strong atheist myself. I admire your knowledge in programming and I share your view in the love of learning new things, except I am only 15. If you would like to help me out with my website, that would be great! It is a humble little place right now... One day when I am knowledgeable enough it will be a virtual pet site. I am also an artist so it gives me the opportunity to express that by drawing up the pets and such. The website (for now) is here: estelle-online.webs.com and I am saving up for a domain right now. Anyhow it is nice to meet you joshua! Feel free to drop me a line any time.

1) Roleplaying-Roleplaying is something that interests a lot of forum users, including me. I would love for there to be a roleplaying section. I like to make characters and make stories with others and stuff on forums. This is traditionally almost always a part of any big forums and I am surprised that it is missing.2)Psychology-I know there is a mental and emotional health category, but I feel there should be a category solely for those seeking advice on the subject of psychology. While im on that note...3)Advice and help. An "ask questions" spot.- This could have several sections. It would have topics that are already there but more advice geared. Just for people seeking answers or wanting to help the afore mentioned. A few would be psychology, weight, dating, etc... But for advice only not telling what happened yesterday or posting informational topics for others to read. questions and answers. that would be the difference.4)Website Bragging-Im not sure if this is already here, but it would be cool to have a forum to brag about your website. There would be ules of course, like only one topic per person, no spamming, be mature, and so on. Just an ideaI think adding these categories would make an awesome forum become ever greater than before. I am sure others would appreciate this as well!Oh and about the advice/questions section... i think that would also keep the other topics more organized by keeping the questions about a topic separate from the discussions and conversations about a topic, dont you think? if you want an intellectual conversation on psychology, you want to find topics for conversation and not sift through all the little questions. But this is just my opinion.Let me know what you think of these please! I am not trying to be damanding or picky, i am just trying to help you guys out a little bit.

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Did you know iq tests were originally developed to test children to determine which ones to send to school? if they failed, they were considered stupid and nobody bothered with their education. There were sets of questions for each age. If you answered questions right for your age, you were okay. if you were lower than your age you were stupid. But they did not take into consideration that if a four year old answers age 7 questions she is smarter than a five year old that answers five year old questions. Then someone decided that they werent very accurate for various reasons. Then a man came up with a new test that came out with a number instead of an "age score" and put it on a scale of one hundred. He figured the average would fall into 100 and below average below that and above average below that. Anywho... every iq test has to be standardized and tested on thousands and hundreds of thousands of individuals to determine what score would be "Average" and so on and so forth. The questions have to be custom tailored and modified to suit the minds of the current society in order for it to be a standardized and accurate iq test. I am pretty sure the ones you took online were not "standardized" in the traditional sense but they do give you an idea on how you compare to others on the internet.

I suppose "male menopause" is a way to look at it, but I must say this is just age. This also happens to women. And it isnt menopause. It is just getting old. Menopause is losing the ability to have your eggs fertilized, is it not? You cant get pregnant after that. Men dont exactly have that to lose so this is not male menopause. o_o Well I heard about this one guy who was complaining of hot flashes and cramps and bloating... they got him to the hospital and he had a uterus in his stomach but it was just... THERE it wasnt connected to anything. Thats brazil for you... all sorts of freaky births and crap. Well anyhow you must know that this is just LIFE and there is not menopause in men unless they have the ability to get pregnant or they were a transgender who kept all their girl parts.

She may have a phobia of choking to death. There are several phobias relating to dying of some sort, some more common than others. Some fear being burned alive or murdered constantly. Identify the problem and try to get therapy for it. A therapist will narrow down her phobia to the root source and attempt to undermine it. Phobias may seem ridiculous to others but she cannot simply 'getover it' it is very real to her. I know because I have several of them myself. For instance i have a morbid phobia of childbirth. Just anyone talking about it for more than a second brings terrible feelings of trauma. She may have nearly choked on one of her pills one morning and not told you. Its just like if you get bitten badly by a spider and nearly die, you will most likely be afraid of them. Humans brains are programmed to avoid things that are harmful to them. things that are considered 'harmful' are different for every individual. Due to some sort of experience she has had, your wife finds swallowing pills harmful to her well being. this is also the explanation to other fears that may seem unrealistic to you, such as fear of heights, fear of closed spaces, fear of OPEN spaces, etc. These phobias activate a chemical in your brain in the part called the alygdama (im pretty sure thats the name) and triggers what is called the fight or flight response. This has been around for millions of years and is part of what is called the 'basic brain' that reptiles had before humans. As humans evolved we developed more and more specialized parts of the brain, and scientists believe this is part of what makes us so special. Anyhow, the fight or flight response gets triggered and she chooses to flight instead of fight because her brain interprets the swallowing of pills as dangerous and needed to be run away from. This may be due to an imbalance of chemicals in the brain.

Wow that is a very sensitive topic. If you have been with her for four years and this is the first time this has happened, then i recommend you give her a second chance. If you truly love her and she truly loves you, you should be able to work through this somehow. If she is really important to you you could try marriage counseling, even though you are not married. You have been together for longer than a lot of marriage couples they see in there anyways. If she left you to sleep with someone else, maybe she thought you two were finished for good and felt this was okay. These sorts of questions can only be answered by actually asking her and listening to what she has to say. aybe she is going though a hard time and is confused. But see what is going on before you make any sudden decisions. So whether or not you stay with her depends on her. Be gentle when you confront her, and be unsterstanding. There may be some underlying issues that you dont know about that could entirely change the situation. Just talk to her and see how it goes. Then give it about a week and then make a decision once you have more information.

The "eight glassess of water a day" thing is mentally overwhelming for some people so it rarely gets accomplished if you put it that way. I prefer to have like a little system and little "rules" for people. Like in school, always drink a good amount between your classes. drink water when you wake up, drink water before you go to bed, drink water before and after you excercise, and drink water at your meals. Notice I didnt say a specific amount? i said drink SOME water. You could have your soda too. whatever. but either way you get your eight glassess and it is (to me) less mentally exhausting to think about if you just do these little things. I mean you get thirsty during school anyways right? well wala. There you go.For nutrition foods, if you put it that way, people think its too much commitment or something. So if you say "eat an apple" or "get some of your favorite fruits for snacks" that doesnt sound scary. Its all how you look at it. Just saying. Oh and for easy exercise, take the stairs instead of the elevator, dont park RIGHT in front of the store so you walk, walk faster instead of slowly down the school hallways (you wont be late either... BONUS!) place your alarm clock at the opposite end of the room (sounds lame but trust me) dont just stand around on the escalator walk up it (or for a fun activity that gets good exercise, try going UP the DOWN escalator or vice versa) you could try ddr (dance dance revolution) or wii fit... theres all sorts of ways to look at things that make it better and easier to deal with mentally. its all mental. And for foood, instead of icecream try frozen fruit things. I personally love del monte fruit chillers. they are AMAZINGLY flavorful, have ice cream like texture, soothes the cravings for cold food (which i get often) and they are healthful! just substitute stuff...

I dont have much help to contribute since I have the same goals you had and all... I was just wondering if you could tell me all you have learned in your training so i could apply it to my own life. I one desert a week thing sounds promising. I am always binging... I cant stop. And I am always afraid to go run or something because i get pains everywhere and my heart beats so fast i feel like i am gonna pass out and it gets harder for me to breathe. Nobody else seems to have this issue though. People say just do pushups and situps but I cant do these! I do one situp and i lose like all my strength and it takes like 10 minutes to do just that one situp. I am not even kidding. So anyways do you think you would mind sharing with me what you have learned so far and all the little plans you have been following for the different weeks so I could start using them?

this is a great post! Too bad i didnt read this until AFTER thanksgiving and christmas! Lol. Well I know know which is what counts. This was very creative, informational, and helpful I will keep this stuff in mind next holidays! I think you should make a post for everyday tips similar to these. I have a problem with binging food. How can I stop eating so much?! I eat huge HUGE bowls (somtimes multiple) of cereal for breakfast, i get GIANT heaps of food for dinner and i eat whatever i can at lunch. I am of average weight, but i would like to slim down a little so my fat doesnt hang over my pants and i dont have cottage cheese thighs. So... could you make a post on how to prevent the urge to binge on a daily basis? Like little tricks and stuff... The water drinking sounds useful I will try this but i was wondering if you could help me out.

Yes that system does have its flaws but it does have a few uses. It could be a good wake up call for a lazy person who doesnt really care... they go to a doctor and have this done and BAM. they care.... okay maybe not. XD But a lot of times doctors not only take into account your height and weight, but also your weight size and more modern tests include muscle mass testings... Better meathods come out every day. But besides all that, I dont really beieve in the whole number thing. It is just kinda asking for people to feel bad about themselves when they get stuck into some retarded weight category and people tell them to lose weight because of what some stupid calculator says. I mean honestly...

Thank you for posting this, I find this all highly fascinating. I am deeply interested in psychology. The human mind is just amazing to me. Thank you for posting this and sharing this with the world. I intend on being some sort of psychologist. Hopefully a either a neuropsychologist or a cognitive psychologist. You should read a book called "The Shattered Mind" written by Howard Gardner. It is about a neuropsychologist who studies patients with some form of brain damage, combined with the story of a stroke victim named peter franklin. The entire thing is just simply amazing. Well, I am only half way through it, but you see my point? Anywho read that, it has a lot of stuff about this type of subject. I also appreciate a book called "Brain Power" by Franklin Watts. It is a short, but very interesting and informative book. Both of these were written in the 70's but I still hold them above most other books I have read in the sense that they are the most fascinating to me. Did you ever get a degree in psychology? If you have not, I think you should. I see that you would deeply enjoy being a psychologist if this is the type of thing you prefer to study and learn about.

I completely agree with you on every single point you just made... But I must say in addition to what you said that even when music is produced for music these days, it isnt what it was, say... 5 years ago. The music taste of todays musicians just arent as good. And all of todays top stars are just mainstream fluff. They dont really amount to anything to me. I am talking about the disney stars. Like the stupid jonas brothers and hannah montanna. I think people take that crap way too far. The stuff isnt even that great. I think all the disney fluff is just so over rated, where it used to be alright. But on that same note, the stars that come from disney are all turning into freaks one by one. They get super popular and then they cant take it, and they flip out and completely go psycho. Like brittney spears. Need I say more? She went all crazy... too much fame and paparazzi made her crazy. Poor girl had no privacy and there was so much pressure on her. Lindsay lohan... She used to be so adorable. I mean look at the parent trap. So priceless! But look what happens... they all get eating disorders or something. Speaking of eating disorders, look at the mary kate & ashley twins. They started out real early on full house. Now they are like all slutty and anorexic or something...im not saying ALL disney stuff is bad, but its amazing what kind of fluffy crap disney spoons out. Easily digestible main stream crap they probably didnt even write. You are completely right, its all about money. I bet Disney makes millions off of hannah montanna alone. thats not including the other crappy stars. Also on the subject of rap, I do not consider that music at all. It used to be...erm... tolerable to say the most. But thats just my opinion. There was at least a real message to it. Now it is all clubbing, booty shakin, drugs, murder, gangs... the sad thing is that a lot of people look up to rappers as role models because they grew up in the ghetto or whatever. And that is a REALLY bad example to follow. I think stupid music is one reason why the intelligence of our country is lowering. All the music and tv tells them school is lame and it doesn't matter. They look at all these rappers and think they can get rich too without high school and college. And I dont think rap should even be considered a genre of music really. I know this whole post is really harsh but I will stand by it. This is what i feel and believe. 'You are completely correct. The best new stuff is all underground. They dont get signed because the music producers only care about easily digestible garbage. Thats not what most of the under-grounders make. They have stuff with real meaning too deep for the new shiny packaged bubbly crap of todays world of music.