Lied To For 3 Months I was lied to for 3 months

[rldowling03 0]

Ok, i will start at the beginning whic was about 3 months ago. Ok i met this person off prodigits (which is a wap/mobile phone) chat community and when i met this person they said they were female, with a boyfriend and she was raped 3 times by her step-dad and she had to quit school because she was being teased by others saying she wasn't good enough for her step-dad which i think is very mean, and then she said she was pregnant and I believed her. Ok so we chatted for 3 months and met a few of her friends and her boyfriend in that time, but last night we were chatting and she said she a really big secret and than she told me that she wasn't pregnant, she didnt have a boyfriend and that she wasn't even a girl!!! This perosn was really a guy acting a girl leading an imaginary life with imaginary friends which really upset me at first and then he told me why he did it. He did it becuase he felt bad about what i been going through and wanted to cheer me up so he pretended to be a girl which he did make me forget about my life and problems and i started to really enjoy her company but whe he told me i was upset but not mad. Now we still chat but should i just go on like it never happened and i never met this girl he made up or should i just not talk to this person at all!! I feel better now i got this out!!

[Justin S. 0]

That happens all the time. People pretend. Hey at least he didn't want to like you know. What I am trying to say at least he was not some wierd guy.

[rldowling03 0]

Yea i know tat can happen, but this person gave me pics that he said were her and they all looked the same and that and this perosn was very good at pretending to be a girl it was so believable i couldn't believe it when he told me he made her up. But I not holding it against him as he saved my life pretending to be her so we gonna be friends now. At least most of what e said about him was true just change gender and name! lol.

[shadowx 0]

a couple of my mates done this to another mate and said they were some girl, photoshopped some porn images of a girl and said that was what they looked like and asked for some naked pictures of him...and he sent them lolAtleast he did help you abit though and he taught you not to trust anyne online untill you really get to know them and have met them for real. and what Justin said lol that really mightve turned out worse!

[rldowling03 0]

Yeah and i not into that sort of thing anyway.

[PmH 0]

Wow, that's quite a series of events. I think you should make it clear to him that what he did is not very nice, and indeed it is disrespectful, tell him that he cannot escape reality like that forever.This happened me kind of, too. Except I knew the person and I met with him/her everyday. They told me that a friend of theirs died in a car accident, then months later they told me their friend was actually in a coma, and that he/she had memory loss. Then my friend lied about some other things, and I just didn't know what to believe. I'm not even sure if there was a car crash. These things happen, people want to pretend, people want attention.This is a very sticky situation, I think you two should still talk, but let him now how it made you feel, let him know what he did was not right.

[rldowling03 0]

Yea we talked about it and decided that he will be himself. He knows it wasnt right but he did it for me to make me feel better and happier and it did work!

[PmH 0]

Well I guess the truth does hurt sometimes. He seems like a reasonable kid. I'm glad things kind of worked out and you two are still friends. That's always a good thing.I guess there's nothing to do, just don't think about the ordeal much, put it behind you, but don't forget it completely. It's kind of like a lesson learned that you can watch out for later in life.

[Kioku 0]

I can honestly say that was a foolish mistake. You shouldn't believe that a person is female just because they say so on the internet, of course. People lie on the internet all the time, especially since anything can be said anonymously and very little can be authenticated, validated, or even checked up on. Anybody can easily say they're a woman and weasel their way into god-knows-what with god-knows-who.

I'm not trying to be harsh here, but keep a better eye out on letting people close to you on the internet. Not only fake girls can strike, but you'd know what I mean if you saw those "to catch a predator" specials on NBC. Hope that helps you out.

[rldowling03 0]

Se sent me pictures of her self which had me convinced that she was a girl but i guess anybody can use google!!! lol. But anyway i am not one of those people wo would meet someone off the internet unless i know them well, ave pictures, ave talked on phone or had a webcam chat so i know tey being trutful about themselves!!

[AceGirl 0]

That is why I dont chat much. I am very scared of things like that. People pretending. It does not make sense even though this person had a total valid reason. In this case I would have a fresh start with this person truthfully. Other than that. I would block the person. I am kinda wierd like that.

[ibsu 0]

A fresh new start with this guy. What he did was wrong, no doubt, but his reason for doing it kind of touches me. Say something like, "I was really disappointed to hear what you did, but you did it out of concern and care so maybe we can get a fresh start? I would like to get to know the REAL you. I need another caring person in my life."

[rldowling03 0]

Yeah when he said that that was why he did it i was touched because nobody has cared like that for me before, not even my parents or people who i call my friends!! I have made him aware that it was wrong but nice and it is a bit wierd becuase i miss the girl he made up, i just really miss her even though she isnt real!!

[Cool_Freaker 0]

Wow. If someone was raped by their stepdad, would they have the guts to talk about it? This story that the guy offered smacked of dodginess from the start! Funny use of words eh? Frankly, I say you were pretty gullible to fall for the old "Im-a-girl-online-but-not-really-in-real-life" schtick. Though the guy on the other end is pretty deranged and disturbed. Who would make up a story of being raped and tell others about it?

[wariorpk 0]

Wow people can really lie well if they want to. Some people just do not get the idea that not telling the truth is not the best way to go. Everyone who I know who has told a major lie has gotten what they deserved later. When people find out its just not pretty. This is especially true when my friend lied to my other friend about stealing something and my friend found out. That was not good. When people lie they lose the respect of others. It is just not a good thing and this person had no reason to lie to you like that. In fact, lieing from the second you meet someone is about as bad as it gets.