How To Save Yourself From A Rape Situation? Precautions, Self Defense, Safety Guide

[OpaQue 15]

Source : Email - I found this information very necessary for females.

How To Save Yourself From A Rape Situation?

Precautions, Self Defense, Safety Guide

 

 

Through a Rapist's Eyes

 

This is important information for females of ALL ages .

 

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair Women with short hair are not common targets.

 

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

 

3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

 

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:

00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

 

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots Number two: is office parking lots/garages. Number three: is public restrooms.

 

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

 

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

 

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

 

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

 

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

 

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

 

11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back.

Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

 

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

 

13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

 

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

 

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

 

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

 

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

 

1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body.

If you are close enough to use it, do!

 

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

 

3.If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

 

4.Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

 

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF,

repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

 

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking

garage:

 

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

 

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

 

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

 

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

 

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

 

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times.

And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

 

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

 

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."

 

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

 

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

Notice from jlhaslip:

quote tags added per Report

[Watermonkey 0]

That's pretty good information, Shree. Kinda sick about the recorded crying baby... reminds me of a scene from the book Wolven by Whitley Streiber. The "Wolven" (a wolf-like wild dog with the intelligence of a chimpanzee and opposable thumbs or something like that) would lure their unsuspecting human prey by "calling" to them and mimicking the sound of a lost child or baby. Creepy. I'm disappointed the article didn't mention the "great equalizer", the short barrel .357 Magnum revolver. Nothing says "No means NO!" like a two inch exit wound out the back of the head. Seriously.

Edited November 5, 2007 by Watermonkey (see edit history)

[t3jem 0]

This is great information, i'm glad you posted it, I hope it helps keep everyone safe and not just females. Guys can get mugged and abducted too, this is good information for guys too.

[midnightvamp 1]

Thanks for posting that. It's a lot of good information in there that can really save people's lives. The scary thing for me though is while I was reading it, there were several times when I was thinking that I probably would have done the opposite thing, thinking that would have been the way to stay safer. I'm really glad that I read this and I'm going to be sure to email this to other people that I know, because I think that knowledge is best to keep everyone safe, and the more people that read this, the safer that the world can become.And yes, I agree this is good advice for the guys as well... so I'll be sure to also pass it along to them.So again, thank you for taking the time to post it. I really appreciate it, as do many other people I'm sure.

[OneMinute 0]

Probably because i am not a female, i find this extremely interesting. Yeah, especially the part where you'd hit the rapist's reproduction organ. Yeah, indeed, it'd be pain. That's extremely amusing too.

[Liam_CF 0]

Again, I'm not female, but I find this very interesting and probably useful. I dont expect to be raped or anything, but I could be mugged and the one about throwing the things they want is very useful.I'll probably pass this on to a few people. Thanks a lot.

[nol 0]

Haha, wow. I'm not laughing at the article, but even being a guy and having hormones from hell its kinda funny how desprate men can get. I mean, why rape when it can lead to jail. just ask a girl out, but these are some pretty good tips, thank you.

[bhavesh 0]

Great interesting tips, girls will definetly get benefited from this information.But the more interesting thing about this post is notice from Jilaship of adding quote tags. Opaque needs to read the read me before posting

[Mermaid711 0]

Wow. But first, lets take a moment to reflect on the fact that we live in a world where a hanus crime like rape occours every day.Okay, done relfecting.Another thing I saw somewhere... I can't put my finger on it... was that if the man has you out of your clothes and pinned down, with out a weapon (or at least with a weapon that he does not have immediate control over) to go for the eyes with your finger nails, and to dig in to his testicals with your fingernails. I'm not a dude, but I heard it hurts :rolleyes:And at OpaQue, nice having to have a MODERATOR put quote tags in on your post. Aren't you an ADMIN?

[ejroley 0]

Wow. But first, lets take a moment to reflect on the fact that we live in a world where a hanus crime like rape occours every day.
Okay, done relfecting.

Another thing I saw somewhere... I can't put my finger on it... was that if the man has you out of your clothes and pinned down, with out a weapon (or at least with a weapon that he does not have immediate control over) to go for the eyes with your finger nails, and to dig in to his testicals with your fingernails. I'm not a dude, but I heard it hurts

And at OpaQue, nice having to have a MODERATOR put quote tags in on your post. Aren't you an ADMIN?

[ejroley 0]

I've heard from various rape conselors that Puking or Vomiting can trigger the attacker to back off. The sound, sight and smell triggers a hormonal response that the attacker cannot control to jump back or get off of you, thus maybe giving you time to escape or enact other defense tatic.

[gisellebebegirl 0]

Thats good information, but me being young, i find it hilarious - some parts of the article.. haha in my opinion i would just kick them, run bite them or something, trip them even.. haha woah.. and admin... getting quote tags from a moderator.. how degrading> ehhh

[samlockart 0]

Wow, this is a really well put together guide, thanks a lot for this (even though I'm a guy, its handy to know!)

[kitto 0]

Cheers for this! It's really interesting to see what rapists actually target. To be safe, I'd try and be with a group of friends at all times if it's really late/early and I was going out. I wonder where I can get pepper spray over here...

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."
The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

This is actually a hoax, shown on snopes.com.

[florian 0]

wow....nice ...i'm glad that we still have people interested in how to get safe home "IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY" i've just saw an article in a local newspaper about fighting styles ,a curios one "city defense" a tehnique recently learned by the european womens as a response to increasing crime number , seems its working , we should be greatfull to our friend from New York for developing and rapid spread of this nice way of defending, the best part is that only 20 % of this "art" represents engaging the attacker ,the other 80% represents tehnique in how to avoit the contact and i'm surprised to see that this topic can be found in that 80% ...