10 Good Points To Maintain Friendship

[OpaQue 15]

I got this mail today, felt like sharing it.

10 Points to Maintain Friendship

 

1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT

OF A FRIENDSHIP.

- If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your

friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in

keeping tabs on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your

friends regardless of how much they give to you.

 

2. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.

- Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they

can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other

people achieve their goals.

 

3. BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.

- Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a

friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.

 

4. TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.

- This is one way to show concern for others. If you really care, you

will tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But

once you've brought the problem to your friend's attention, don't

harp on it all the time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you

see some of your friend's faults. Be patient with a friend as he or

she tries to change. Realize that nobody is perfect.

 

5. BE RELIABLE.

- When you say you are going to be there, be there.

 

6. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.

- Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It

may be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel

threatened when your friend spends time with others. If you are

afraid to let your friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid

of losing them. Good friendship will endure time spent apart. You and

your friends may learn to appreciate each other even more.

 

7. BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.

- Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about something.

But don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset

about something, give them your full attention. Most of the time,

what friends really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand

their feelings.

 

8. LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.

- Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a

particular situation. Do not automatically take your friends'

behaviour personally.

 

9. DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.

- Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.

 

10.DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.

- Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've

said what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing

until you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win

the argument may ruin your friendship.

 

[tuddy 0]

Amazing Admin and knows what really makes a good friendship too. lol. Thanks OpaQue for that, i know alot of people in todays society forgetting the real meaning of friendship.

[Moody 0]

Yea, a lot of people just have friends to be part of the group or something. It's just that you can rely on someone. And in the other way. If you can see and feel a friend is doing these points also for you...then you know it's a good friendship. Because some people only want to be friends, because you have something they wanna play with or something. So look out for real friends and not for the fake ones.

[OpaQue 15]

Trying to be good friends from within.. will automatically get you good friends. It does not take much time for others to realise how important you are to them

[hulunes 0]

thx for sharing the good suggestionyeah...all of them are indispensable factor when we are bulding relatioship with other usually.hope everything goes fine around us

[Becca 0]

raw, hey. There are no and shouldn't be steps or rules or guidelines or whatever to becoming a good friend. If you're friend thinks you're a good mate that's enough...Plus my mates bestmate... totally doesa the opposite to those things...and they';re like literally stuck to the hips...and they're still great mates.. well I think they are..But I guess.. SOME of that stuff is true XD. Sorry for being such a like negative person. rofl.

[farhananis 0]

I've got friends with all of these 10 qualities.But, all my friends have either 1 or 2 of these qualities. No one has more of that. And I doubt in today's world you can find a friend with all of these qualities.But, if any of you have a friend like that, where to go mate!Cheers!

[Rena 0]

Good read.I have a friend that has 8/10 of these points. Actually I'm very very happy with all my friends and I consider myself a lucky person.My friend, that I'm talking about, is like my sister. No matter how far we are or how much time has passed, we always talk to each other as if we saw each other yesterday. She tells me everything and I tell her everything. Its amazing.There are people with who no matter how much time has passed it's still the same relationship.