Teri Luketic

Good luck in your expanding relationship with this guy. I only hope that people. . .like me. . .and my friend mentioned in another topic. . .can take your story and break out of our shells. I know we won't all have the same luck you had, but at least they'll know right? LoL. Good luck!

I must agree with ghostrider. Two of my best friends are guys, and one of them I have not attraction towards in that way at all. Sure, he's good looking I'll admit, but he's not the type of guy I could fall for like that. He's a really cool guy, and is someone I enjoy being around, but I don't see him in that way and probably won't. I've thought about what it would be like, and we just wouldn't be compatable enough for a working dating relationship. He's my best friend, and that's all he'll be. His type of girls are completely different from me. We've even disgussed this topic before! You can be best friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have those feelings for them, and my mother is a case of which they won't even get together at all somewhere down the line. She had this guy friend, and she never was anything more than best friends with him. The two of them and my father were always hanging out together, and then when he got married, it was the four of them. It's completely possible.

Here I am again, asking people's opinions that I don't know. One would think that I'd know better by now, but I like reading different points of view.This time it's not about me. My friend Autumn is pretty confused about this situation with this guy in her school. I'm not living in the same state as her, so I can give her just as good of adviceon the situation as any of you could I think. There's this guy she goes to school with who's in the same class as her. Last year, she told his roomate (they, like me, attend a boarding school) that she had a thing for this guy. He claims that he never told him that she did, but that one day the two of them and one other guy were going through the names and faces (a "newsletter" of sorts with pictures off all 140 some students in the school with their names and where they're from, plus their birthdays) and when they hit her picture, the guy she likes said "she likes me". Her friend didn't catch that he could tell, supposedly, till after he'd already confirmed, on accident, that he was right. She talked a lot to this guy that she like, his name's Jeremy, up untill her friend told her about the incident. She started to back off, because she didn't like being that transparent, and her friend had said something that made her think she should do just that. But the farther the year went on, the worse she felt about the decision because her other friend would see him looking at her, and she'd see it out of the corner of her eyes at other times, and any time he came near her she'd start to walk off again. The end of the year came and went, and now they're in the second week of their Senior year, and some of the same things are going on that happened last year. They're talking plenty again, like the beginning of last year, but it's almost like they never stopped talking, although she told me last night that she's still got that uneasy feeling about the situation. She'd thought that a summer without seeing him would help her get over the crush, but when the school year started up again, she was suddenly constantly thinking about him again. They both hang out in the same crowd more this year than last year, thanks to the people in the group telling her that she should hang out with them more, so it's even harder for her to notice things that he does, let alone those at the table with them who know.This past weekend, before she talked to me last night, their class went on this Senior Survival. . .it's kind of like a class trip, but yet more class bonding takes place. I'm going on similar next week, not that that's something needed to be said in this topic. She ended up on the same team as him after them and nine others drew the same color bandana, meaning they spent a lot of time together with these nine people, other than meals with the other group. When she talked to me last night, she spent almost an hour telling me about those three days and how much fun she had, and all kinds of other things including things about this boy. She asked me what I thought about the situation, and if what her friend told her last year could possibly be true, or if it was just him telling her something for any reason that she couldn't think of, but before I could answere her aunt told her that she was going to have to get off the phone so she could make a call too. She's going to call me again this weekend, but I don't know what to tell her. I've got a few concepts of my own, but I'm curious what other people who aren't attatched to the subject, Autumn being my best friend, like I am.Any ideas?

First off. . .I'd just like to say, that you don't really have a hold on her by just having fun with her in one evening. There's no title or anything, you just had one evening of fun. But dealing with your being upset, I'll move on to what to do since you're hurt none-the-less. I know it's hard when you've been hanging out with someone and you're thinking things are what they aren't. It's just how some of us are. Things are going great and you're talking a lot and having fun. You start to think that you might like her, and you know what? You probably do! Now, whether you're thoughts that it goes both ways are right or not, that's another story. Seeing her the way she was with your band member though, that would tell me that she just wants to be the groupy who can be that way with all the guys in the band. My best advice, if you don't want your heart being ripped out, try not to let it get to you. No, she's there for a reason. Scout out what the band is like, figure out which one to go for first. Who knows for sure what's going on with her, but obviously, she's not going for the whole relationship, and if it she is, it's for all the wrong reasons. With your first cd coming out, and she knows this, if she ends up in a relationship with one of you, it can't be starting because she actually likes any of you that way. It's girls like her who get on my nerves, make guys think that the rest of us are just like them. Just try to think of something else. Is there anyone else that you've been friends with before your band started doing so well? Someone you're close to who you might have thought about maybe having a thing for before? If there is, I might suggest trying to reconnect with her and find out where that leads you. If it doesn't really go anywhere for you, then at least it's a good diversion. Just don't let it end badly, and don't let this Helen bring any down sides to whatever you end up doing. I thought I'd seen replies to this before. . .but I could be wrong. If not. . .then wow. . .I beat Chatz. LoL. Don't let a girl get in the way of your band, your friends, and especially your dreams. We're not really worth it if we're jerks like that!

Psycology tests? Okay, that's a pretty general topic really. Just because there's so many out there. You've got your people who ask stupid questions entirely, some of those quizes are really just cute stuff, and they're supposed to just say whatever is supposed to sound good. Then, there's the personality quiz things that people put up who think they know what they're talking about, and really, their results aren't all that off base. But they aren't as well researched, and it's mostly just their opinion. There are no numbers or anything to fit what they are talking about. And then there are those that are based off of things that professors or the like come up with. They're really actually quite accurate in what they are talking about, and their findings are well based. But those are just some categories that I've found in looking around the net. Off the net, there is a personality test that I've actually found to be pretty accurate, supposing you know what you're doing when you're taking it. It's a gut instinct thing, and once you're finished taking the test, you add up what all your results are. These two books, I've only read one of them though, are brilliant. One of my friends' mothers found, after reading them, that it was much easier to relate to people. She also found that what the book had to say was quite accurate, and on top of that, in knowing what things stand for, and then looking at people she knew, she was able to deduce what they were, and that's what helped her in understanding them better. In a sense, it was easier for her to realize that that was just how they were, and that some of their quirks were actually something that people like them had as a personality trait, as well as other such quirks being things that people like them often developed. It was almost like she got to know the basics of them better, making it so she could get to know them much better. If anyone understood what I was saying, good. If not, sorry! It's not that she read it and suddenly the world was open to her, it's more that of something that she was able to use to get closer to people. Please Understand Me Please Understand Me II

Pizza! Yeah! But no, really. Stick me on an island where I get only the same meal, ever meal of the day, ever day of a whole year? Give me pizza, chocolate, and taco bell bean burritoes with extra sauce and cheeze, and I'll be fine. See, that at least means that if I eat pizza for one meal (I only eat two a day cause I get sick if I eat breakfast for some reason), and then taco bell for the other since I wouldn't finish my first one most likely anyway! Hey! It's still all one meal!

Oh my goodness! I remember watching ren and stimpy! Never really thought of it as my favorite, although Tom & Jerry has come pretty close in the past, and I still think it's one of the best cartoons in history, past Japanese Anime stuff. Just something about the classic-ness of it all. I LOVE GARFIELD! That is my all time comic, both the comic strips and the tv stuff. Garfield and Peanuts. I really don't care all that much for some of those new things. I don't know. . .just not my cup of tea. Someone said something on the first page about Voltron and all that stuff. . .YOU'RE RIGHT! That is some old stuff. . .but my cousin loves them to death! But then I don't watch TV all that much anymore, and what I do watch is rarely cartoons. Not home enough to do both the internet things I do plus watch more than some of the shows I like to keep up with. *sigh*

Hmm, this is actually an interesting topic! LoL. I live with my aunt, but although it's not all that embarrassing, I mean after all, it's not me! But I do often find myself curious about what's going on in her head. I never really get past that ouf, "she's probably sitting there thinking, jee, this is just so necessary to have in the movie", cause I really don't want to think anything else!

Gluttony: Excessive wastefullness and consumption I love food, but then I'm taking this as not just food, because I'm not really a glutton in anything really. But when you put it all together, I do often waste things and comsume (or use) a lot of excess things.

I would love to visit Italy and Japan. I've had a passion for the two countries for the longest time! I don't know, there's just something about the two places that have had my heart since I was younger than seven. Italy is Italy, and everything you hear about it just grabs me. Well. . .other than some of the sanitary things and the like. But I don't know, I would just love to go to either of them.

My first website? I'd have to say. . .oh! Hey! I remember when that was! Haha. Okay, my mother's little sister actually helped me set up my first email account one visit to her place a few states over. The next visit, she actually helped me start up my first site on geocities. It was mostly just something that I thought was pretty cool, and I like doing because I liked what I saw her doing with her personal website. It also was something I wanted because I wanted to make a dedication area to my mother, who died of Ovarian Cancer when I was seven, but I've since then decided that I don't really care all that much for geocities.

Thanks for your views. I don't know, I think I was seeing this thread as more of a "what do you think", except for that I talk a lot. LoL. I don't really see all that much with him, I just really enjoy being around him and talking to him. He's one of the few guys I can be comfortable with. And there are things I didn't say in the first post, but I really didn't need to because it probably doesn't matter. I don't know, it's hard to explain. But agian, thanks for your advice and pointers!

I think there needs to be an option. . .none of the above. LoL. I'm too friendly to be a cheerleader type, but yet, I'm apparently a "queen bee" although I don't like being considered it. I'm shy, but yet I'm not. I like wearing dark cloths, but I like some bright stuff too. I like doing different sports, and things like that. . .but yeah. You should get the point. There's other things, too. But yeah.

I'm new too. . .I really didn't even look for this place. I was just looking for a place to advertise for my site. . .benner exchanges and all that fun. When I looked around the main site though, I found that this actually might benefit me in all truth. I'm looking forward to toying around with the site and figuring out how to make it work (not much on HTML. . .but I'll figure something out).I'm a chick who likes to write, alot. I also enjoy doing things with graphics and other such things, even though I've not got all that fancy stuff. Not all that much money to get it all. My site is actually both for my personal site, and my simming group. I love listening to music, as well as singing and playing the piano. All kinds of music, though not such a big fan of rap.

I'm not exactly the type of person to just hop on forums, or ask a group of people that I don't even know from Adam for advise, but I figure, why not just once in a while. I was actually rather curious what people outside of my little community of friends think about this, and wouldn't mind the advise as well. There's this guy that my family, and his family, aren't just family friends, but are practically family. I know, too many times the word "family" is showing up, but just deal with me for a little bit. Alright, so he's an introverted kind of guy, but if you ask him something, he'll usually tell you, and then can't shut up because he doesn't think about things that don't interest him. . .at least in the almost never kind of sense. He's the type of guy I've always wanted: musically talented, my religion, smart, kind, doesn't act like he's in gradeschool still, not pushy, comforter, and all kinds of wonderful qualities. He even meets what I don't need in a guy, but have always dreamed of having in the physical areas. Taller than me by plenty, brown hair and eyes, physically fit (and probably always will be. . .not like those highschool movies where the hot guy ends up looking like he's swallowed a blimp or something. . .and really not horrible on the eyes at all. Why am I needing advise? Okay, I've actually got two reasons, but one of them has to come first, and it's the one I'm actually curious what people think about it in general. 1. He's twelve years older than me. I'm going to be graduating from highschool at the end of this year, so it's not like I'm fourteen and having a huge thing for some adult or anything. I hate the guys my age in fact, unless they're the same personality type as he is, because then at least they've got heads on their shoulders and all. Most of them get on my nerves though, and that might explain some things. . .but I won't go into that. In the past, he's fallen for a girl that's only nine years younger than him. Before he realized he was mad about her though, they'd had a conversation about age differences that popped up because of a magazine at a gas station talking about "cradle-robber" type relationships. He'd told her that age doesn't matter to him, and in talking to him, and other guys like him. . .that oddly enough I haven't really thought a thing about. . .don't really think of age in any way. Sure, they'll suddenly realize "hey! You just turned eighteen the other day didn't you?" but so long as you can carry on a conversation and don't act like an immature twit, you're not all that bad. Most everyone in my little. . .okay it's kind of big. . .group of friends of several ages and backgrounds and the like, has said that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I've only asked representatives from such ages and backgrounds though, the ones I trust the most, and one out of those said that it was just wrong and almost had a conniption. 2. Even if there was something on his end. . .he'd never say anything. Okay, I don't know that for sure. But he never said anything to the other girl. I must admit, he'd never really had the chance because of her step-dad, and the fact that she was slightly worried since she didn't feel anything towards him in that sense. But still. I talk to him all the time. One of his fascinations is personality types. . .like the INFP and ENTJ stuff in the books Please Understand Me I and II, the first by David Kiersy and Marilyn Bates, and the seccond by David Kiersy. He is also a firm believer in complimentary opposites, even though, as is his personality, he will question it's worth at every turn. He spent half an hour, after I told him I could be three different personalities, all NF which is the base of his opposite, trying to figure out which one I am. His first question, "Well, what kind of guys do you find yourself being attracted to? Do you know their personalities yet or can you only tell me what qualities you found in them that I could help you figure them out for you." I'm not saying that it ment anything, because with him. . .it no doubt really didn't, but if anything, it does show how clueless he is. And if he doesn't think someone feels the same on something he wants to talk about, he doesn't bring it up. Okay. . .that might have actually come out as a bunch of jargon. . .but I'm sure SOMEONE will be able to decipher it. And for those who only get what the first issue was, then PLEASE tell me what you think about that type of thing. I think I ment to put this in "Relationships". . .oh well! Please Understand Me Please Understand Me II

Aww. . .how aweful!My first kiss, well. . .it was about two years ago. My first boyfriend, and only one to my dismay, had managed to roll ourselves down a hill at my school. . .completely on accident! When we landed, it was just about like the movies. . .but the guy was no fantastic looker. I actually landed on him, and after laughing for a good amount of time, he put a strand of hair behind my ear and told me I was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen. And then. . .he kissed me.

I thought the words were pretty cool fella. I especially like that part there! How true it is, or at least how it should be.

V1. Everywhere I look, I see two more hooking up. Each one like the story books I close because the tears come. Everywhere I turn There's two more becoming a pair. It makes my heart burn Knowing we have nothing there. Cry, let it all out. Pray, over and over and over again. . . .Ch. I bury my head in the sand Because of the pain I feel inside. I put my hands in my pockets and Stare out over the tide, Letting my tears flow into the water. . . Alone.V2. When I see his smile My heart does back flips. When I see his beautiful eyes, I know all I can do is bite my lip. I wish I could find A way to his frozen heart. I wish I could hide And find a place for a new start. Cry, and try to get over the pain. Dream, there's a lot I think about.Ch.Bridge All I want is someone, Someone who'll hold me close when I cry. All I need is someone, Someone who'll tell me it's gonna be alright.Ch X2~Teddi~

Wandring Heart Oh my ever wandring heart, You've held strong through so much pain. Soon the bandages will start, To fall at my feet in the rain. Could I ever forget him? How I long to say that I could! But fear not you heart so dim, For we will dance where he once stood. Okay, so the first half is actually written by Dickinson, but the second half is all mine. At the time, we had an assignment in my junior honor's english class to pick one of her poems and either turn it into our own, or write another verse. This particular one, was added onto by three different girls, all of which said they only liked it. They also knew what was going on with me and my life at the time, and told me that I should get a good grade on it since it was completely from the heart, not just trying to be frilly or anything. I don't think it's all that good. . .it's short and doesn't hvae all that much frill. All usual words. But apparently, my teacher thought it was A+ worthy ~Teddi~