Sorry so much for your lose. I have too lost someone dear to me, he was my grandfather. He died just after fulfilling his long life dream, that was, believe it or not, to reconstruct a windmill at the top of a hill in a beautiful and extense field of yellow and bright grass. I don't know why he wanted that so much, but all I know is that after months of hardwork (with his own effort, and his friends') he finally turned that big rock into a beautiful windmill, fully functional /he even appeared in the regional magazine).That was the very day he caught some problem on his back while lifting a stone, and had to spend a month or two lying in a bed, partially immobilized. And his biggest pain must have been when he wanted to talk or kiss his grandchildren, and he barely moved his lips to talk.This kind of suffering is not the ideal way to die. In some way, I preferred that the windmill had colapsed all over his head, instead of seeing him in this state of a death transition state.I am sure that both your friend and my grandfather are, in some way, alive, because one of the things that is beyond my comprehension is to imagine how it is to die. Just imagine yourself not feeling anything, not seeing anything, not thinking anything.. not existing.. How could you be happy or sad if you were not you anymore. (physically speaking, when your brain is dead, so is your ability to think about anything. You can't even dream)So there are only two options. Or there is really a spiritual and soul concept related to this physical world, or there isn't, and we simply stop existing in the universe. As you can see, If you try at least imagining yourself bodyless (without brain and all), and thinking as yourself, it is a very complicated and complex matter that is beyound our comprehension. Just rest assured that when our day comes, we will discover (if 'we' can even consider ourselves as 'we').. ok
