I Think My Boyfriend Cheated On Me I found this photo of him with this girl

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Hello everyone...I hope you can help me analyze this photo. My boyfriend and I live together but while I was out of town last month, apparently he went to a beach party and I found this picture of him with another girl. They look a little too close, he and the blond, and her arm is draped around his leg.... Am I paranoid or does it look like something is going on between them? My boyfriend doesn't know I got the photo, I got it from someone else. Should I ask him about it? Or am I being paranoid and they are just being innocently friendly? Thanks!

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[anwiii 17]

i couldn't open the photo, but if a friend sent it to you, they were obviously there and they know more about the intentions of both of them. that statement can be decieving though because it also depends on whether it was a guy or girl who sent it to you. if it was a guy, there could be a chance he wants to break you two apart if he likes you. if it was a girl, then maybe there is more than meets the eye to the photo.

in any case, i would confront him and the sooner the better. but be polite and civil. the longer you wait, the longer you will stew over this and not trust him where YOU will be at fault because you will always be looking for any little signs of him cheating which may go as far as stalking his activities. believe me....you don't want to go there. that negative energy is a relationship breaker. you either have to have trust and be open in communication, or you don't have a relationship at all.

please ask him about the photo. he has to know someone took a picture or at the very least, he knows he was around people YOU know and anything he did that was not good would get back to you.

this whol post is just thinking out loud here trying to think of all the possibilities without looking at the photo.

it could just be innocent flirtations. maybe she had her arm draped over his leg and he was just being polite rather than rude. who knows. i know this happened to me once but nobody took a picture of it. my wife was there and i had to slap this woman's arm several times to get it off me.

the most important thing is YOUR boundaries though. if you find it offensive or borderline cheating, then you need to be open about it. find out what went on and why she had her arm around his leg when sitting next to eachother. your boyfriend should respect your boundries. at the same time, you should understand that some guys are more open than other people.

a little innocent attention never hurt anyone as long as it was innocent. sometimes when the significant other is away, they miss them so much they feel alone and need that attention. i dunno......

in any case, don't hide anything from eachother. that is a no no in a relationship. ask him about the photo, get to the bottom of things, and then decide for yourself if you found it offensive. if you did, let him know so he knows not to do that again or you will not want to be in a relationship like that.

Hello everyone...I hope you can help me analyze this photo. My boyfriend and I live together but while I was out of town last month, apparently he went to a beach party and I found this picture of him with another girl. They look a little too close, he and the blond, and her arm is draped around his leg.... Am I paranoid or does it look like something is going on between them? My boyfriend doesn't know I got the photo, I got it from someone else. Should I ask him about it? Or am I being paranoid and they are just being innocently friendly? Thanks!
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