Am I Gay? What Is The Definition Of Gay? Im confused :(

[~Nick[; 0]

I would say that you are bi, since you seem to find yourself in ways more comfortable with men. If you were straight, then you would not watch gay porn. But, if you were gay, you wouldn't have been that girl's boyfriend. I am not exactly sure, because it is as how YOU define yourself and not how other people see you to be.

[dwolters 0]

Your hormones, chemicals in your body, desires, etc. should not make your decisions for you! You are always able to choose your sexuality!

Seriously? The definition for homosexuality is ALL about desire. Whether you act on it or not. Hold on lemme get it off dictionary.com

homosexuality
noun
a sexual attraction to (or sexual relations with) persons of the same sex

And even if that wasn't the case, sexuality is genetic whether you believe that or not. You are saying a person has the ability to choose. Sure, they can choose to hide who they are, or even deny who they are, but deep down they are always that person. I am speaking from personal (third-personal?) experience. My dad is gay. Wait, how? He must be straight because I'm around. Nope, he tried for over 15 years to be straight. He even eventually told my mom about it. They tried everything: Counseling, praying to god, everything. He was unhappy, she was unhappy. He had to fantasize about men to create me! Hiding who you are never really makes anyone happy. It is pure ignorance to say that one could choose. Have you ever read an article or seen on TV the "ex-gay ministeries" where they basically tortured these poor boys, because they thought they were bad christians and could be cured of their evil thoughts and/or tendencies? They messed up these poor people AND THEIR STILL GAY!

Also have you seen what some of these poor gay people go through? Hate crimes, higher AIDS population: Oh yeah, I could see why someone would want to choose that. Come on.

Sorry, a little off-topic rant there! For the original poster:
There is nothing wrong with you. But heres what it comes down to (i'm going to be a little blunt): Do guys make you feel funny "down there" or do girls make you feel funny "down there"? Do they both? That's great, maybe you are one of the chosen few who is bi and able to choose. But in the end does it really matter that much? You love who you love, regardless if you are sexually attracted to them. Recognizing yourself a little better is not going to change who you are. If you find you like guys, you are not all of a sudden going to start talking with a lisp or decorating interiors! Be yourself. Hopefully sex doesn't play too big of a role in your life. Love is everything. Sex is nothing. Just concentrate on forming good and healthy relationships with people. Be honest with yourself and everything will be all right!
Edited June 6, 2008 by dwolters (see edit history)

[gisellebebegirl 0]

Well, i dont think you are gay, you are just comfused and like experiencing new things i guess. my theory is that all guys, NO MATTER how macho cool they act do too! so just dont worry, i mean you are attracted to girls, that means your ether straight or bisexual..now ask yourself this question.. forget about the sexxx, and think, would you really see yourself marrying a guy? holding hands on the beach? hugging a guy.. kissing a guy.. calling him your babycakes??? okayyif the answer is yes, your bisexual(:glad to help mauahaha

[BlueInkAlchemist 0]

So is it weird to look at guys when you are a guy? No. BTW this is NORMAL. No really. Lots of guys ( full grown men too) check out other guys. It's a comparison thing. There is nothing wrong with saying "Wow that guy is hot!" when you are a guy.

I can verify that this is indeed true.