Break Up Depression Need Help...

[loner 0]

Hi to whoever reading this .My girl just left me and i lost my job , i guess i neglect her and she just left me after she got a new job with new colleagues .she treats me like a friend overnight , i cant accept it , its hard . we been together for 2yrs and been thru alot .I been trying whatever i could , but the more i tried the further she avoids me . Now she totally dont answer my calls .Its been a week and i cant stop thinking of her , i tried to do other stuffs to forget but no matter what i do she keeps coming to my mind .I cried everynight , i can't sleep and i got no mood to eat anything . My friends ask me out but it seems like i dont dare to get out of my room .I dont dare to face anyone . I keep thinking of suicide everynight . I'm really lost I donno what to do anymore , can anyone help me ??

[sarahscope 0]

S***! Sorry you?re feeling so low but all I can say is these things happen. I can understand why you feel you cant be friends with her because you?ve been through so much. My ex and I were together nearly four years before I left him a year ago, at first it was hard because he wanted to talk to me and I didn?t want to talk to him. Eventually he got the message and we lost contact before getting touch again only recently. I went through so many emotions of hating him and being angry and now I miss him. I still love him yes, and I sometimes hope we have a future again, but it?s the company I miss. All I ever wanted was for him to be happy. Two years is a long time, and it would have been such a difficult decision for her to make because you had something and no one wants to be alone. Don?t try and kill yourself, I?ve tried, it hurts and doesn?t solve anything; but most importantly you?re worth so much and you deserve a long and happy life.TBH, I don't understand why exs cant be friends, I never have. Just give it time...Don?t worry about the job; you?ll get a new one. Just try and get you mind back on track ? YOU are the most important thing not your job and not your ex.SarahScopep.s Sorry if I?m being brutal, its one of my good but not so nice qualities.

[Rosaline 0]

That sounds so horrible and awful, I am really sorry for you. I agree with the comments already given, and suggest that you just force yourself to hang out with other people. Do things you have a great time doing. Maybe if you are old enough and have enough money you can go on a road trip with some friends and just get away from places that remind you of her. You know, pull a "Wild Hogs"! It's always good to get away from the old and start a new life without her.It sucks that she's doing that to you, she's probably just doing what she thinks is best for you and doesn't want to give you hope... you both loved each other at one point, remember that the memories are real, but that sometimes love isn't meant to last forever. There is still a girl out there EVEN BETTER and you might not find her yet, but in the meantime you should spend time bettering yourself for her. Don't make the same mistakes again.Just give your girl time. Eventually she'll be calling YOU asking for YOU back and that's when you can tell her that you moved on and are doing great. Just hang in there! Things will get better I promise!!!

[loner 0]

Thanks for the replies and advice ,It feels so good to hear from you all , it just sucks at night being alone , can't help thinking .I guess i got to endure this and wait for time ...Thanks again for the reply i really need it

[heavensounds 0]

Hey there mate! First of all you must know that you are not in this alone - very similar thing happened to me and to a looooot of people I know and now I am happy again but not because of what happened afterwards but because of the way I see the world!I know that right now it is extremely hard for you to look at the situation from a different wider perspective, but you have to and it is the only way for you to get out of it! Life is like that, bad and really bad things do happen and they do happen all the time - even now something bad is happening to a million other people than yourself and probably they are in even more pain then you are. Just think about those poor kids in Africa or even closer to you - children with ruined families and no money to go through the month! Maybe if you look at your situation like that and realize that it is not the totally worst case scenario, you'd feel better! There are things that can be worse, trust me! Be happy for what you have and do not feel sorry for what you do not have!This is the only way for you to be happy...and just TRY IT - you'll see if you really think about all the bad things that are happening right now and all the things in your life the yould be much worse..you'll be happier and suicide won't be an option anymore!Best whishes and sending you my prayers mate..

[iGuest 3]

I need help and we are on a break from eath other idk...

Break Up Depression Need Help...

 

Okay my ex thats with me she has this past with a friend that she like but saids that she's not into him because she is happy with me but she always talks to him and complains how she can't see him cuz he lives far away and she never wants me to be around her when friends come to see her and they always flirt with her then she tells me something so she can get out of it and it makes me sad every time too.

 

But I know she love me and I love her but every time I'm with her I want to break up but I just cant do it cuz it will hurt her really bad but I don't know I just don't want to be with her when I'm near her

 

But when I'm not with her I want to be with her I guess I miss her...I don't know

 

And now she broke up with me saying "my mind is full and stress so I need to break up with you until my mind is clear"I know its true because she is really upset,mad, and stuff I cant explain it

 

And she saids she wants to be with her friends that are boys

 

So I'm wondering why not be with me?

 

So we are broken up and she wants to be back with me in a few day but I don't know if I want her back and I don't know what to do about it I'm crying every night I broke our promise to not hurt our selfs but I'm home alone at night doing it anyways cutting myself and I try not too but it happens anyways I tried to take her off my mind but it keeps coming back and I have nobody to talk to no friend nobody I'm just so lonely ii don't know what to do.

 

So can anyone help me please?

 

-Genzor

[Unknown_99 0]

Simple.If you don't want her back, don't take her back.Its your decision. Relationships is a two way lane, give and receive. You can't just keep giving without receiving. If dams did that, it'd be out of water soon, ne?Keep a little something to yourself so when something happens, you don't lose yourself. Question?Do you trust her?Are you happy being with her?You can use the answers to the above questions as factors on your decision whether you want her back or not. It is your decision, not ours. All we can do is try and help you make up your mind.

[laniczech 0]

It might sound crazy but i once after a bad breakup quit my job and wandered homeless for about a year, it was a neat experience and there are plenty places to stay the night eat ect, you would be suprised who you meet... then one day just went back to work when i found a town i liked.... sometimes detaching yourself from everything and just relying on faith will get you far

[princeofvegas 0]

Unfortunately killing yourself is not the option. That is really a cowards way out of everything. We would never feel alive if we could sometimes feel pain, hurt and suffering. We have all been through bad spots in our lives, hell I was at the point where I had the gun in my mouth and it was at that point that I realized that if I pulled the trigger it would be the stupidest mistake I have ever made, as there are many other reasons to live for, even if they are not aparant at the time. You should really get out there and start dating other people, it will get your mind off things pretty quick. Just dont try to resort to drugs, booze or crime as a way to cope with your anger and pain. I feel for you bro as we have all been there, just have the strength to get through this and move on with your life.

[harrison858 0]

Dude, forget about suicide, get that out of your head. If you suicide, thats the end of you. Theres no 're-do.' If you suicide you won;t know what happens after that, and people will just move on sooner or later.

[networker 0]

I know that feeling many times.Just give it time and try to meet somebody else.Try to keep busy and try not to think about her.Although it's hard to do,throw out any reference to her.Why women can do that I don't know.Why they can all of a sudden just turn ice cold andforget.It's a mystery to me.

[Veradesigns 0]

Well here is my advice Get your but up, go have fun forget about your problems if you feel like hitting something go take it out on martial arts. Happened to me before you know what i did, same exact thing as you. The reason why she left you was because you were not keeping her happy that was your mistake, in this world the lady come first you devote all the time you have available to them. This is what happens, last but not least don't punish yourself its not your fault just learn from your mistake and continue on with life.WOW he wrote this in 2007

[nightmarebeforenoon 0]

Hi, I just found this site in my search for looking for some release. My girlfriend of 6 years just informed me a week ago that she is no longer in love with me and is leaving. Just to give you a bit of background she and I have wanted nothing more than to have a baby. We are both females so after a long search we found a donor. Our hope chest is filled with baby books, baby clothes etc so you can imagine our excitement when our dream was finally coming true. I remember her looking to me in the kitchen one day and just simply said "we are having a baby" We embraced because each of us knew how much this mint to one another. Life was good. This was two weeks ago when we were embracing in the kitchen and now she is moving out at the end of the month. We didn't have a perfect relationship but we understood each other. We rarely fought, we always hung out together (so I do not feel cheating was the issue) I think our major problem was that we were sometimes bored because our job did not give us allot of free time to go out together. She is very cold about the whole thing and all she really has to offer is "things just built up over time and I just snapped and shut my emotions" and insists that it is nothing more than she is no longer in love with me and does not want me anymore and there is no hope for us in the future. I am completely struggling with the fact that one day we were ok and the next its over. Not only did she rip herself away from me but my/our dreams of having a family. She is spending as much time out of the house as if I am unbearable to be around. When she is home I leave also not because I want to but because it is easier not to be around her even though that is all I want to do. I like everyone else who goes through a similar situation as stopped eating. I already lost about 10 lbs. I am not sleeping well. I do try to distract my self and do make an effort to go out but it doesn?t matter I am always going over everything in my head and it hurts so very much. I have been drinking allot this past week and I know it is terrible for me and I do not need to add another problem to my life however I cant seem to make it through the day with out one, or two, or four. I am not wanting to commit suicide however I can understand clearly why some choose that route. Thanks for reading

[aflower 0]

Hi loner, Sorry to hear that you have been through this.Try and get over it as it is badly affecting your life and unknowlingly you are killing your time and losing your friends. Get out of your room, see your friends, keep yourself busy with things you like doing and even try changing your schedule. This will surely help you in getting over it. Talk to your friends and family and surely they will support you and will help you to get over it. If this does not get any change in your attitude, try consuling a specialist.