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Hello Its sounds like you are having a quite a hard time. Please consider the following principles and see if some might apply to your circumstances. 1) Life is to short to focus on what yo don't want. 2) Ask where is my power to make choices-- identify your choices and do the pros and cons on each choice. 3) Communicate with your husband-- let him know how you are feeling and tell him what you need. If he is willing to give you some of what you need -- (less work more play/time) that would be a good start. 4) If you are afraid to talk to about your feelings you need to examine why -- talk to friend or consider psychotherapy / counseling if possible. 4) Often when things get to be as you descirbed there is more to it than meets the eye. Couples counseling can really help. 5) Don't get stuck on what you don't -- flip it into an " I want" --" I don't want my huband to work so much" -- "I want to work at ways of finding balance in our relationship" -- 6) See if somewhere lurking in the background is the belief that you are powerless -- in most cases we are not. Hope the above helps Mark Weiss counseling psychotherapy

[i'm happy with my friendships in my life, but mostly i sense that i'm a totally outsider and that i'm not in the group anymore,] Hello I note that you said you were happy with your friendships but mostly you sense you are an outsider. Its sounds as if you are confused about whether you are really cared about in the world. Somehow you are feeling disconnected from others. I think we sometimes spend too much time wondering about this or that -- causing us to become anxious. Stop wondering about whether you are or are not cared about and check out the facts ! If a couple of your friends are close -- tell them how you are feeling and see if corroborate or challenge you are feeling. Remember that all feelings are valid but the reasons we think we are feeling a certain way may not be valid. Make a list of two or three things you can do to try and sort out your feelings and then committ to acting on them. Mark Weiss Counseling /Psychotherapy