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IM 13 N IM READY FOR SEX. I THINK ABOUT IT ALLOT. PLEASE HELP

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I think that if you feel you are mature enough for sex, you should still conder alot of other factors like are you sure your current partner is the right one to do it with. Are you ready for the consecunces of sex like an accidental pregnency, are you using contraceptives, are you aware of sexual diseases, and always ask yourself time and again, are you sure you want to do it now, whats wrong with waiting a bit till you are more mature? Talk to other more experienced people that you respect and get their openion or advice. Its better to take some time to know what your choices are and proceed cautiously than rush into things and regreat later.

Ok, not that long ago i was in a serious relationship with a girl that i feel in love with. We were together of a little over a year and we basically spent almost all or time together and we really feel in love with each other cause i was there for her and she was there for me. And one night we got into a real bad arugment and we broke up and i thought after a few hours we were going to get back together like always but we didnt and the next day i recevied a fone call from her cousin telling me she had cheated on me and i never know and when i first heard this i just had a feeling that it all was true so i moved on with my life and now i have meet someone new and i'm really trying to move on with my life right now cause the one thats in my life right now i'm starting to love but the thing is i'm really trying not to but i keep pushing her away cause i'm kinda scared what do i do to fix this

 

Hey Aaron,

 

I think that basically you should realise that your current gf and the ex are 2 different people and you should give her her chance. She was not the one who cheated on you and should not suffer as a result of a bad experience you had with someoneelse. This is also to give yourself another chance. Love is difficult to find for everyone, and if you have a shot at it, you really should not waste it. Your previous gf was silly to have blown her chance withyou, after all, name me any couple who doesn't fight occasionally, its normal. Also you should expect never to have fights with your current gf as well, its all part and parcel of life. Important thing is at the end of the day you realise that you love her.

Here I am again, asking people's opinions that I don't know. One would think that I'd know better by now, but I like reading different points of view.
This time it's not about me. My friend Autumn is pretty confused about this situation with this guy in her school. I'm not living in the same state as her, so I can give her just as good of adviceon the situation as any of you could I think. There's this guy she goes to school with who's in the same class as her. Last year, she told his roomate (they, like me, attend a boarding school) that she had a thing for this guy. He claims that he never told him that she did, but that one day the two of them and one other guy were going through the names and faces (a "newsletter" of sorts with pictures off all 140 some students in the school with their names and where they're from, plus their birthdays) and when they hit her picture, the guy she likes said "she likes me". Her friend didn't catch that he could tell, supposedly, till after he'd already confirmed, on accident, that he was right. She talked a lot to this guy that she like, his name's Jeremy, up untill her friend told her about the incident. She started to back off, because she didn't like being that transparent, and her friend had said something that made her think she should do just that. But the farther the year went on, the worse she felt about the decision because her other friend would see him looking at her, and she'd see it out of the corner of her eyes at other times, and any time he came near her she'd start to walk off again. The end of the year came and went, and now they're in the second week of their Senior year, and some of the same things are going on that happened last year. They're talking plenty again, like the beginning of last year, but it's almost like they never stopped talking, although she told me last night that she's still got that uneasy feeling about the situation. She'd thought that a summer without seeing him would help her get over the crush, but when the school year started up again, she was suddenly constantly thinking about him again. They both hang out in the same crowd more this year than last year, thanks to the people in the group telling her that she should hang out with them more, so it's even harder for her to notice things that he does, let alone those at the table with them who know.

This past weekend, before she talked to me last night, their class went on this Senior Survival. . .it's kind of like a class trip, but yet more class bonding takes place. I'm going on similar next week, not that that's something needed to be said in this topic. She ended up on the same team as him after them and nine others drew the same color bandana, meaning they spent a lot of time together with these nine people, other than meals with the other group. When she talked to me last night, she spent almost an hour telling me about those three days and how much fun she had, and all kinds of other things including things about this boy. She asked me what I thought about the situation, and if what her friend told her last year could possibly be true, or if it was just him telling her something for any reason that she couldn't think of, but before I could answere her aunt told her that she was going to have to get off the phone so she could make a call too. She's going to call me again this weekend, but I don't know what to tell her. I've got a few concepts of my own, but I'm curious what other people who aren't attatched to the subject, Autumn being my best friend, like I am.

Any ideas?

I really this that this girl should stop paying games about her relationship with the boy any more, she is giving herself unnecessary problems and making tjings way more complicated than they have to be. First of all, what is wrong with letting the guy you like or love knowabout your intentions towards him? Isn't that the whole point in the dating game, to let each other know about your intentions than get together? Why keep it a secret? I think that in relationships, one should be honest and upfront about things, it clears alot of misunderstandings and also helps build a solid foundation if you eventually get married. If you keep playing from the start, its hard to build trust and it gets worst when you are comitted, you just have this huge issue of trust problem.. I think that as long as your friend is clear about her intentions, it makes things easier for both parties.

I've been going out with this guy for about 2 years now, and for the past 1 or 2 months he was acting a bit weird. A couple days ago he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship, he wanted to be single, beacause he's been in serious relationships for a quite a while, so he just wanted to have some time to himself. Well, with the help of a friend of mine and his, I found out he's going out with this other girl, and he's been thinking about a serious relationship with her for a while...and I don't know if he actually waited untill I was out of the picture or not.
I'm having a very hard time dealing with this, for he was my first possibly true love...or as true as it can get right now. I know I'll eventually get over him, maybe not completely, but I don't know how to deal with this right now. Can anyone give me some advice?

I think that basically if you find that you cannot trust your partner anymore its better to just break up and carry on with life. Obviously, your boyfriend was not very upfront with you initially about why he wanted a break up, and I think that thats not a good policy at all in any relationship. Since he has already made his decision, I think the best you can do is to abide by his choices and try to cope with it. I know you feel uncomfortable with it, but for the long term I think thats the right decision to make.

This is a very tight situation as, unlike Russia, North Koreas being run by a crazy dictator that builds statues to himself and thinks hes going to rule the world. Really, I saw americas Missle Defence System, the Star Wars system. It was deserted. It was merley a front to scare off Russia. It worked, they fell, but now its just a hallowed out dome on the top of the crater on Maui. Its surronded with a chain link fence and do not enter:government property signs. Honesty, I could have walked right through the gate and stolen the laser beam (probally a huge laser pointer). There wasnt a single human being near the place. Our tour giude said hes been tresspassing since he started the job because the best view is behind the Star Wars dome.
Its sad that we dont have a missle defence system yet. One of the few things I like about Bush was his continued support of the nessisity for one. Like, just because some crazy guy is fueling up a rocket it sets our whole country on its toes. Thats not national security. If he goes through with this I wouldnt surprise seeing mass evacuations and nuclear wastelands in the west.

East Coast ftw!!!!

In all honesty Im hoping we eliminate the threat. Too bad we have our finger in our arses with Iraq right now. If its a battle of nukes, we can elimiate NK several thousand times. Hopefully the military has some super secret missle killer. They have the prototype set up along the west coast and starting to move into Canada. Kind of a bad test scenario though.

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This situation seems ironical to me. Somehow, all countries other than US and Israel seem to be treated like rebelling teenagers, deemed not mature enough to be well armed. as far as I know the most warlike and aggressive country for the past decade or so is none other than the US of A It is the only country with such a huge neuclear stockpile and advanced weapons, yet it is forbidding others to have even moderate amount of weapons. So my question is why such double standards? If USA is just afraid to loose the technological edge it has over others, stop being hypocritical and say so, don't pretend it because of concern for the test of the world or world stability. In the end its a power game.

The first question I will ask is what is the parents role in all this. DO they know anything about what happened, were they involved in this terrible affair? If they were somehow involved, I think Brazil should lock them up for a long time to come as they obviously failed in their duties to protect and care for her like any parent would. As for the rapist, I think the guy should either be shot or locked up in some mental hospital for the rest of his life. It really getsme when a kid is abused, especially in such a horiffic manner. Now not only does the child mother suffer but her baby is the worst victim of all. I doubt the baby will have a normal life after this.

Interesting... Yahoo has something like that. But it's basically the regular chat thing. It doesn't involve a number or anything. You just click call and it will start ringing for the other person and they can choose to answer or not. I think you can leave msges with it. But that seems interesting. You could give it to your aim buds and have them talk to ya.

One thing great about this service is that you can ring mobile phones in quite a fw countries, thats preety rare in most VIOP services. Ringing a mobile in any country is an expensive affair, so this is really good for the budget councious person.

I am a supporter of Israel. What Israel does is right, it was holding its peace so long, but when they attack then Israel must retaliate and control them otherwise it will surely cause a war.
Israel, even though it is a small country it is more powerful.

Do you seriously believe that bombing and killing innocent women and children is right. If that is your believe, I suggest you go and take some moral education classes. This bombing is not done by some crazed fanatic or terrorist, it is done by a the airforce of a country in a carefully planned and calculated manner. The IDF has always claimed to be the most moral country in the world, so does delibrately killing and murdering women and children count in those high moral standards? I think Israel and the IDF should really stop occupying the so called 'moral' high ground as murderers definately have no place there.

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Hi guys and gals,I decided to share with you the strange and crazy ways guys have used to try and pick me up before.Once, I was walking in the botanical gardens, I was just there minding my own business, looking at the different plants. i wasn't wearing anything sexy either, just a pair of track pants and a t shirt. Suddenly, from out of nowhere, a tall Greek guy with dark hair and a golden earing tapped me on the shoulders and spoke something to me which I had trouble understanding. At first, I thought the guy was lost and needed help for directions or something. It was only after a few minutes that I realised he was asking for my phone number....lol....he than grabbed my hand and begged me to go out with him, promising me that he would pay for dinner and danccing. He also told me if I ever visited Cyprus, he would ferry me around in his bike. He than proceeded to hold my hands and walk the gardens with me.Another time, me and a girlfriend decided we should hit the clubs . At a hip dance club, we decided to share a booth seat, just as we were approaching the booth seat, 2 teenagers, dressed ihn typical gansta outfit, trackies and all just slipped inot the booth we were about to sit in. Obviously, they wanted to courner us or something, so we just ignored them and after like 5 minutes we left the club.Another time, me and same girlfriend were waiting for the last train home and we missed the train, therefore faced a 5 hour wait till morning. Strangely enough, the genitor who was cleaning the station saw us, and offered us a lift home. In his car, he was flirting with us non stop.

Okay so I have a really awkward situation that I'm facing with this guy:So his name is Kevin, and we've known eachother for two years. We've been at the same school and have almost all the same classes. He is really funny and has a great personality, but we're friends, and nothing more. I'm not attracted to him at all, and I really couldn't see myself dating him. So last night I was at a party, and Kevin was there, too. We all gathered into one big circle and started playing truth or dare (how juvenile, I know). This one girl named Ali asked be truth or dare, and i picked dare. She dared me to kiss Kevin on the lips. I said that I wouldn't because I just didn't want to, and Kevin was already next to me, waiting for the kiss. I kept saying no that I wouldn't, and then after about five minutes of everyone badgering me to do it, we moved on.

Over the course of the party, I got dared to kiss him oh, about ten times, and I didn't do it any of those times. To complicate things further, my crush was at that party.

So my dilemma is, what should I do next time I see Kevin at school (which isn't for another week since I'm on spring break)? I know for a fact that there is going to be some awkward tension between us, but I don't want that to destroy our friendship. What should I say to Kevin when he asks me why I didn't kiss him?

I really, really need help!!! I don't know what to do, I've never been in a situation like this!

Its preety simple really. If he can't take what has happened like a man and just laugh it off, than you should avoid him till he gets a grip and move on in life. I think that both you and him need to grow up. Things like what happened occurs to almost everyone, so the thing to do is just move on and get back to the more important things in life. If you don't like the guy, don't give him false hope, tell him in his face, but don't lead him on.

Consider this..helped me a lot

I think that having a healthy dose of sealf esteem is good, as it gives a person confidance and a believe in his or herself that him or her can succees in life. In addition, with a confident personality, it does wonders to your social life and help you get around in society much more easily. However, having too much self esteem is not good at all. It results in a person being cocky and over confident and tends to breed anti-social behaviour as well. It is important to find a good balance between the two, as it would result in a much healthier personality.

hi, I think that being jealous in itself is not a bad thing. It shows that you love the person, and if they show affection for someone else, it hurts you. However it can be extremely distructive too. Its natural to feel jealous you should not surpress the feeling, but before rushing to confront your lover or smash the furniture, sit down, relax, take a deep breathe, write down what made you feel jealous, analyse it logically, do you have proof, could there be another innocent reason for explaining your lover's behaviour towards another person, f you really feel that your lover has cheated on you, wait 1 week, if you still feel the same way about the matter in 1 week than talk to your lover about the problem and see what he or she says, important thing is don't loose your cool or all will be lost.

I think the phrase is not really accurate. Its not love at first sight, its lust at first sight. In my openion, if you first see someone and you feel attracted to that person, its lust not love, its impossible that you love him or her just by seeing the person for the first time because you know nothing about the person. If the person is married, is a murderer, is a sexual offender, or even the person's first name. Its all lust, you are attracted to the person's body, their charm, their look, their eyes, etc, its physical. Its only later, when you have already established a relationship with that person be it as a friend, as a co worker, as a buddy, that you can decide if you really love that person since you already know more details about that person.

I think that your write up on the letter S is preety accurate for me. I've often been accused by my boyfriend for being secretive although I hardly notice that at all. YOu're preety right on about the sex part and the knowing all the secrets of the trade too hahahhaa at least I have heard no complains so far. As for being self centered, I think we all have that to some degree, for me my sense of self is very important so yeah I think you hit the nail right on the head.

Hi guys,Well, this is my current dating story. I am seeing a guy from France but he lives in Geneve. So this summer break, he has earned enough money about 1500CHF to fly me to Switzerland to spend the summer break with him, this is so cool. He just asked me this week if I would fly down to see him, and I thought this is only 1 weeks notice, how can I just drop everything to fly down to see you?? But in the end I thought, what the heck I love this guy, he's paying for the trip why not, so I just pulled out my old backpack from the cupboard, dust it out, got 2 weeks worth of short sand t shirts thrown in, personal stuff and off I go on the 1st of August. I'm a bit apprehensive seeing him again as we have been apart for 6 months I wonder how he as changed physically. One thing is for sure though, I know i will love to see him face to face again and melt in those sexy blue eyes.

If you were in the mess of choosing Love or money, what would you choose? And why do you think that?
If I was in that situation, I would choose love but if it's untrue love, screw it I'm taking the money. If I was really in love with a guy & he really loves me for who we are, I would choose love because love... is just too hard to explain. Love is too much compared to money, money can be used and may make you happy, but how long can you stay happy? You will one day become really poor or broke; you will run out of the money. If you chose money, you'd spend all the money all at once for the dumbest things you ever wanted. You'd think back to the time of the choice you had to choose, you'd ask yourself-- Why did I choose money over him? You'd regret it. Oh anyway, I feel like I'm sort of getting out of the topic, anyway the point is I choose love and love is too much compared to money.

I think that love and money are not mutually exclusive. In fact I think that you need to have both love without money will mean the end of that love much sooner than you think. You will start to fight about bills and expenses, life without money is no fun at all. However, having money without love is also terrible, and as they say money may not buy you true love, so really its good to have the correct balance of both love and money.

I'm doing telecommunication engg. in Pakistan. I'm fallen in love with a girl. She's my class fellow. I was and still very uncomfortable talking to her because I always get nervous in front of her. I can't tell u how I managed to tell her abt I love her, but it gave me a real tough time doin' all this and of course! it took a long time.
But now when I've discussed all this with her, and even she also unhided the thing that she's also involved in me, the problem is that we two can't be together due to some reasons in both of our familys' religious background. So when we both know the fact that our Love won't be able to reach its final destination, we've decided to remain as just sincere friends, BUT I can't forget that I loved her too much more than anybody else. She means to me a lot.

I wanna know your opinion what should I do now to erase my memory in which she's got too much space. I feel like I'm destroying my life for what I can't get. Can you sort my problem out...?

My honest openion is that if you allow religious differences to get between your love for the girl, I'm afraid to tell you that the love you have for her is not very strong. If you really love her that much, you will think of any way around the family objections due to religion, even to the extent of running away with her, but of course that is an extreme for of expression but it shows that the love is more powerful than the objections. However, if you think that the family problems are more important than the love, than I can assure you that with time passin you will feel less and less for her as it is not really love in the first place.

At what point in a long relation ship do you say Hey I need a break or Ineed to spend time on my own?
Just imagine a new couple, being toghether almost everyday if not every other day. As the relation ship grows time passes. The relation ship evolves into something more. eventually to marriage.

But this entire time, you are deeply in love and you continue to spend almost every minute together. and you start to realize that you need some time away as well. but at this point suggesting something like this would cause the other person to think well whats wrong are you no longer interested in me.

ofcourse you still are and the love has not changed, so this bring me to the question when is it good time to bring this up.

Im sure the best time would be when modlding hte relationship. But who really knows how a relationship will turn out to be like in the future. so most of us spent alot of time with that peron, and sometimes it evolvesd to what i mentioned above. and then you just cant get away..

I think thew best time to say I need some space is anytime you feel you need some space, regardless of which point you are int he relationship. You must remember that even though you are in a relationship, you are still an indivedual with rights to privacy and having your own space. Just because you are attached doesn't mean that you have to give up your rights. If you find that your partner intrudes into your personal space, let him or her know and ask them to back off.

My first kiss was in a club in Australia, Perth called the o2 bar. It was this drunk guy who slobbered all over me....hahahah but it was still a kiss. My first real kiss was at the airport where my French lover flew in, and gave me THE BEST smackeroo I ever had, hahahha in comparison to the drunk slobber.

I think that its preety easy to get someone to love you. All you have to do is to be extra nice to them give them whatever they wish for. If they are hungry, bring them to a fancy resturant, if they want to go shopping, pay for their purchases, offer them surprises and gifts often, send them flowers every day, write them crazy love poems, make the person laugh, make the person's life easiler, offer lifts to the person, if you live in a big house, invite her over often, bring her out to different places and make her happy.In my openion, it works 9 out of 10 times.

when i was roughly 12 years old i knew this girl , we got on really well and i had a bit of a crush on her (she may have shown the same feelings). i then didnt see her for 2yrs and a couple of years later i hav seen her out and about at tennis and we havent really spoken, iv probably spoken to her mum more because we know each other quite well! The other day i saw her where i work at the gym (im now 16) and she recognised me i think but were too shy to talk to each other. i still really like her alot!!! and want to date her but i think itll be really awkward to speak to her if i see her in the gym (where im planning to talk to her again). i just need advice on how to get to see her more than just at the gym and ask her out.

Please help!!!

I think that since you are the man, behave like one. Ask her out direct and if she rejects you, try and try again till she agrees. If you really want something in life, you should try and do it, not waste time sitting around thinking of why you sholdn't do it.

I agree on this count, trust is indeed a matter of degree. Betrayel of a couple is also a matter of degree. I think I understand what you mean about him and the other woman, its an emotional betrayel rather than a sexual betrayel. In the end, you have to decide together with him, what are the rules and boundries of your relationship as a couple. I think you both must agree on which direction to walk together before you both proceed further. If you both agree on the groundrules, than if either party breaks it, the concequances should also be transparent and so both know what to expect and do.

If you're too shy, then just lie down, do nothing, and be alone the rest of your life.
I fully understand how it feels, but you aren't going to use the "shy guy" crap anymore. I know how much anxiety this can give all of us, but you're just going to have to get over it as it's going to affect you the rest of your life negatively if you don't.

The good news is that you CAN get over it! You're don't have to be shy the rest of your life and just suffer with whatever life gives you. You can actually take what you want, (and leave the rest to the other "shy guys" out there!)

You do this by getting yourself educated. I suggest that you post questions here for me to answer as a very good start. In addition, decide right now that you're not going to use being shy as an excuse any more. Just stop it. It's time to grow up and be a man. If you're not sure how to do this, that's ok - that's what this post will show you.

Find a "role model" whose person you can adopt. I like James Bond or Tom Cruise's character in "Top Gun". These are great models to follow. Then, fake it until you make it!

Like in the question I got in the email, just because this guy has already taken the first step doesn't mean that you're out. After all, it's HER decision - not his! Just go up to her and say, "You know, we need to spend some time together and get to know each other. Let's have coffee this week. How's either Thursday or Saturday?"

Believe me my brothers - it really IS that simple! Take a few small steps, get a few successes and watch your confidence level soar.

Post questions here if you wish.I will answer them.

I would like to say that being shy in itself is not a flaw, some girls including myself even find it cute. However, if your shyness gets in the way of what you want, or what you are able to achieve, than it becomes a character flaw and you must do somethihng to overcome it. I think the role model apparach is very good. Because some people instinctively don't know how to overcome their shyness, they can take their cue from famous cool dudes. That way you have a road map to follow, just do like they do, you don't have to come up with anything original, but a word of caution coming from a gal, girls like genuine guys, don't over do the cool dude thing or it could very well backfire. Be confident, but let your genuine nice guy personality shine through

So there's this girl, I really like. I mean, really, realllllly like. I've known her since middle school, 8th grade. And now we're both Juniors in Highschool, so a good 3 years, if not more. I've liked her more and more since Sophmore year. At the begining of the year it was.."She's really cute". By the middle it was "I wish..". I'm not sure if she liked me then, and almost certain she didn't. But I still liked her, then, she got a boyfriend. I suppose it wasn't the worst thing that ever happened to me, but I was upset. Never-the-less, I was still happy for her, since she was happy. Maybe 3-4 months later she had second thoughts. She said she had lost the "Passion", if you will. She didn't feel the same way. So they broke up, by then I was with her and someone else, nearly everyday after school, hanging out and stuff. I really dropped hints I liked her, but never just asked her because I was never really good with girls. And my other friend, who was with us then, said that she(the girl I liked) wasn't ready for a relationship yet, because of the breakup.
Well everything was going smoothly before I left for S.Dakota. It's July 23rd here, and I left June 28th. I've tryed to keep in touch with her, I call occasianaly, and MSN, she says it's really great to talk to me and she can't wait till we can hang out. (I'm coming home July 28th).

Well, I got on MSN today and saw her little "title" thing below her name, it said "I love my texan boy <3". By then my stomach obviously dropped. She said the guys name is Zach, and I asked if it's an online relationship, she said "kinda". I'm not sure what to think, I don't know if this guy is a guy she meant online and got together with in r/l or what.

That's really all she told me, she said she wanted to talk to me in person, which I suppose is better. Maybe I'll have the guts to actually tell her how I feel, even though she probably already knows.

Now that I've told you that, there's one more thing.

I'm really getting mixed signals from her, it seems. When we part our own ways, we hug, and she says "Bye" in that stretched out way, "Byeeeee", and it seems to get "sweeter". But now I really just don't know what to think.

But what confuses me now, is this. I've told her how I've been riding horses a lot up here, going through hills, trail riding and such. I've got the whole, Cowboy boots, hat, shirt. (Texas maybe?) The whole "Kinda" knowing the guy over the internet. (Eh?). Maybe she gave me a false name? She said she wanted to talk to me in person? I doubt that highly, but is it a possibilty?

Hopefully when I get home things will be better, Junior year for us is almost begining, and I'm pretty exited for "that".

Well sorry for such a long post, it's the longest I've done in a while, I hope you guys have some good replies because I'm flat out stumped.

I think the situation is very simple. It doesn't matter if you are the Texas guy or if she has a boyfriend already. It doesn't even matter if its an online relationship or a offline relationship. What really matters if that you love her and that she isn't married. I think that you should try your best to win her over. Even if she has a boyfriend, as they say it ain't over till the fat lady sings. SO do your best send her flowers every day, write marshy love poems to her. Ask her out to fancy resturants for dinner, man I mean THE WORKS>If in the end she still doesn't fall for you, you can at least say one thing with a contented heart, thatyou have tried your very best and didn't let this opportunity get away.