sheepdog 10 Report post Posted July 31, 2012 This forum is one of my favorites, at least it frequently gives me a chance to write something and offer some kind of help, but I'm curious. Hardly anyone ever comes back in here and lets us advice givers know if our tips helped or hurt or worked or what happens. I'd just love to see a post someday that says, "Hey Sheepdog, that really worked, we got married, our first kid is on the way and now we plan to live happily ever after." Sure would like to see some follow up here. Besides, if my advice doesn't work, maybe I need to rethink my ideas, and I don't know if nobody tells me. A person hates to give bad advice on something as serious as our personal relationships. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ritu 1 Report post Posted August 2, 2012 Somehow even I feel the same way, but there is something else that I think. We often find people who have been shattered by the turbulence in their lives and many of us have the capacity of sensibly handling such issues, and you have indeed contributed considerably, at least we know that within our hearts.However, I agree that appreciation or at least recognition does matter a lot.Nevertheless, being on the forum in some way brings about the discussion which gets transformed into assistance,mainly emotional on this part of the forum. Hope all of us manage to keep up the noble work. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sheepdog 10 Report post Posted August 10, 2012 Your right, it's nice to be recognised when you try to do good or help. It helps anyway. But even so, I am only in this world to live up to my own expectations, so as long as I feel good about trying to help, that really is all that matters to me. I'm sure that sometimes just telling your story can ease your mind and relieve some of the preasure of having a problem. And it's even more helpful if you get others to contribute when you are having problems, I'm sure any advise, right or wrong makes a person think that at least they aren't all alone with their problems and other people do care about them. So either way, it's a good thing. And by the way, I'm really glad your here at Xisto. You make some really good posts that I can contribute my opinion to. Thanks for being here! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ritu 1 Report post Posted August 13, 2012 And by the way, I'm really glad your here at Xisto. You make some really good posts that I can contribute my opinion to. Thanks for being here!Hey, thanks a ton! coming back to the topic, I will cite my own example in this regard, not just about dating advice, but in other categories also like discussing about relationships and sharing the stories of the early part of my life, really makes me feel good, and if someone like you finds interest in that and takes an effort to reply, it is even better, and just narrating the stories transports me to that part of my life and I almost relive the moments that i really cherish. As far as contributing to the solutions provided for others in distress on the forums, if someone is benefited just by a sensitive approach to his issue, then I am always up for that. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sheepdog 10 Report post Posted September 1, 2012 I think you are quite right, sometimes just talking about a subject and writing it all down and seeing it in print has a way of making you see things in a different light and just the release of sharing your feelings can help ease some of the burden of pain you may be carrying from whatever bad experience life has thrown at you. As the saying goes, whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger. We have to learn to get past these experiences and move on with our lives, and if we don't ever have any bad experiences, we can't learn how to get past them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
