Confused If Am In Love Or Falling Out Of It.

[iGuest 3]

Hi, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years. I was great at the beginning but now I am starting to wonder if I am continuing to go out with him just because it is comfortable and I have someone to be with. Our sexual relationship is lacking and I dont feel very phsyically attracted to him amymore. When people ask me if I love him or if we are going to get married I am always hesitante and am shy to answer. My boyfriend is a bigger guy so sometimes I am embrassed to show poeple pictures of him and say he is my boyfriend because of the way he looks. Lately alot of things he does have been bugging me and I have little patience with him. We went to his Christmas party the other night and I met one of his co-workers that I thought was really cute. I had alot of fun with him that night talking and dancing and now I have been thinking about him alot. I would see cute guys before and just brush it off but this one is different and I am wondering am I still in love, is it time to end it? Should I go after this other guy, should i wait it out and try to fix my current relationsip? I am really confused right now on what I should do and what my true feelings are.

[iGuest 3]

I have a similar predicament.I'm with someone. We're really really good together and I can't bear the thought of hurting her. But then there's this other girl who every time I see makes me feel a bit like I'm in free fall. The problem is I don't even know if this other girl feels the same way, but we seem to have some really good chemistry.So my predicament is as follows. I have two options:1: I leave my girlfriend. If I did this and I got the other girl, then it could be worth it. However there are two other outcomes that could be really bad. I could leave my girlfriend and it not work out with the other girl, that would suck. I could also end up with the other girl but then realise that I don't want to be with her after all.2: I stay with my girlfriend. This could turn out well. However it is also possible that I could end up regretting missing my opportunity with the other girl and our relationship would fail anyway or I would be really unhappy.You're not alone with this problem.I wreckon it's maybe better to wait it out for a week, then look at yourself in the mirror and see if you can say that you love your boyfriend,Your response might answer your question for you,I hope it does. Otherwise I guess we're both screwed :S