I Feel Too.... Too Protective

[Ziku 0]

Me and my girlfriend had an argument yesterday and it waged on into today. When the argument ended, she gave me a choice, get the *BLEEP* off my issue or just keep hurting her and risk losing her. In that moment, I was so afraid of losing her I felt like it happened, and now I never want to hurt her like that again.Now on to my problem now....I feel very protective of her as a result.... She's seventeen (I'm fifteen) she's a bisexual, she's had some problems with sex and giving it up in the past (we haven't had and we don't intend to), she gets drunk every now and again and a lot of other habits I don't like. Still, up until now I just kinda shrugged them off, I didn't consider them anything to give a second thought.... But now that I'm so scared of losing her, I don't want anything to come between us and hurt us again.Most recently, I saw her old photos on Facebook, I didn't want to see, I was afraid of what I'd see.... I saw though. I saw her and her ex in a bunch of photos together.... And they seemed so happy. And to me, it just seems like.... Like maybe I'm not making her as happy as she did. I trust my girlfriend (Meredith for the rest of the post) I trust her, I do. She says she and her ex are through, that they're just friends now. I want Meredith to have friends, ex's or not, I want her to have her friends. Meredith says she loves me, I love her too, I know I do, and I know she does.... But this ex was just.... Her first love. I don't mind being the second person she loves, that doesn't bug me.... Just the fear of losing her and.... And the sight of her so happy with someone else, someone so dedicated.... It just drives me insane.I need help.... I'll do anything to get myself through this

[Echo_of_thunder 1]

Me and my girlfriend had an argument yesterday and it waged on into today. When the argument ended, she gave me a choice, get the *BLEEP* off my issue or just keep hurting her and risk losing her. In that moment, I was so afraid of losing her I felt like it happened, and now I never want to hurt her like that again.
Now on to my problem now....

I feel very protective of her as a result.... She's seventeen (I'm fifteen) she's a bisexual, she's had some problems with sex and giving it up in the past (we haven't had and we don't intend to), she gets drunk every now and again and a lot of other habits I don't like. Still, up until now I just kinda shrugged them off, I didn't consider them anything to give a second thought.... But now that I'm so scared of losing her, I don't want anything to come between us and hurt us again.

Most recently, I saw her old photos on Facebook, I didn't want to see, I was afraid of what I'd see.... I saw though. I saw her and her ex in a bunch of photos together.... And they seemed so happy. And to me, it just seems like.... Like maybe I'm not making her as happy as she did. I trust my girlfriend (Meredith for the rest of the post) I trust her, I do. She says she and her ex are through, that they're just friends now. I want Meredith to have friends, ex's or not, I want her to have her friends. Meredith says she loves me, I love her too, I know I do, and I know she does.... But this ex was just.... Her first love. I don't mind being the second person she loves, that doesn't bug me.... Just the fear of losing her and.... And the sight of her so happy with someone else, someone so dedicated.... It just drives me insane.

I need help.... I'll do anything to get myself through this

Sounds to me as you really do care for her and her well being. But as you said your 15 and she is 17, you said she gets drunk and alot of babits you dont like. You can not change how people are. I know. My ex wife was a alicholic. I tried and tried to change her ways. Never could. I finally left because it was affecting my well being. Sometimes you have to do what is the right thing to do for you not the one you love or care for. Notice I say care for. You will not like hearing this but I am going to say it anyways. your 15, You are too young to know what real love is yet. You said she gave you the choice? My advice. Close this chapter and go to the next. You can however if she wants be her friend. But I would not try and push her into anything of you take the big chance of losing her forever.

Good Luck