badger78

Well I would hope after almost 3 years it would be serious :PWe haven't talked much since Sunday. I haven't seen her yet today, but she should be home in awhile. She will probably go shut herself in the bedroom. I do understand the need to give space, but I also want to be social and let her know my feelings have changed. Still, I want to get the whole story.

2 days ago my gf came home after a day of shopping with her mom and sister (ironically in my home town and she saw my parents). Anyway, I didn't go since I was planning on making the 2.5 hour trip in a few weeks to see them plus a lot of times on Sundays they are out and about. Ok so she tells me she wants to "chat." So I stop what I'm doing and follow her into the kitchen. She looks at me and says "I want to breakup." I was very very taken aback by this. It was the last thing I expected to hear. I asked her why and she said her "gut" told her things weren't going to work out. I asked her for more details, and she said such things as she "needs to be who she really is" and she doesn't want to have me change. I said what things do I need to change, and she said we had talked about it before. Of course there are always bumps in the road, but I never thought anything was seriously wrong. I consider my self to be a pretty "aware" person, so if she was unhappy I didn't see it. I asked her for more details but she wouldn't tell me. I asked if there was someone else twice, and she said no. She said she can't keep trying to make it work out, but that I am a wonderful guy, etc. etc.She and I dated for almost 3 years. In fact, we had been talking about marriage and she dropped hints a lot the past few months. I was planning on getting her a ring in the next 2 months (which I told her). Last week we talked about me meeting up with her in Boston during the summer so we could see Fenway Park (she has a convention she want to go to in RI). Even marriage came up again last week! For some more perspective, I moved with her to a new city 7 months ago. Sure I was ready for a change, but I moved to stay with her since I knew she was the one. I do have some moments were I am not the most touchy feeling person, which I told I was sorry for, but I said that never meant I loved you less.To me it seems there is something I'm not being told. I talked to several female friends, and 1 thinks she is cheating on me, the other thinks her family told her to do this (which is strange since I thought we got along great), and another just said she is being unfair to me and needs to tell me everything.I don't know if I should put up the good fight for her and try to stay with her or move on. HELP!