Darknesscyshadow

I've been discriminated against too. I'm a vegitarian, but it's not the meat eaters who hate me- it's other vegitarians! Why? I'm not a vegitarian because I love animals. I accept that we use them to better ourselves- it's all part of survival. I don't condone killing something for no reason- if you're doing it, you're doing it to aid your survival. The reason I don't eat meat is simple- It disgusts me. I'm not a meat person. Besides, you should tell your vegitarian frends that when you pick an apple from a tree, it reacts. You can measure the reaction with the correct scientific instruments. It's like a scream. Tell them if they loved the world so much, they wouldn't kill and torture plants for food. And me? I'm about to make the move from just vegitables to vegitables and insects. I've always wanted to try fried locusts!

When a person says "A relationship needs honesty to work" most people brush it off as something they know already- but how many people actually listen? If you and your partner are completely honest with each other, there are millions of problems that can be averted. The hardest part is trust. Step one of being honest with someone is trusting them enough to be honest with them. "Love is living without doubt or fear" is one of the greatest lines I've ever heard for this sort of thing, and it's true. You have to know the person you are dating enough to trust them with everything you have if you want the relationship to last for a long time. If you don't trust your partner, if you keep having suspicions about them, then the relationship may likely fail. Once you trust them, you have to make sure they trust you- and to keep that trust, be honest. Everything you feel, you should bring out into the open, so that together you can solve any problems there may be. Even if it is a subject that may cause problems in your relationship, it is best to bring it up sooner rather than later, as keeping things like that jephordises the very trust that relationships depend on to survive. If you and the person you love can be completely honest with each other, the relationship has a much better chance of lasting than if you were not, don't you agree? Too many people keep secrets in their relationships nowadays, and this can easily lead to both doubt and fear.

I prefer to view it not as cheating, but betrayal of love: They can want, but they can't touch. It's not bad that you want people to want you- that is normal, but I think I'm with your view of it. Kissing, touching (suggestively of course) is all too far. Wanting someone else enough to actively strive after them is betrayal. and extremely suggestive flirting cyber-wise is betrayal too in my book. You have to be loyal to the person you love- So you smile when you know someone is looking at you- it's all fine. As long as you're loyal and don't make a move, you're not betraying the trust of your lover. You have to be loyal to the person you love.

That sounds pretty harsh...But believe me you wouldn't had rather he'd cheated. You might think it's easier but really both scenarios deal with the same things, except one has used and hurt added onto the end... Well I'll give you advice I'll probably become well known for saying: You have to let out everything you feel about it. Your ex may not understand, but you have to let all your feelings out and you have to tell them to his face- only then can you truly be rid of them enough to start moving on. As for the things you've become acustomed to...You learn to live without them again- It is hard, and it takes a long time for the memories to leave you, but trust me when I say that things will slowly get better. Rely heavily on your friends, friends help this process alot- don't make the mistake of completely withdrawing from everyone and everything, because talking to friends -really- helps with these feelings. I used to go to a good friends house almost every other weekend (after he got back from a year out) just to talk about...well...everything! It helps to get it out in the open and hear peoples opinions on things. You probably have dreams of the past at this point- if you were wondering those go too. Just lift yourself up one step at a time and don't be afraid to take help. Crying is good too- some people don't like to cry but it can really help relieve stress just to let it out.

Hey...this is probably a bit late considering its february but I somehow wondered back to this article and found this: My advice is to let all your feelings out- shout at him if you must, just let them all go. You'll feel better afterwards- And after that you'll have to move on. It'l be hard but you'll have to start forgetting. It's been almost a year since I started this topic- and I can say that I did this and felt better. My life has greatly improved!

You were right, you know... I did fall in love again. Thanks for the advice man....It really helped. (salutes)

(chuckles) I guess they think that your advice was feminine...I thought it sounded pretty sound.

We talked over why I was calling it off and slept comfortably next to each other that night. I thought at the time she'd understood and was willing to wait for me...

Thanks alot... I just hope life progresses for now- I'll worry about someone else later.

I appreciate your advice alot...Actually for reading it I can say I feel alot better- It means that the things people close to me say just to cheer me up may actually be true in some cases too... I'm going to try to move on with my life- despite the hardship i may face...I guess the main problems I have at the moment are the guilt, the feeling of being insignificant (caused by being replaced) and the shock from iut all happening in just under 2 weeks...

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