Adrianbar

Hey man, cheer up... I kinda know where u r right now and how u feel I'm actually going through a breackup my self, so I understand exactly what u mean by the depression steadily getting worse...So look... there is no way to make the pain go away or to forget about it or to just get over it by saying some magic word or taking a magic pill... or smoking a magic pipe... hhhhmm that got me thinking... Anyway... there are a few things u must keep in mind.1. U r a good person and will find someone when the time comes.2. a few years from now when u r happily married and have kids this will look rather funny (the way u feel right now).3. Not a single person in the history of man kind has died from love it self (I'm quite sure) and tehre is no reason for you to start.So... know that it will hurt for a while, but then it will go away, trust me it will (I like to think it will since I'm feeling it too)... and u know what?? f**ck it man... enjoy life, get out more, do the activities u enjoy and look at the world around u, it has not stopped moving, people have not stopped living their lives and there is no reason for you to do it either...Cheer up bro!!!... it will pass!!

Ok... so my story was actually one that seemed from a fairy tail, but has become a horror novel.it started around 7 years ago, I met this gilr whom I liked instantly, I started calling her we went out twice, but nothing happened, because she was just coming out of a long and traumatinc relationship... I thought that was it, never saw her again until a year and a half ago when we met again at a friends b-day party... we hit it off right then, the only problem was that it was a long distance relationship, but somehow we managed to make it work... early in the relationship I noticed that she had several problems caused by two traumatinc relationships (after the one 7 years ago), she had trust issued and was always trying not to get "too involved". However, I really like this girl, and after so long I decieded to earn her trust and show her the nicer side of relationships, show her that she couls trust her parner, etc.around 8 months ago she moved to the same town I live in and we hae been practically living together ever since... (now's when it gets ugly)... from the moment she arived here, she practically wen off sex, I read about it and the reason might have been that she was depressed, 'cause she never felt like it, she missed her family, friends, etc. so I decieded not to push it, and basically wait for her to "feel like it", also, since I thought she was depressed, I tried to give her more of my time, I was always with her, planning activities, trying to show her a good time, to be there for her, I even stopped going put with my friends...Everyday I would try to take her out, to a bar, to dance (which I hate doing) but all she wanted to do was sleep early because she had to work the next day... about 2 weeks ago I had to leave on a business trip (it was a wednesday) and the very same day she went out and partied untill 4 am with her friends, when she told me about it (at least she is very honest) I actually felt happy because she had a good time, the problem is that she repeated this everyday I was away and when I came back she went back to the sleep early 'cause she had to work story... so obviously I got furious and told her the problem wasn't she wanted to sleep, the problem was she didn't want to gou out with me... finally I apologized for being selfish and that was that.last saturday she had a highschool reunion and I decieded not to go (also I didn{t get invited) so that she would go with her friends, and have a good time alone, to give her space... but the day before that we went out together and were having a good time, but suddenly she told me she wanted to leave adn when I asked why she got furious and told me she needed to rest so she would not be tired the next day for her reunion and then she told me she couldn't stand me anymore, she didn't love me anymore, that I'm trying to hug her all the time, that I'm asking her how she feels (I actually thought this was a good thing) all the time and that she doesn't wanna see me anymore...of course we broke up and she moved out so... now (5 days later she stared calling me, she didn't apologize and pretends nothing's happened.Now, I love this girl to bits, I think it's the first time I have loved someone, but what she showed me is that she doens't want me to worry about her and that I cannot do... she hurt me deep, I was living for her and feel that she depices my love... .) I don?t want to get back with her, but doubt I have the strenght to leave her...Any advice?