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There's this girl I've been seeing at work since Christmas. She's three years older than me, and I'm sixteen. Oh, and I want to start off saying that, yeah, I know I'm just sixteen. I know that I have a lot more to experience, and I have a lot more to learn. So, I don't know what love is. That being said, I started noticing her more often and she always flirted with me whenever I was near her, and she always switched hours with people at work so that she just happened to work EVERY time I did. Of course, I didn't want to get my hopes up so I didn't assume anything. And I'm glad I didn't because she had a boyfriend (that I didn't know about) and he's a good guy. Seriously. But anyway, one day in March she came to me and asked if we could go to Starbuck's before we went to work. So, being friends with her, I didn't think much of it and said sure. But when we got there she said she had feelings for me and that she'd really like to do something more but she wasn't sure if it was right to do that to her boyfriend. I told her to do what she thought was best and that I'd support her, and I also said that I didn't think it was right if she liked him. And she said she didn't feel as strongly for him anymore. After that day, for two weeks she saw me every day, we talked everyday, and let it grow. Then I found out she didn't tell him. I told her she should because that wasn't right and he should know how she was feeling (which he probably noticed she was getting distant, but he still deserved the truth.) So she tells him, and all of a sudden she wasn't sure anymore. She says she loves both of us, and I'm extremely confused because she tells me that when she's with him she's wishing it was me but then she tells someone else that she's not sure of her feelings and that she thinks she likes him better. I know it's not a contest, but come on. That makes me mad; I don't think she should be leading us on and I don't know what to think because when I'm with her I just...... believe her. She makes me SO happy and I think I love her. That's why I said what I said in the first couple of sentences. I don't know what to do. If love is giving yourself to someone, always wanting them to be happy, willing to do anything to make them happy (and I mean ANYTHING; If I had to leave her alone I would), then I love her. I'd sacrifice anything to make her happy. I know I sound naive, but I've thought about it long and hard and I know I mean it. She tells me she loves me. A lot. I'm not sure, but I want her to be happy SO much..... Please help me! I've been trying to find the right thing to do for a while now and I can't do it on my own.... Please. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated, and if you do thank you for your time.

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Hi there my question,

I just got married a few weeks ago. I met my wife three years ago and fell in love with. I know that she has been hurt before in her last marriage emotion and psychologically. She is a very giving person and very caring. However what I have notice about her, when I say to her I love you she would say ME TO, its very rear she would say to me I love you to. Is this a warning sign ? or is she afraid to show her true feelings because of her last abuses relationship.

 

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wat should i doHow Do You Know She Loves You?Dear anyone who can tell me if this is right I met this guy on the internet we started talking out first as friends and we got closer talking about everything. Then the guy started to like me and I started to like him we just got closer we exchange phone numbers online and I called him I got to hear his voice and I fell in love everything about him I like. One day he told me that he?s falling in love with me and he told me he loves me and I?ve being having long distance relationship since and I get to love him too and I told him I love him too. 
He calls me every day and he tells me love me always and he ask how?s my day and if I?m alright I even sent him a letter he got it and I talked to his mother also over the phone. We talk online a lot and I have a webcam so he sees me always he just got this webcam too so we correspond frequently. I?m 17 and he?s 19, I?m a virgin also and when I first met him online I asked if he?s a virgin and he said yes I asked if he?s lying he told me no and asked him over and over because it?s hard for me believe a guy 19 and still a virgin. I?m looking for someone to love me and care and I think this is the guy and this year coming July I?m going to meet him for real and we were talking about having sex I want to do it with him he said he would want to get married first but I?m so anxious I wouldn?t mine doing it with him I wouldn?t regret. The things is he?s my not my type but is attitude made me fall in love with him and he thinks when I meet him I won?t like him but I told him just be you that I met online. So I?m asking anyone what do you think of this situation should I do it with this guy I want to really and by that time I?ll be 18 but I want to know if it?s right I don?t want to get hurt. 
 
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There's this girl I've been seeing at work since Christmas. She's three years older than me, and I'm sixteen. Oh, and I want to start off saying that, yeah, I know I'm just sixteen. I know that I have a lot more to experience, and I have a lot more to learn. So, I don't know what love is. That being said, I started noticing her more often and she always flirted with me whenever I was near her, and she always switched hours with people at work so that she just happened to work EVERY time I did. Of course, I didn't want to get my hopes up so I didn't assume anything. And I'm glad I didn't because she had a boyfriend (that I didn't know about) and he's a good guy. Seriously. But anyway, one day in March she came to me and asked if we could go to Starbuck's before we went to work. So, being friends with her, I didn't think much of it and said sure. But when we got there she said she had feelings for me and that she'd really like to do something more but she wasn't sure if it was right to do that to her boyfriend. I told her to do what she thought was best and that I'd support her, and I also said that I didn't think it was right if she liked him. And she said she didn't feel as strongly for him anymore. After that day, for two weeks she saw me every day, we talked everyday, and let it grow. Then I found out she didn't tell him. I told her she should because that wasn't right and he should know how she was feeling (which he probably noticed she was getting distant, but he still deserved the truth.) So she tells him, and all of a sudden she wasn't sure anymore. She says she loves both of us, and I'm extremely confused because she tells me that when she's with him she's wishing it was me but then she tells someone else that she's not sure of her feelings and that she thinks she likes him better. I know it's not a contest, but come on. That makes me mad; I don't think she should be leading us on and I don't know what to think because when I'm with her I just...... believe her. She makes me SO happy and I think I love her. That's why I said what I said in the first couple of sentences. I don't know what to do. If love is giving yourself to someone, always wanting them to be happy, willing to do anything to make them happy (and I mean ANYTHING; If I had to leave her alone I would), then I love her. I'd sacrifice anything to make her happy. I know I sound naive, but I've thought about it long and hard and I know I mean it. She tells me she loves me. A lot. I'm not sure, but I want her to be happy SO much..... Please help me! I've been trying to find the right thing to do for a while now and I can't do it on my own.... Please. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated, and if you do thank you for your time.

every girl have a different style of thinking..some are very serious,,some are happy and so on but its not so easy to point by her attitude that she is in love..and sometimes even she doesnot know that she is in love while she loves you.
try to keep yourself away from her for 4-5days,,if she becomes restless then she can realize that she loves you and then you will be told by her that she loves you.

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Dear anyone who can tell me if this is right I met this guy on the internet we started talking out first as friends and we got closer talking about everything.  then the guy started to like me and I started to like him we just got closer we exchange phone numbers online and I called him I got to hear his voice and I fell in love everything about him I like. One day he told me that he?s falling in love with me and he told me he loves me and I?ve being having long distance relationship since and I get to love him too and I told him I love him too. He calls me every day and he tells me love me always and he ask how?s my day and if I?m alright I even sent him a letter he got it and I talked to his mother also over the phone. We talk online a lot and I have a webcam so he sees me always he just got this webcam too so we correspond frequently. I?m 17 and he?s 19, I?m a virgin also and when I first met him online I asked if he?s a virgin and he said yes I asked if he?s lying he told me no and asked him over and over because it?s hard for me believe a guy 19 and still a virgin. I?m looking for someone to love me and care and I think this is the guy and this year coming July I?m going to meet him for real and we were talking about having sex I want to do it with him he said he would want to get married first but I?m so anxious I wouldn?t mine doing it with him I wouldn?t regret. The things is he?s my not my type but is attitude made me fall in love with him and he thinks when I meet him I won?t like him but I told him just be you that I met online. So I?m asking anyone what do you think of this situation should I do it with this guy I want to really and by that time I?ll be 18 but I want to know if it?s right I don?t want to get hurt.-question by amanda

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There's this girl I've been seeing at work since Christmas. She's three years older than me, and I'm sixteen. Oh, and I want to start off saying that, yeah, I know I'm just sixteen. I know that I have a lot more to experience, and I have a lot more to learn. So, I don't know what love is. That being said, I started noticing her more often and she always flirted with me whenever I was near her, and she always switched hours with people at work so that she just happened to work EVERY time I did. Of course, I didn't want to get my hopes up so I didn't assume anything. And I'm glad I didn't because she had a boyfriend (that I didn't know about) and he's a good guy. Seriously. But anyway, one day in March she came to me and asked if we could go to Starbuck's before we went to work. So, being friends with her, I didn't think much of it and said sure. But when we got there she said she had feelings for me and that she'd really like to do something more but she wasn't sure if it was right to do that to her boyfriend. I told her to do what she thought was best and that I'd support her, and I also said that I didn't think it was right if she liked him. And she said she didn't feel as strongly for him anymore. After that day, for two weeks she saw me every day, we talked everyday, and let it grow. Then I found out she didn't tell him. I told her she should because that wasn't right and he should know how she was feeling (which he probably noticed she was getting distant, but he still deserved the truth.) So she tells him, and all of a sudden she wasn't sure anymore. She says she loves both of us, and I'm extremely confused because she tells me that when she's with him she's wishing it was me but then she tells someone else that she's not sure of her feelings and that she thinks she likes him better. I know it's not a contest, but come on. That makes me mad; I don't think she should be leading us on and I don't know what to think because when I'm with her I just...... believe her. She makes me SO happy and I think I love her. That's why I said what I said in the first couple of sentences. I don't know what to do. If love is giving yourself to someone, always wanting them to be happy, willing to do anything to make them happy (and I mean ANYTHING; If I had to leave her alone I would), then I love her. I'd sacrifice anything to make her happy. I know I sound naive, but I've thought about it long and hard and I know I mean it. She tells me she loves me. A lot. I'm not sure, but I want her to be happy SO much..... Please help me! I've been trying to find the right thing to do for a while now and I can't do it on my own.... Please. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated, and if you do thank you for your time.

First thing that came to my mind was, what you are feeling is NOT love. It's infatuation. Infatuation for a girl who is basically tooling both you and her boyfriend. Let me ask you something. Why do you want to be with this girl so much? Why do you want to be with somebody who is so indecisive and looking for another guy while she has a boyfriend? Another thing that came to my mind is, do you have other options? It doesn't seem like you do, seeing as which you are basically obsessing over this one girl.

My advice, go out and socialize with other girls. This one obviously does not know what she wants in a relationship and it doesn't look like she will for a while. Furthermore, if she is doing this with her CURRENT boyfriend, what would happen if she became your girlfriend? She will most likely do it to you as well.

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Girls are completely different comparing to guys girls will never say I love you desperately if they love a guythey will just let the man feel that she loves him, and its the role of the guy to feel it. In our tradition today itsa bad image to see girl pleasing for a boy or the girl is the one escorting the boy imagine at it lolXD its not nice right? or maybe you can say your feelings to her tell her you love her maybe she loves you alsoand she is just waiting for you to say something

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I mess up what should I doHow Do You Know She Loves You?

hi I'm 5th grade and I told this girl who I like because she asked me.I saw her telling her .I was so embarest. my girl stopped talking to me everytime she passes me in the hallway she ignores me. I thougth to my self maybe were to young to love. Please tell me what to do now people who are reading this.

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