jamesmead

i was thinking about some suggestions but i see you have already decided what to do so i wish you the best luck. a good friend is the most important thing you can have so never loose it.

This is so true. Its hard to find a real friend. Most frinds we find are fake and back bite when we not there so if you find a good friend keep a good friend. I'm glad james mead came back to update us on the path he had chose and i think thats a very noble choice and wish him all the best in the future.

Thanks a lot for your advice guys. You guys are awesome. As I told you earlier, we stayed friends - its been months after I posted here first, n I'm still great friends with her. I have started dating this new girl (mostly as I wanna get-off liking the friend) and it's been a while. I still find her (the friend) waiting for me on Skype whenever I get back home, and she gets pretty annoyed if I come home late n always keeps arguing about y I dont msg her first on Skype

She asked me if we could get some coffee together sometime I'm in her city - n, like you guys said, I'm not seeing it as a date or anything, but I told her it'd be great. I'm trying to get her to date guys (though it hurts a bit - but that's what friends do, right?? ), she keeps finding reasons to turn them all down. Could this be because of me? Is my being around stopping her (by any chance if she dint like me like she likes dogs or cats ) from moving on?? I dunno what to do - I dont even know if I'm the reason. Should I just disappear out of her life??

I need your help guys - you guys know that story, tell me what u'd do if you were me??

when I first read your post a while back i was convinced this girl really liked you and now after a while i came back read the additional posts and am still convinced from what you have said and what responses have been said there is a higher chance of her liking you not. Girls can be complex at times yes but this is an open and shut case. The girllikes you a lot.
Its obvious from how you guys spend time together chatting on line the things you say she tells you that she would not tell her bff. The intimacy of your discussions when you online together, how she asks after you when she has not seem you for a while. It all adds up to a girl who really likes you. I am a girl and for me to do all that it would mean I really like the person. I mean if i didnt like that person or in this case if this girl didnt like you and thought of you as an idiot she would take the chance to be away from you as bliss i mean why go looking for someone you know is only going to upset you. If you said she tells you she was looking for you we can or could have said she is just being nice when you come on line but not necessarily liking you. But then because she asks your friends she must genuinely be thinking of you. So FACT this girl does like you. But then she also likes cats and dogs and probably ice cream.

THere is a chance that you have become this close knit friend with her were you think she is telling you things she would nevevr tell her bff but you dont realise that maybe you are her new best friend. Sometimes we become close and attached to people who come into our lives and we inevitably build a good strong friendshio with them without ever realising that we have built a good friendship. She trusts you a lot because you have not given her any reason to doubt you and so at the moment you are the person she can tell all her silly stupid stuff which isf her other girl friends found out they may make fun and tease her about or chastize her about. There is a very fine line between love and friendship and its so easy to confuse the feelings especially with a friend of the opposite sex and based on how you two have been friends for this long I bet you anything you would be better of staying friends than going down the relationship, love and sex route. You have a real good thing going her and though at times you may and will both feel sexual attraction to one another, i suggest if anything happens let it happen under friendship banner because lover complicates everything. Suddenly you will want rights to her life which you never had before but suddenly feel justified to have and this will just make her want time apart as some song said every lover needs a time away from each other. But if you were good friends and she told you all this stuff you'd expect more stuff from a lover and at your age its easy to confuse love and sharing with love and infringement of privacy.

While the fact still stands this girls likes you a lot I am nolonger sure a year down the line is adequate passage of time to still wanna persue a sexual attraction relationship because clearly as you may already know, you friendship is just tooo deep. You all are better off staying friends or becoming what they call these days friends with benefits that way you get the best of both worlds. Not that I would recommend this to anyone but I know that even though i may not approve of such friendship with benefits I am not the one making life's rule and they say never say never because i may find me in the friends with benefits boat one day.

Good Luck. It would be nice if you come back and tell us what you decided to do in the end whether you eventually became lovers or just carried on as friends. It would be nice to know if the relationship on line is still going strong or has it fizzled out and you have found a new online partner to "date" and i use that term loosely.

Hi,

I've decided to continue as her friend.. I may never know what she feels about me.. or may even regret it tomorrow.. but the friendship we have is too important to loose. We'll always remain friends.. Great friends..

Thanks a lot guys for the advice btw.. really appreciate it..!!

Love,
James.

hey, There's this girl I kno who was my junior at college.., and I sort of liked her. and me being sort of a pretty shy guy, I never asked her out. But then, she moved away to a different college. After a few months we met on a social networking site and started talking.. It sort of became an everyday routine.. She'd come to know by then that I liked her and sort of got angry when one of her friends teased her about how much time she spent with me.. (and she told me she thought I was talking to her just coz I liked her and wanted to ask her out.. She's a shy conservative girl to some extent..).. She later sent me a mail the next day apologizing and asking me to forget what happened the other night and insisted on meeting online again.. I tried keeping my distance from her though for what had happened.. But she told my friends that she was feeling bad bout me ignoring her.. So we started talking again.. its been around a year now and we've become really good friends.. We share and discuss stuff we wudn't with anyone else.. and our friends still do tease us.. But she doesn't seem to mind it.. I asked her if we shud perhaps talk less (as if it was affecting me).. She got all irritated and told me if that's wat I want.. She wudn't disturb me again and all those stuff.. Lol.. But I think I like her too.. and wudn't really want to stay away from her.. So, well, that again, was another day we decided to forget.. One of my friends lied to her saying that I had told him that I liked her.. and she came and asked me and said something like "u should have told me first..".. But I immediately cut her off (biggest mistake) and said he was joking.. (and her reply was something like "ohh lol.. Oops.. :angel:" wat do I make of it?? ) she talks to me almost daily now.. Tells me stuff she wudn't tell her bff.. She asks my friends where I was wen I'm not online.. Keeps telling me I'm a nice guy and stuff.. (and refers to me using cute nicknames lol.. ).. and wen people tease her wid me.. She always tells me bout it and chuckles.. Lol.. so.. Does she like me??I have friends living in her town.. n the other day she was like "You should visit him sometime when I'm around".. I wud have asked her out a long time ago.. But she's a very good friend.. and I wudn't wanna lose her in case she doesn't actually like me.. so.. Wat do u guys think?? help me out here people.. (Cheers for all your replies!)