Allysaa

Oh this is so sad. I dont know how old you are, but I so remember all these situations from when I was younger. I know it's easier said than done, but maybe just be grateful of the friends you have! I dont have many 'true' friends, you just have to realise who's important enough to be in your life. Dont worry, you'll look back on this in a year, when you've moved on and realise what you have learnt.

Thankyou very much for taking the time to reply to my rant. I dont think about this all the time, but when i'm alone and you know how you get caught in your own thoughts. I agree, I totally need to move on, because it affect other aspects of my life. I think as i mentioned, the thing I resent is being treated so differently. This was, to be fair just a vent, and I sortof forgot people will actually read it and reply. Thanks again. Thankyou for replying. Your take on my sitution is interesting, though me and my siblings mainly look like our Dad. I think all of this is down to my sister is very outspoken and tells them any problems she has and is very confident and goes out and gets what she wants. My parents, I think view me, and always have done as a bit of a mistake. They're ambitious and money driven and they got knocked up with me when my mum was 16. Thanks for your story, very common to be gratley affected by your parents, even if they dont realise it. Thanks for taking the time to reply to my rant. You're right I dont owe them anything, and i'd so cut them off, but when they move, I need to carry on contact with my bro and sis. This is why it's all a bit difficult.

They have always been useless parents. When I was growing up they just dumped me on any reative/neighbour/anyone who'd have me. Then My dad started working away, so the little bit of bond I did have with him is demolished! Then, fast forward a few years, I finished school, got together with my now husband, they hated that I was with him all the time. No no, dont get the wrong idea, not because they missed me! It was because I couldn't look after my brother more ( I took him to school 3 days per week, and on them days left college early to pick him up!) and I couldn't do as much housework. So because I was out with Ash so much they moved me out of my room into the smaller room then charged me rent. Then I moved out and my mum accused me of not loving my brother any more because of me working full time and not having the time. She's minipulitive and nasty. She messed me up. I've come to terms with the fact my dad doesn't want anything to do with me now, at last (according to my mum, because i'm not motivated!) in other words, not COMPLETELY money orientated like them, so much so they couldn't even be bothered to look after their kids. Well I stopped talking to them for a year (all of 2008) and since i've resumed contact, it's (kindof) been a new slate for me and my mum, not my dad, he's still a useless arsehole! But they're now moving directly to the other side of the world to Aus. Also I must mention, i'm in my early 20's pregnant with my second child and my first child has a disability. I cant give you every detail of EVERYTHING that they've done because believe me, I dont want to drudge it all up again. I would just round them off as crappy evil parents, but they treat my brother and sister completely differently to me?! Why? I couldn't tell you. All I know is, I used to get grounded for being cheeky and my little bro (11) talks to them like crap and gets away with it, and my sis (20) Gets funded for drunken nights every weekend and whatever else, has never payed a pennies rent and gets given two cars?! Oh and bought tickets and healthchecks to move to Aus. This is messing me up. I've fell out with them once I hate confrontation, they leave but want to keep in touch via webcam when they move- I swear to ease their conciences! Older child syndrome maybe, but i'm a good girl. No drink, drugs and i've only been with the one guy, and i'm a bloody good mum. I hope they feel soooooooooooooo guilty in time to come, though I swear they dont give me a second thought! Help and advice to deal with these issues please!