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gilizzy

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  1. There's this girl I've been seeing at work since Christmas. She's three years older than me, and I'm sixteen. Oh, and I want to start off saying that, yeah, I know I'm just sixteen. I know that I have a lot more to experience, and I have a lot more to learn. So, I don't know what love is. That being said, I started noticing her more often and she always flirted with me whenever I was near her, and she always switched hours with people at work so that she just happened to work EVERY time I did. Of course, I didn't want to get my hopes up so I didn't assume anything. And I'm glad I didn't because she had a boyfriend (that I didn't know about) and he's a good guy. Seriously. But anyway, one day in March she came to me and asked if we could go to Starbuck's before we went to work. So, being friends with her, I didn't think much of it and said sure. But when we got there she said she had feelings for me and that she'd really like to do something more but she wasn't sure if it was right to do that to her boyfriend. I told her to do what she thought was best and that I'd support her, and I also said that I didn't think it was right if she liked him. And she said she didn't feel as strongly for him anymore. After that day, for two weeks she saw me every day, we talked everyday, and let it grow. Then I found out she didn't tell him. I told her she should because that wasn't right and he should know how she was feeling (which he probably noticed she was getting distant, but he still deserved the truth.) So she tells him, and all of a sudden she wasn't sure anymore. She says she loves both of us, and I'm extremely confused because she tells me that when she's with him she's wishing it was me but then she tells someone else that she's not sure of her feelings and that she thinks she likes him better. I know it's not a contest, but come on. That makes me mad; I don't think she should be leading us on and I don't know what to think because when I'm with her I just...... believe her. She makes me SO happy and I think I love her. That's why I said what I said in the first couple of sentences. I don't know what to do. If love is giving yourself to someone, always wanting them to be happy, willing to do anything to make them happy (and I mean ANYTHING; If I had to leave her alone I would), then I love her. I'd sacrifice anything to make her happy. I know I sound naive, but I've thought about it long and hard and I know I mean it. She tells me she loves me. A lot. I'm not sure, but I want her to be happy SO much..... Please help me! I've been trying to find the right thing to do for a while now and I can't do it on my own.... Please. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated, and if you do thank you for your time.
  2. Hey, Cody. I know how you feel; I'm actually in that kind of situation right now. Only I'm one of the two guys. I'll tell you what she did, though. She told both of us that because she was at the point where she was unsure, that neither of us must be the right person. I agree. I know it's hard, especially when you love them SO much, but I believe it's the right thing to do. Also, depending on their reactions, you could gain insight on their personalities, too. And no matter who you're with, one or both of them will be uncomfortable. It's up to them to be able to move on and realize that if they truly love you, then they'll want your happiness. What makes you happy. That's what it's about. And it's ok to feel unsure; it comes with the whole dating thing. You're fine, it's normal, and you'll be ok. You seem like a caring enough person to be able to succeed with whatever makes you happy. Good luck.
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