I'm not sure what you mean by "less reflective of other people." I'm trying to put myself in your shoes. Your personality will change. As you get older you develop, and your personality changes with that development. You won't see it now, but as you get older and look back, you'll see it then. I would need more information on what it is that you want to change or what your desired end result is. You DO need to interact more with women. Just like with anything else, the more practice you get, the better you'll be. It sounds like you may be a little on the shy side. It also sounds like you aren't entirely comfortable with yourself. When you are comfortable with yourself, it will shine through. Girls will pick up on this and be attracted to you. Happines will attract other happy people. Shyness will attract other shy people, etc. Am I making sense to you?