Sweety

Wow I haven't been on Xisto for soo long....awwww and all these messages make me feel like people care for my safety. Thank you guys so much. Replying to DARRAN( the last post): The conversations between him and I have not only been online, but by phone as well. I have talked to his mom, sister, and cousin....hmmmmm he's not a molester, killer, or a rapist....oh so I hope....lol. I also have mailed him letters and just recently a huge package with all sorts of gifts for his 18th B-Day! He got it just in time.....woohoo! I've already applied to a few colleges in the state he lives in and await for the acceptance letters in December and April. I promise I'll be extra careful and think rationally and hopefully I won't let my feelings take over. Once again I appreciate all of your opinions. Please continue writting cause it sure helps to know what others suggest. Love you guys!

In my opinion you should ask someone to be your girlfriend after you know them pretty well. It's not a smart thing to rush the process cause then that relationship most likely won't last too long and might even end off on a bad note. Always take things one step at a time....start off with a friendship.....then let it evolve into something more. Basing your choice on looks is not the ideal thing to do either cause believe me, that's not all that counts. I think that people's charm and personality weighs more than their appearance. This experience served you as a lesson....."never judge a book by it's cover." Goodluck!!!!

The best thing that I can tell you is to MOVE ON and try to look at other girls. Maybe after some weeks or months, when you get over her and fall for someone else, you might want to talk to her about that girl so that she knows that you don't have an interest in her anymore and she doesn't feel as awkward around you. You just like her and it's not something as serious as love, so this will pass soon. Another thing, just tell her that you've felt her acting a bit different lately and if your friendship could go back to normal. It's always better to say things straight up cause it could save some time jezzz.

Hmmm haven't had my first kiss yet, but I wonder when and how it'll be . Knowing me, it'll be with someone I truly love. Where can that guy be right now???

Interesting....it's surprising how accurate it is with the letter S....hmmmm I'm quite impressed I should say!!! LOL these things literally crack me up cause it's mostly based on superstition. Nice post though.

Well I can assume that the girl who was asking people who they went out with, is a big time gossiper. So if this info. gets to your friend's ears act all offended and tell him to not believe in those rumors cause you two are just friends right??....and when you say that look at his reaction. When he comes to you to ask if it's true, notice if he's happy, concerned, confused, mad etc. By the way, is he even going out with someone?? If he doesn't have a girlfriend, why not try to make your friend/crush fall for you!!!

I think that when someone does something, the excuse of being intoxicated by alcohol is not acceptable. Being under the influence of this drug leads many people into doing things that they later regret when they are in their 5 senses. Whatever happens when you're drunk is your full responsibility......it doesn't excuse you from cheating or abusing others. I'm sorry to say this...but don't forgive that person who betrayed your love.

Even though it's going to be hard....just learn how to slowly move on without him. After 2 years of a serious relationship with him you can bet that you'll think about him tons. Try to stay active so that you don't get all depressed with thoughts. And remember that everything happens for a reason. There's someone out there for you that will appreciate the special person that you are. Remain positive and surround yourself with people that love you ok. Best wishes!!!!

I totally understand you jezz!!! I had this HOT teacher in my high school and on top of that he was my religion teacher....lol. Many girls had a crush on him: he had those skyblue eyes, blond hair, tall, built, SMART, smelled so nice and was flexible with school work. Damn it!!! And he was going out with a teacher of mine....meany. But after a while I guess you just learn to not see them in that way anymore. After seeing the teacher you like 5 days a week etc. you unconsciously just look at them differently....not the same as the first few weeks. This will soon pass trust me. Best wishes!!!

AWWWWW!!! That's such a sweet letter to give to someone you love. I give him props cause writting something like this must have taken him a while jezz.When guys write things like these it makes girls feel very special trust me. I can tell many things about people's way of writting...and omg some people just have their way with words.

Sit down and tell her all the things that bother you about her and her actions, even though the truth might really hurt her being honest is always the best way to go....just be tactful when you talk to her ok. Is she a friend you've known for long or just a girl you just met? Are you even slightly interested in her? If not, then tell her and come clean cause if you don't put a stop to this, she might even think that you like to be called all the time and to have her on you 24/7. Goodluck!!!

In my opinion something you definitely shouldn't do is ask her to help you with h.w cause you're taking higher classes than her since you're a junior and she's only a freshman and she might even think that you're dumb....lol....at least I would think that . You might want to start a conversation during lunch about how her days in h.s been going and teachers, then you can go on to ask about her personal interests and if she does anything afterschool. Then you can invite her for a date that involves something fun in which both of you can interact.....Also personally I like when guys write me things, so you may want to try that. Goodluck and remember to just be yourself!!!

Thanks for all of your honest opinions on online relationships. Anyhow I just wanted to add that I never chose to fall in love with a guy on the other side of the U.S.A....jezzz if you guys only knew how hard I tried to prevent this from happening, but I guess you can?t control your feelings right. It?s not like I have no life and the only thing that I do is chat with him. I have a job, I?m in the top 3% of my class, have multiple leadership positions in school clubs, and when I get home I?m all tired and have to do all of my assignments, chores, etc. But I always find some time for him even though my schedule is sooo tight. Believe it or not I?ve thought about everything you guys mentioned above long long ago....I?ve even talked to him about going out with other girls cause there are so many after him but he says he doesn?t want to go out with any other girl because he only has feelings for me. I?ve asked him ?Wouldn?t you like to actually have a girl of flesh and bones with you....one that you can have physical contact with....to hold hands, hug, etc.?? He tells me that he would trade all he had to be with me and that he would prefer to have a girl like me even if she?s thousands of miles and miles away than to be with those he sees daily. Please keep on posting your views on this topic....thanks for your time!!!

If you're asking, it means that you're doubting, and if you're doubting you shouldn't do it. This is something very serious and you should be sure of this step within yourself. You don't need other people to assure you of anything. Be wise because living with regrets is a shadow that you won't stalking you!!! Believe me you don't want to question yourself later on with what if I would've......I should've.....on and on....

Wow, where can I start from??? Please read my case and don?t get intimidated by the size of it ok. Well I met the love of my life?my first love on Sunday, February 12, 2006. I was bored so I decided to go online to research some things. Eventually I ended up at a Spanish chat room out of curiosity cause I had never been to one before. I?m looking at people?s public conversations and when I?m about to leave, bam bam I receive an IM from this guy. He?s from Mexico and had turned 17 in October and I?m from the Dominican Republic and was going to turn 17 in May. We had common goals and morals, same taste in music, and we were both so silly??it was an awesome conversation. I hesitated in giving him my sn when he asked because I never thought we would talk again. The next day I came online and omg he started talking to me. As time passed we became close close friends to the point that he told me about his past relationships and family conflicts in the past. I told him everything about me too?that I had never had a boyfriend because I was afraid to fall in love and about my problems too. We knew each other?s secrets and how we were feeling without even saying it. He would write to me every day, came online to talk when he had time, and actually cared about me. We would always play around and make jokes?.lol?. Then during my Easter vacation in April I was one of the few chosen to go down to New Orleans for volunteer service cause of Katrina. We had to say our good-byes cause we weren?t going to talk for an entire week?.which by the way was a lot of time to us since we practically talked everyday. And I couldn?t say bye to him?.I just couldn?t, but instead said see ya later. I cried and became so so sad, but I didn?t know why I was feeling this way. When I was down there I kept a journal of my experiences and I would write a small part to him every night before I went to sleep. And on one of those nights the girls decided to have a talk about guys?.they went around the circle and then it was finally my turn. I didn?t want to say anything since I?m very reserved with these things but you know how girls are, so I just said a bit about how a great guy he was?caring, honest, gentle, funny, cute, smart, and sensitive?all that I had ever looked for in a guy. But I said it with a smile and I started blushing, that was when they told me that I was deeply in love with him, but I denied it. I went to sleep that night thinking about what they said and came to the conclusion that they were right?.I had fallen in love!!! In my head I couldn?t be in love with him?it wouldn?t be possible?it could never be, but it was a little too late. When I came back home we told each other that we missed one another so very very much. A few weeks later, I went to camp in Connecticut and we had to be far apart again. But before I left to camp I needed to tell him something?that I was in love with him?he knew that I had a crush on a guy but he didn?t know who it was, so I confessed that he was that guy and that it had turned into something more meaningful: LOVE. I really didn?t expect nothing from him, I just wanted to take it all out. He, in my mind, only saw me as a friend. But when I told him everything he told me that he suspected it was him by the way I would talk to him but he never said anything cause he wasn?t sure of it. He told me that he was feeling the same way and was slowly falling in love with me. Now it?s August and our love has grown so so much, but there?s a problem. I live in New York and he lives in California. Time wise we have worked it out even though I am 3 hours ahead of him. When he comes from work I wake up to go online to tell him that I love him, ask him how his day at work went, and to say goodnight?these conversations last quite long and I sometimes feel bad cause he only gets to sleep 4 hours the majority of the time, but he tells me not to worry about the time b/c he loves talking to me. We have such a strong commitment that we promised to not have a relationship with anyone else. We are planning to apply to the same colleges so that we could finally be together, either I go there or he comes here. But we have to wait one more year and my mom doesn?t want me to go that far to college. And on top of that she found out that I?m talking to a guy online and she wants me to end it. But I love him with all my heart and he means everything to me and I can?t just stop talking to him. So I?ve had to continue chatting with him online and by phone behind her back. But just how long can this secret last? I love him and we promised to try and be together and that we would love each other no matter what were to happen. I need urgent advise?some idea on what to do. Thanks for listening to my story!!!