sosleadgtr

Wow, yes, i agree with most of what you just said, all except for the part about having sex before marriage is important. While a lot of what marriage is has to do with being compatible with your partner, and the only way to know whether or not you are compatible is real life situations, I don't think that sexuality is one of the determining factors of a marriage. Now I'm sure that anyone here that is married would agree with me, but marriage isn't always rainbows and butterflies, but takes compromise. Your not always going to agree with your spouse, no matter how compatible you are with them. Whether or not the marriage is going to work depends not on the compatibility of two people through situations including sexuality, but in the willingness of both to compromise and keep eachother's best interests in mind. So in essense, marriage is based on love, but not the warm fuzzy feeling that we have when we look at our significant other. The only kind of love that can make a marriage thrive is not a feeling or an emotion at all, but rather a choice. This love is the kind of choice you make to compromise and to do whatever we can to benefit our life partner, and in those instances where we do not agree with our spouse (definitely putting it very lightly), what a working marriage requires is the kind of love where you chose to support and encourage your spouse regardless. But by no means do any of these qualities of a lasting marriage depend on "exploring your sexuality". And yes, men and woman view marriage and "commitment" differently, but to both parties, marriage is still a choice. Both say the same vows, which state that no matter what happens, they will be bonded for life. All in all, marriage is just one of the steps in life, one of the pit-stops we make along the road where we stop and enjoy the scenery, and leave with an eternal traveling companion. In the same way, sex can only be fully appreciated by two people who have made the choice to stay together for life, no matter what, through Holy Matrimony.