Death In The Family

Yesterday my husband's brother passed away. It was very sudden and we are all pretty much still in shock. He went so fast! Thursday afternoon he thought he just had indegestion so tried to ignore it, but by that evening he felt really bad and was in a lot of pain so asked his wife to take him to the hospital. At first they though it was his heart, but it ended up being his pancreas was severly inflamed. Soon his kidneys stopped working and while they tried dialisis it didn't help, and he started to retain so much fluid his lungs filled and it filled up around his heart. They said he gained 20lbs in one day and they just couldn't get the fluid off. Really sad to go that fast, maybe not for the person, since they don't suffer very long, but it sure is hard on the family without any time to prepare emotionally for the end. Sure reminds a person that they better enjoy the time they have with their loved ones, you never know what's around the bend. My hubby is taking it pretty good, which in some ways worries me. Know he's got to be keeping all that emotion bottled up inside. Which isn't healthy either. And it is his older brother, but only by a few years, so now I'm sure he's thinking about his own mortality too. He now only has one older sibling in his family, all the others are younger than him.

sorry to hear about your husbands brother sheepdog,people grieve in different ways so maybe your husband is griving in his own way,i hope your husband and you and all the family will all be able to grive.thank you for posting this and telling us about about your sad lossgood luck to you and your husband in this sad time.

Sheepdog,The remarks posted above reflect my own thoughts.Your husband will deal with his grief in his own way and time heals most wounds, including emotional ones.All the best to you and yours in this time of need.

Thanks for all the kind words guys. It's hard to think about him being gone. He was quite a charector, always very lively and animated, with hilliarous wild stories to tell. The first few dates me and hubby had were actually spent at his house visiting, drinking beer and just in general having a good time. We shared all the holiday dinners together, at one house or the other, and frequently met up in the big city to have lunch together. I'm sure my hubby will come to terms with it in his own way. He is a smart, stable level headed guy, but it's hard not to worry about him. What's eating at me as much as anything is that it is an unpleasant reminder of the future, as they say, Nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky.

sheepdog as long as you are there for your husband in this sad timehe should be able to grive in his own way and own time,the same goes for my former comment,my heart is with you and your husband and the whole familyin this sad time, xoxoxo

My Condolences to you Sheepdog.

Hi Sheepdog,I am sorry to hear about your and your husband's loss.Death and grief affect people in different ways, just show lots of understanding for your husband, and be strong yourself.I must confess that, having struggled with my health myself for quite some time now, the thought about death has often crossed my mind too, and while I know it all sounds very pessimistic, I feel one can't help but wonder about such things being in a delicate situation, and the same thoughts often touch people affected by a sudden (or even expected) loss.Nevertheless, this is not the time nor the place to go on about my own prblems, and I wish to give you and your husband my sincere condlences.