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one01

I'm 15 Freshman in high school..Girl i want to ask out is a sophmoreShes not in any of my classes and only time i see her when we change class i see her walking outside to the other building. (My highschool is really big there are like 10 different building and 5 old buildings) you have to walk outside from building to building.Well she walks with her friends alot and i don't know her name. i don't look at her friends i only look at her.What should i do? i can't be late to class we have 5 mins to get to class. my teacher let us out a min late. 1 min late+ 2mins to go upstairs to my locker than i have like 2 mins to get to the other building. I don't have time talk to her. things to remember1) im grounded so i can't touch the phone..2) im not going to take her to eat out or anything.3) im only 15 and i dont have a car 4) i cant go to the movies or other places to take someone out for a datei dont want to go up to her while shes walking with other people. She always is and i never had time to see her alone to talk to her.Also im shy so what should the first step be? Say hey? what if she dont answer back :D Also this would be my first gf ever. i never had one beforeHelp


Echo_of_thunder

things to remember1) im grounded so i can't touch the phone..
2) im not going to take her to eat out or anything.
3) im only 15 and i dont have a car
4) i cant go to the movies or other places to take someone out for a date


Been there myself my young man. with these 4 things you have a big problem. I take it your not grounded from the computer. If she has one try talking to here on the net. dont blow your cool or anything be a gentlemen and get to know her. then depending on how long you are grounded ask if she would do something together. you said you cant go to the movies or other places though. that kind of worries me. sounds like you dont wanna be seen with her or something. May wanna reply back and tell why you can't that would be a lot of help. But in any case if you wanna date this girl your gonna have to go out sometime.

Pankyy

I kinda agree with Echo, why do you say you can't do any of those things? A car isn't needed to get a girl, cmon, let's get real, you won't get a girl by having one, and if you only do because of that then you would have to dump her, but that's is another topic-Mhh, this is somehow hard dude, don't you know someone that knows her? You might be able to get to know her that way, else, it's going to be hard. If you come to her and just say 'hi' out of nowhere, she might feel uncomfortable; if you are shy, I guess you would also feel the same way. So, again, the only way to go is to, either, enter part of her activities, thus getting to know her more or getting someone that knows her and/or her email, so you can get her on chat as Echo says.Picking someone that you don't even know for talk is something strange, it hardly ever happened to me: if you're not in correct circumstances she might pass from you.


one01

Well i listed i dont have a car because someone might say take her out to eat. i can't do that without a car

 

Also its going to be hard to talk to her

 

also football(American Football) sign up is 2mrrow! im signing up i heard you can get alot of attention. we also get to wear jerseys when we have a game so more people will be looking at me :D

 

umm why can't i go up to her and say hey?


Pankyy

Does that draws her attention? A girl may get impressed when she sees someone that plays good football, but she needs to, at least, show some interest. If you have seen her put some attention on football then that might help (also, you need to know how to play, :D)Why can't you take her to eat without a car?? May I ask where do you live? Is it mandatory to have a car to take someone somewhere?And I don't say you can't go to her and say hey, but I think you would have to pick up a good situation to make it good. Did you think what are you going to say after saying 'hi'? You need a situation to say, hi, ask her name and then talk about something and make friends. Once you naturally start talking to her, everything will be easier.


one01

Does that draws her attention? A girl may get impressed when she sees someone that plays good football, but she needs to, at least, show some interest. If you have seen her put some attention on football then that might help (also, you need to know how to play, :D )
Why can't you take her to eat without a car?? May I ask where do you live? Is it mandatory to have a car to take someone somewhere?

And I don't say you can't go to her and say hey, but I think you would have to pick up a good situation to make it good. Did you think what are you going to say after saying 'hi'? You need a situation to say, hi, ask her name and then talk about something and make friends. Once you naturally start talking to her, everything will be easier.

Yup, I'm good at football my fav sport and watch it everyday

I don't like walking at all specially these days to cold... maybe i can ask her to come to my football games? is that good? i live in Greensboro, North Carolina. Boring place :P

Also i want to say "Hey" and wave at her the first time and next day I'll probably do it again and than next day i want to see if she will say it to me :D Right after that i'll ask her name.

is this good?

Pankyy

I think she will wonder if she has ever known you (I would do that myself). If you really feel like doing that, you can try. But again, she might feel uncomfortable, since she doesn't know you, you can expect any output. Asking her to watch your football game is maybe something too rushed, if it means the first conversation with her.I'll give you an example of something similar (well not, but practically same situation). Instead of going to classes I was going to sit down over there to verificate votes from people to the students council group that was going to get chosen. I didn't want myself, but since a friend asked me to do it and I could skip classes that I hated, I went to sit down over one of those tables where it was going to be done. There was a girl from other group I said 'hi' and she didn't answer back LOL, she seemed bored and lonely. Since she didn't care, I really didn't care either, I didn't even know her, was just trying to start a conversation (maybe she didn't know that I was sitting there to do that duty), but well. Then another guy came and then I talked a bit, but I had to go then. You have to keep in mind that there are people and people. It's difficult to know what her output is going to be.


one01

I was going to ask what lunch she have(In my highschool we have 4 lunch periods 1st,2nd,3rd,4thI would maybe skip a class and go to the one she hasbecause when i see her its in the end of the day and i go straight to GYM for practice can't be late or i will get in trouble by coach and than i can't play football.also i get the point now that she don't feel conformable if i say hey to her and i don't know her lol


Pankyy

Yep, her feeling uncomfortable wouldn't help at all. I don't get how your school works. You can go to other classes? I live in a different country, I can't really understand how that works. You can pick any other class instead of yours? By any chance do you have any person that could get email info or something like that? "You know this person?" and then, get a friend of a friend that knows her.


one01

Yep, her feeling uncomfortable wouldn't help at all. I don't get how your school works. You can go to other classes? I live in a different country, I can't really understand how that works. You can pick any other class instead of yours?

By any chance do you have any person that could get email info or something like that? "You know this person?" and then, get a friend of a friend that knows her.


Our school has 8000 students

1st lunch
2nd lunch
3rd lunch
4th lunch (Thats me)

everyone has a different lunch time depends on what class they have
i just have to find out when is her lunch period and go there. i have to skip my class to go to other lunch period

anheizhiye

Oh,It's a big problem.I think you should borrow a car,and then you could do many thing,hehe:)If you could not borrow one,i suggest you could using bicycle!Sometimes it's romantic!good luck to you!and wish you could get your first girl friend !


Pankyy

Oh,It's a big problem.I think you should borrow a car,and then you could do many thing,hehe:)If you could not borrow one,i suggest you could using bicycle!Sometimes it's romantic!

good luck to you!and wish you could get your first girl friend !


A car isn't necessary- for the record. Whatever you're going to choose to do, just think what you're going to do and have faith in it. You're the one that ultimately takes the decision. We can just give you advices through the computers. Just come back and tell us whatever happened, huh! :D

buxgoddess

Boy, i envy the girl next building you are so eager to meet and talk. I only wish you have your first encounter and survive the shock to tell us your story. The only fate I think is disaster and depression. You are 15 and at 15 you have nothing of your own other than your adrenaline rush. And as you said no phone no car no movie not even alone. What you expect a fairy from your dreams to come out in your school or after school and pick both of you to a far far adventure of your lifetime and you two fall (fall badly hurt) in love with each other and live happily ever after (dream over in 20 minutes, time for tutions again, boy).Anyways an infatuation is a good thing as it makes one more mature and brings more meaning to ones life. We are not just animals that any partner or any number of partners is just ok with us, we need someone we can die for. And to say die for does not literally mean so but the desire to do anything and everything is a great feeling one can always feel great about.LOVE - one said is "Loss Of Vital Energy" and is, and actually can leave one insane and hopeless and suicidal. The same story repeats in every men and lesser women, who cannot control their feelings and character, end up in stories of frustration and lust.Scientists to psychologists to guardians failed to stop the adversities of LOVE and have no clues even when they were themselves tortured by this mental disease.


one01

omfg!

 

We had a football interest meeting today as it was over at 4:30pm i saw the girl walking to the front building for her ride. I think she has a after-school activity!

 

By the time i saw her she was getting inside the car bs

 

I'm going to talk to her on Monday if i see her. Forget if i don't go out with her before Valentines Day.

 

Things I'm going to say: Hey. What grade are you in?

 

When she answers i want to be able to say something else. i don't want to start off saying do you want to hang out sometime. I want to say that when i get to know her good.

What should i say? should i say like your hair? help

 

Finally shes all by herself! Good time to talk! never thought this will happen until i notice her she has a after-school activity right after my football meeting

 

add my msn if you want to talk to me and help me out please

Tar_heels54@hotmail.com


Pankyy

The only advice I can give you based on what you told me is (if you are really seeking this girl as it seems) check to which after-school activity she goes, and try to go to it too- I honestly don't understand how your school works, but I think you can do that based on what I read. I don't see the rush about doing this before the Valentines day? I mean it's tomorrow, right? , and you still don't even know her name, I think you should slow down a little. Also I don't understand why it would have to be before; is something going to happen that we don't know?That's only thing I can suggest, try to enter into her things, better if her class, and then you would be able to start a normal conversation; better go slowly than doing it rushed. You are thinking about her, but maybe (probably) she even never noticed you.


africa

Hey you know what...be a man and just got talk to her! She'll respond nicely if you do it proper!Just say a simple hi and probably tell her that you see here everyday just walking around with her friends and wondered what they are always up to..or send a hi to her...just target one of her friends.Now when you get your swagger on the field, she'll forced to check you out because her friends will be like thats the dude who said hi! It puts you on top especially if you do well in football.The one thing you want is to get her attention and start checking you out so you have to appear like you are not that interested in her. Just talk to her and get to her heart by concealing your intentions at first!Get her phone number so you can talk, and ask for her msn...Just don't be a prick..girls want a dude who they know we'll take care of em and who is liked by other chicks. Football will get you other chicks taking a second glance at you so you're covered here i suppose. Lastly don't be too Mr Nice Guy. You play football so you already have it in your blood!Good Luck! :D


one01

The only advice I can give you based on what you told me is (if you are really seeking this girl as it seems) check to which after-school activity she goes, and try to go to it too- I honestly don't understand how your school works, but I think you can do that based on what I read.
I don't see the rush about doing this before the Valentines day? I mean it's tomorrow, right? , and you still don't even know her name, I think you should slow down a little. Also I don't understand why it would have to be before; is something going to happen that we don't know?

That's only thing I can suggest, try to enter into her things, better if her class, and then you would be able to start a normal conversation; better go slowly than doing it rushed. You are thinking about her, but maybe (probably) she even never noticed you.

I'm going to take my time. i will will slow down :D

Afterschool i will meet her in front of the building and try to talk to her

How do i know if she has a bf already? i never see her hang out with a guy. help